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4.7,too young for tea and a play?

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motherbeyond · 14/10/2010 19:47

aibu,or is dh? dd has just started school and this pm one of her classmates asked if she could go to his house for tea and a play next week. i said yes,but have just told dh and he says no way,that she's too young.
i have never met his dad but have gotquite friendly with his mum as she walks halfway home with me if i see her that am/pm(same village)
what says the mn jury?

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motherbeyond · 17/10/2010 11:04

that's some age spectrun you've got going on coolma!

right,i can't really go to the house for the 1stplay,coz would have to bring ALL the kids,and thats not really on is it?!
i will do the tea out thing as she seems ok with that...

(there were some things about the mum that had made me go Hmm and be a bit judgy,but i darn't tell you what they are!!Wink)

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choufleur · 17/10/2010 11:07

Oh go on, do tell.

HappyMummyOfOne · 17/10/2010 11:15

My DS is older than reception age but I still wouldnt let him go to a house where I had not been or didnt know the parents.

I usually host though as makes it easier and I love having extra children over.

piscesmoon · 17/10/2010 11:52

Just as well then that other parents are not as controlling HappyMummyOfOne or you would have no guests! Grin

anniebear · 17/10/2010 12:30

As long as you feel happy and feel you know the other Mum well enough.

I waited a bit before we statred with the tea invites just till I knew the other parents

coolma · 17/10/2010 14:01

Indeed Motherbeyond. I don;t really know quite what happened there.... {grin}

allhallowsandwine · 17/10/2010 20:44

do tell us what those things are?

ArmyBarmyMummy · 17/10/2010 20:50

agree with most MNers. fine. ur instinct was to say fine and that's usually a good yardstick in my book

castleonthehill · 17/10/2010 21:26

I would let her go. These our the friends she may go to senior school with one day so it good to get to know as many people in the area as possible. You wont become best buddies with all of them but you will learn witch children you don't want her mixing with as she gets older.

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motherbeyond · 18/10/2010 14:36

nope, allhallowsandwine..i'd be flamed for sure!

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allhallowsandwine · 18/10/2010 21:03

Grin act on your instinct what ever it may be.

Tori27 · 18/10/2010 21:07

If DC isn't allowed to go, the kids in the class will all find out and DC won't be invited in the future. Use your instinct - they probably aren't murderers as they have not had their child taken from them.

DH needs to let go a bit.

Clary · 18/10/2010 21:56

Hah! the scissors ref is because a pal of Ds2's came to play once (the pal is an only while Ds2 is slackly-parented Number 3) and I handed them the kitchen scissors to do some cutting.

Pal exclaimed "ohhh, XXX has the BIG scissors to cut with!"

Clary · 18/10/2010 21:56

Meant to say that the boys were about 4 or 5 at the time Grin Blush

rockinhippy · 18/10/2010 22:02

DD started this at her Nursery, age 3, so its perfectly normal & its your DH thats not Grin that said, my DH was just as bloody ridiculous overly protective, but soon came round when he realised that other parents are usually not mass murdering paedos pretty normal too

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motherbeyond · 19/10/2010 18:28

tori,Grin...i don't reckon they'd tell anyone if they were murderers,so chances are the social services won't have cottoned on!

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verytellytubby · 19/10/2010 18:55

Mine have been going since the age of 3. I've always been so relieved that anyone would take my twin boys on Grin.

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