that some brides should not choose strapless dresses.....

[PosieParker]

Just saw another collection of pictures with a bride getting married in a dress where humongous breasts are nearly falling out and arms are huge. Now I've seen a few curvy girls look lovely like this and so it's not a size thing, but more of a suitability thing. I am not large but my arms are not small and so I wouldn't wear this. Why do some folk not know their own shape?

YANBU. I am getting married in June, and luckily have found my strapped dress already!

However, I am getting it from an online designer (who I am visiting for a fitting in a couple of weeks) and there are 3 dresses that are not strapless - and about 40 that are.

I had sleeves on my dress which looked lovely, but the evening before the wedding my grandmother decided to "look" at the dress and somehow ripped one of the sleeves - the only thing we could do was removed the it was destroyed i have no idea to this day how!.
I think i looked "ok" but it looked like a strapless dress obviously which is what i hd tried to avoid. luckily i was never princessy abotu the dress but it would have looked alot better with the sleeve still attached. Lets say in the picture i have shoulder fat and leave it at that.

Thought I recognised this thread-it´s from Oct 2010!

THIS THREAD IS MORE THAN A YEAR OLD!

And breathe.

YABU. You sound a bit snobby it's up to the individual and I don't see a problem with strapless dresses in churches.

I wouldn't personally choose a strapless dress as I don't like my arms, even at size 8 I felt they were big. I had to wear a strapless dress when I was a bridesmaid, I would rather have worn something else but the bride loved strapless dresses.

amandine07 ~ and you bumped this old thread because.....?

I was having an in-depth, heated discussion with a good friend who is getting married & currently trying to decide on a style of wedding dress...she has an irrational hatred of strapless dresses...decided to look on here if there were any debates re these types of dresses et voila.

Does it matter that it's an old thread? I didn't see the original date anyway before I posted. We were debating this very subject yesterday...so, er, it's relevant to me in my little world

TBH, I think that most women who think that they are the exception that suits strapless are mistaken.

Unless you are very narrow, I think that they make you look very broad shouldered & if not very slim, there is almost always "back fat".

I don´t think that a hatred of strapless dresses is irrational as there are very few people who can wear them-and look good.

I have been to one wedding where the bride looked stunning wearing a strapless dress.

As a bra fitter, I cannot wait for the strapless wedding/evening dress fashion to subside. When someone whips out their J/K cups and says 'I need a strapless bra for my fitting tomorrow I could scream. Manufacturers have just about managed to get some that work up to a H and even then it doesn't work for everyone.
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Yes, YABU.

Don't like strapless dresses? Don't wear them.

It's not appropriate to police other women's clothing. It's downright rude in fact.

It is true that it is quite hard (even now, over a year later since this thread was started) to find non-strapless dresses. I run a bridal dress business from home and my most-purchased style has short sleeves. I get the most enquiries from brides looking for a dress with sleeves and hardly anyone even tries on the strapless styles to be honest (I only sell 4 strapless styles, as compared with 12 that have straps/sleeves). Someone, somewhere is missing a trick - but I'm not complaining!

Can't stand strapless dresses. They are so boring.

Strapless dresses are always wrong on everybody.

i would have dearly loved to have a non-strapless wedding dress but when I married, they were as rare as hen's teeth, and I couldn't afford anything but an off-the-rack frock sadly. I looked dreadful in mine, if i'm honest.

Strapless dresses are almost universally unflattering, make underwear choice difficult, and usually fit terribly even when they're custom-made. I can't understand the appeal at all.

To each their own, etc., obviously. But they so often look awful, it's a shame they're so ubiquitous in bridal shops.

I have the misfortune of having a very bony chest, but big fat arms - so I look really odd in strapless. It is not a good look on me. I had my dress made in the end, it was so hard to find what I wanted (boat neck and cap sleeves).

Yes, this is an old thread but...

YANBU. Strapless dresses of any variety only look good on a small minority of women. When SIL was getting married I had a chat with the owner of the bridal salon her dress was from, who said that she despaired of women who insisted on buying dresses that didn't suit them, just because they were in a magazine or some such.

I wore a sleeveless dress with a bolero.

YANBU. It would take an uber slim figure to carry off a dress like that. Remember the trend of muffin tops: great big fat stomach spilling over a tight pair of jeans. Not giving a fuck what you look like in an item of clothing seems to have extended to weddings too

I for one don't have the body for it. My arms aren't toned enough and my breasts are largish: E cup so I'd look terrible in it.

However that's all that seems available these days. There are options though, I would wear a bolero with it to cover myself.

I didn't want a strapless dress purely because everyone else wears them and I was so bored with the look. I didn't want to look like everyone else. It was really hard to find one, but I succeeded in the end and found a v- neck sleeveless dress. It was the one that suited me best. Most women suit a v neck best I think. Of course you should be able to wear what you want but surely you should also wear what suits you?

YANBU. I can't abide strapless wedding dresses. I think they can be quite inappropriate too in a religious setting.
Obviously, you can wear whatever you like to get married but people will comment on it, especially if you look like you've been upholstered.

I'm hoping the lovely lace dress worn by the Duchess of Cambridge starts a new trend for covering up arms/boobs

Also, it isn't just the vows bit you have to think about. What about the meal afterwards?

Those strapless wedding dresses are very boring when you're sat behind a table. It looks as though you're wrapped in a bath towel. Pretty sleeves or a bolerao looks so much nicer when you're sitting at a table.

I totally agree about strapless dresses - they suit so few people yet every bride insists on wearing one When I got married 14 years ago, strapless dresses weren't fashionable so found a dress with sleeves fairly easily.

However, I know it is not a wedding dress but it is of a similar nature (top half anyway) - but I saw this photo earlier today and realised that even if you have very toned arms and are slim, strapless dresses still don't necessarily look right