To have judged about half of my daughters class

[fernie3]

Or their parents that is. They are 6 and they came home with a letter saying could we cut the labels off foods so that the children wouod make a map of where the food they eat came from....with the implication being that they needed to bring a little bunch each as they were going to have their own maps.

So i spent a week peeling labels off things which looked interesting for her to take, she came home that day and she had only had one label to stick on her map because the teacher had had to share her labels out to people that didn't bring any - so that means at least 10 children hadn't brought any at all.

Now I know it's stupid and petty and maybe i just have label rage from spending so long trying to peel labels off jars without ripping them or making the writing hard to read but it's not that hard is it just cut out a label or two and drop it in the book bag...

The teacher couldn't have done the original plan without the labels and the children get the message that it's optional to do these things.

AIBU to feel a bit judgey?

To whoever said you could at least have sent in the labels off the sugar, milk tea.

Err, actually none of those have labels on. Besides my sugar (I buy one bag approx every 6 months) is poured straight into a cannister. Ditto the tea The milk comes in a tetra pack from the farm shop, no label and am not decanting my milk just to cut a box up!

It is really only tins that have labels and a lot of people don;t eat tins. We eat mostly frozen and fresh stuff.

boo -- you live in a utopia

as things are, in some areas it's deadly to rely on parental involvement

no point in saying should and ought -- that's not the way it is

you have to work with realities

appletrees if you have read any of my recent threads you will see that my life is far from a utopia.

i agree, you cannot depend on should and ought but OP is not BU to judge those that didn't IMO.

boo i haven't and I'm sorry to hear you're having a hard time

but I judge the teacher and the curriculum more, every time

some families are caught in a cycle and it's only education that can drag the children out so what do we do? we rely on the parents to help the parents who were probably let down themselves

so they're feckless and useless whatever but better to turn attention to the child and use the energy there rather than in judging and moaning about what is not and what will never be, unless you focus on the next generation without relying on the parents

Wow Discountents! Would you like some salt for that chip on your shoulder?That's the problem with some posters can't say anything constructive so they fuck everyone else off.Appletrees, I see what you mean re homework too early and although I have always been supportive with my daughters homework from an early age she still doesn't want to do it now.I suppose I am just shit and I should go and knot my noose.

i agree with you that this teacher should ahve ahd a back up. i totally agree, tehre will always be parents that don't egt involved/don't remember/are having problems etc. but that doesn't mean the school/whoever should stop trying to get parents involved. yes educating teh children without depending on teh parents is vital especially if its to break such a cycle, but even better if even 5% of those feckless parents do suddenly decide to 'cave' under the pressure from teh school and start finding out what is going on in their dcs lives.

IME, when a parent is involved in homework, tehy are far more likely to be involved in all other aspects of tehir dcs lives, which is important especially at primary age. if parents just don't bother (not talking about teh parents who are having trouble getting involved) with homeowrk, it is usually a sign that they are less than involved with most other aspects of the child's life.

No you aren't crap and neither am I. It's burn out. For some children the system is wrong.

I totally agree,Appletrees.Yes, it is great for parents to be involved in their children's education,but schools should be educating all children,and in school at least what you are learning shouldn't be dependant on what your parents are like.

boo @ 12.25 - spot on.

I'm a bit at some of the messages on here. I'd just assumed that education would be the top priority for most parents. Weird...

Crazy assumption!

You shouldn't dismiss what winter says. That's the problem. You cannot pretend that life is not so unbelievably tough for some families that it's not just a question of effort and interest when it comes to their children's education. And if it IS a failure of effort and interest, what led to that? A failure of their own education, undoubtedly. So, do we want to continue that cycle? Or not. I say not.

I always forget to do stuff like that

We manage the homework, the reading etc but these little extras are often ignored. Sorry about that

Wow dexifeigat talk about bitchy let's see labels of jars or fitting in physio,ot salt

Funny homework gcse and fitting I. With rest of class not something I worry about for ds3 .Learning to wipe his own arse ,learning to hold a pen maybe oh ANC learning to use a fork feature higher on my list

A friend is the Chair of Governors at his children's school, which recently had a very important whole-school celebration. Friend tried to get volunteers to help him on various days. How many people do you think stepped forwards, bearing in the mind the school has over 400 pupils (primary), therefore allowing for siblings and single parents, probably around 500-600 parents potential volunteers. Go on, guess....

5

nope.

bend you are on a phone i think

less???

yep

how appalling

that is awful. i was guessing really low. i thought there might have been about 10.

And he's really nice dynamic chap, not some crunchy repellent old fossil.

3 + him

2

It's no surprise. Our school has 200 pupils and there are only 6 of us on the PTA