To have judged about half of my daughters class

[fernie3]

Or their parents that is. They are 6 and they came home with a letter saying could we cut the labels off foods so that the children wouod make a map of where the food they eat came from....with the implication being that they needed to bring a little bunch each as they were going to have their own maps.

So i spent a week peeling labels off things which looked interesting for her to take, she came home that day and she had only had one label to stick on her map because the teacher had had to share her labels out to people that didn't bring any - so that means at least 10 children hadn't brought any at all.

Now I know it's stupid and petty and maybe i just have label rage from spending so long trying to peel labels off jars without ripping them or making the writing hard to read but it's not that hard is it just cut out a label or two and drop it in the book bag...

The teacher couldn't have done the original plan without the labels and the children get the message that it's optional to do these things.

AIBU to feel a bit judgey?

Well that's you Litchick. Time is not just the issue as you'd would know if you'd read properly.

You can be as hard on yourself as you like Litchick. Brian -- no, you were patronising and unpleasant and you were called on it.

aren't you the poster who said it was dismissive to say 'yadda yadda yadda'?

anyway, look regardless of who does the domestic work. this is not about women not being allowed free time. this is about parents being involved in their dcs homework. the teachers do not sit and think of ways to opress the female parents of their pupils. you bringing 'women' into it is silly because it isn't anything to do with that.

Appletrees - you're welcome to your opinion, mine is that you're a smug twat who needs to shout and bully people on an internet forum to feel better about themselves.

Why do you care so much about this?

Anyway, I accept your apology

cocky agressive or unhappy agressive. neither is necessary.

I like Winter. She doesn't beat around the bush. Much better than passive aggression IMO.

I have to go to parent's evening now. Feel free to 'call me on it' while I'm out

Yes it was being used pointedly boo? Suppose it just struck me earlier when winter said "i'm a shit mum"
Maybe I read it wrong but I just thought, that's not right. That someone feels she is a shit mother becAuse of stupid label peeling and then she was piled on. You cqn tell when someone's just being a bitch to make someone feel bad (ibid Brian) but I didn't think she was and she's not here to defend herself.

lmao at "a label not your fucking kidney"

but I agree with activate

yeah appletrees i'm a bitch, because you know me so well don't you

I haven't read the whole thread, but in answer to the OP, I think the teacher should not really have based a whole activity on parents' goodwill as parents DO FORGET and that's just life and there is no point in being judgey as it will happen - and it might happen to you one day.

There are so many reasons why one forgets:

• a parent could have been sick that week and all routine out of the window
• could have been away for work (I know when my DH is away and I have 4 kids to look after, it's hell)
• the child could have mislaid the letter - or they might have simply forgot the day to bring things in (so had the labels but forgot them on their kitchentops that morning)
• simply completely forgotten (and for me the more children I've had, the more things I seem to forget - shame on me! But I do try very hard not to!!)

I doubt many could simply not be bothered, but I might be wrong.

Normally we get letters saying "it would be nice if parents could send in x y and z" but an activity is never dependent on it.

Hope this helps to understand a bit :o)

That's awful, I used to never use that wprd and this is the second time on mn
You weren't being nice but I shouldn't ever use that word, sorry to all offended by it

There's a tipping point somewhere at which parents begin to resist a teacher who piles on the work for them or where they perceive they are up to their tonsils and the teacher's request is the straw that broke the camel's back. I often feel really put-upon in the run-up to Christmas or right at the start of the school year because there are just so many things the school asks parents to do at those times, and I honestly feel a bit like marching in there and saying 'ENOUGH'.

My approach to homework is that it's the business of the child to get it done. I'm a bit like Georgie's mother wrt the scare tactics and leaving them to it. I remind them to do it, but after that, it's up to them to get it finished, and I never write notes excusing homework not done. I do my best with items requested, and have learned over the years to keep a small stash of things that can be predictably needed. But in the beginning while I was learning the ropes with DD1, and dealing with her several younger siblings and many a stressful incident with exH, it wasn't easy and I resented having extra things to take care of beyond a certain point.

Ah! More proof of my theory that anyone who says 'end of' is an idiot. Fantastic!

who said 'end of'?

math - I agree with your post to a certain extent, I think that what had riled people earlier was those saying that they wouldn't be doing it full stop, and giving any real reason.

And 'categorical assertion' is not really correct when I actually said 'I think'.

oooh - the wife's there. What will she do??

f**k - wrong thread!

I don't need your fucking help anyway, Armchair Psychiatrist.

nope - not armchair psychiatrist, just think that someone that swears / is so aggressive all the time is obviously unhappy.

If you're happy and are always like that then I apologise.

Winter did you say that you are doing a PHD? What on earth about?

Appletrees why should Winter feel like a shit parent because of peeling labels the incident regarding the labels was the OP's and nothing to do with Winter but she seems hellbent on making this thread personal for God knows what reason.

[Notes MNers are as unsisterly as ever under the masquerade of supporting one another]

[Speculates that men never do this to each other]

I'm not the one making the thread personal, that would be the 5 other posters talking about me for some odd reason.

georgimama, men do indeed. mt ex is navy, they used to (and probably still do) have some really horrible rows. really nasty things are said to each other.