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AIBU?

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To have judged about half of my daughters class

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fernie3 · 11/10/2010 22:10

Or their parents that is. They are 6 and they came home with a letter saying could we cut the labels off foods so that the children wouod make a map of where the food they eat came from....with the implication being that they needed to bring a little bunch each as they were going to have their own maps.

So i spent a week peeling labels off things which looked interesting for her to take, she came home that day and she had only had one label to stick on her map because the teacher had had to share her labels out to people that didn't bring any - so that means at least 10 children hadn't brought any at all.

Now I know it's stupid and petty and maybe i just have label rage from spending so long trying to peel labels off jars without ripping them or making the writing hard to read but it's not that hard is it just cut out a label or two and drop it in the book bag...

The teacher couldn't have done the original plan without the labels and the children get the message that it's optional to do these things.

AIBU to feel a bit judgey?

OP posts:

TheFallenMadonna · 11/10/2010 22:12

Bet it was DD and she never brought the letter home.

pinkyp · 11/10/2010 22:14

nope ur not bu at all! its a shame some parents forget / cant be bothered. Some will of had a good reason but surely not as many as 10!

Greythorne · 11/10/2010 22:15

Get a grip. This is not important.

YABU.

Goblinchild · 11/10/2010 22:15

I think you are lovely not to blame the teacher for using stuff you sent in for your daughter.
You are right, a lot of parents and children are just not bothered and yet would whine if your girl had a lovely map and their child had nuffink.

thedollshouse · 11/10/2010 22:16

YANBU but I seem to forget things like that lately.

2shoes · 11/10/2010 22:16

yabu
some parents don't have time for this silly stuff

Goblinchild · 11/10/2010 22:16

Yes it is important, or are you saying that an understanding of Geography is a waste of time?

sundew · 11/10/2010 22:17

Hi OP I think you and pinky are both BU. Sometimes parents forget - and if either of my dds have to take things in on a Monday we nearly always forget.

It must be great to be so organised that you always remember and have time to criticise other parents for not being as perfect as yourselves.

TethHearseEnd · 11/10/2010 22:17

The teacher was incredibly naive to base a whole activity on parents' goodwill.

What would have happened if your DD hadn't brought any labels?

sundew · 11/10/2010 22:17

Hi OP I think you and pinky are both BU. Sometimes parents forget - and if either of my dds have to take things in on a Monday we nearly always forget.

It must be great to be so organised that you always remember and have time to criticise other parents for not being as perfect as yourselves.

littlebylittle · 11/10/2010 22:17

I don't want to teacher bash, but if that had been my class I would also have spent all week peeling off labels from my own food and making a photocopied sheet of them so that the inevitable some or most who didn't do it (or whose labels were very limited) would have had something to do. At very least I'd have made the deadline for bringing them in the day before the lesson so I could check. It's a dangerous game basing a lesson on things that children bring in with no back up plan. However I learnt the hard way so perhaps she/he will not repeat the mistake.

Theincrediblesulk1 · 11/10/2010 22:19

my son always eats the letters (yes eats them!) that are sent home, but i still manage to do things like this for his schooling

yanbu

5DollarShake · 11/10/2010 22:20

"Silly stuff"...? Wow - the mind boggles.

OP - YANBU in the slightest.

pinkyp · 11/10/2010 22:21

i'm not perfect,never said i was thats ur judgement, but i do make the effort for my ds, we always get handed the letters so if a letter wasnt recieved then fair enough (like i said some have a genuine reason) but yeh i think its a shame when parents cant be bothered with something as simple as peeling a label!

Goblinchild · 11/10/2010 22:22

Parents often dislike homework that involves them.
Yes, I have been that loon with a pantry full of tins labelled in marker and no labels.
Likewise for carrier bags, and any resource that could be easily provided for one child by an involved parent I end up providing for 30.
Easier than listening to all the excuses as well.

mnistooaddictive · 11/10/2010 22:22

It's homework for the parent not the child that is often the subject of debate! Teacher should have had back up plan.

MollieO · 11/10/2010 22:22

What if the food you eat doesn't have labels?

Goblinchild · 11/10/2010 22:23

She will have next time. Until she is as old and jaded and weary as I am and stops asking altogether.
So, NQT or not OP?

littlebylittle · 11/10/2010 22:24

And also, I used to do it because if it is actually anyone's "fault" at all, it's not, at six, the child's fault that they haven't got labels to stick on so why should they be put on the spot.

pinkyp · 11/10/2010 22:24

if ur food doesnt have labels then you cant send them in can you, not hard to figure out is it.

Theincrediblesulk1 · 11/10/2010 22:25

agree the teacher should have collected a load herself to make sure everyone had enough!

TheFallenMadonna · 11/10/2010 22:25

I can't so things like that for her schooling if I don't know I have to do them. And I can't be handed the letter because my DC go to after school club. I so wish they would email!

LoopyLoops · 11/10/2010 22:26

littlebylittle - as a teacher, that's exactly what I was thinking.

Or, got the class amount together, put it on sheet and photocopied for everyone (with teachers added too). Naive for teacher to think it would work tbh.

littlebylittle · 11/10/2010 22:26

By the way, it was a lovely activity to do. Have logged it for if and when I need it.

booooooooooyhoo · 11/10/2010 22:26

yanbu

how do parents expect their dcs to take an interest in school when their parents show no enthusiasm as the example?

sorry but children learn their attitudes from their parents and if a parent or parents teach the child that their school work is not a priority to them (the parent) tehn teh child believes it isn't a priority for tehm either. not a good message tosend your children.

and i disagree that this is silly. where our food comes from is a great lesson to learn, the teacher is doing it in a fun way that gets the children and hopefully their families involved in thinking about it. it is also an introduction to geography and group work.

the children in this class, however, have learned that it is ok if they don't want to do their share of the work as someone else will have done enough to cover their asses.

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