to wonder why more couples wtih children dont "share" lie-ins on the weekend?

[TattyDevine]

Okay so obviously some people work on the weekend or have sports things etc but those potential hurdles aside, I'm amazed that so many couples with children dont have a scenario where one person gets to lie-in on a Saturday, and then the other half of the couple gets to lie in on a Sunday.

You see so many disgruntled-wife (usually anyway) scenarios on this board on the weekend about lazy good for nothing DH's who lie in till the afternoon and how unfair it is etc etc but really, it seems so simple to me - there are 2 people in a couple and 2 lie-ins up for grabs on the weekend.

Breastfeeding, work, sports team type stuff aside, why dont more couples pull together and give each other the opportunity to catch up on any sleep defecit once a week? Even if its just till 9am or something - AIBU to think there should be a pre-drafted contract that comes with your child benefit claim form for you to sign and get witnessed that guarantees you do this one thing for each other?! If you dont share lie-ins, why not? What's his/her excuse?

Ah, lie-ins... I remember those.

DH is virtually impossible to wake. Partly because he's workaholic and doesn't get enough sleep. Partly that's just the way he is, I think. Before we married, he had a radio alarm - I remember walking into his flat one morning and the radio had been blaring full volume for 40 minutes; DH was sleeping peacefully.

So since I do hear the children in the morning and he doesn't, I get up.

Just wish I could get the self-control to go to bed earlier...

Lostinafrica - my DH can sleep on a spike. But I find a sharp nudge in the ribs helps him wake up when it's his turn to get up with the children.

thats why i got the tele in the bedroom, chuck disney channel on and wake up in my own time

Nope this doesn't work for us because DH works two out of four weekends each month so it wouldn't be happening. He is often on days off during the week which is actually more of a help to me because he does the nursery run 3 out of 5 days which is fab for me, means I get to spend more time with DS2 without rushing around all afternoon.:)

Not everyone works Monday to Friday you know!

My DH works most weekends but when he's off we both get up together. As another poster said, we aren't bothered about lie-INS.A waste of life , IMO.

This was a huge bone of contention for us! My DP was basically a lazy git.

I just love my wee saturday morning in bed with breakfast& the paper and of course I return the favour on sundays,... mostly

We always used to take it in turns to get up with the kids at weekends when they were small. We now take it in turns to get up and let the dogs out and make a cuppa. Then we both have a bit of a lie in and drink our tea.

I like to think I invented the term competitive tiredness

We can't do this, most weeks dh is working 6 days so on his only day off he gets a lie in, or if he is off for the whole weekend I get up with the girls as he needs more sleep than I do. Plus he can be working until 10 and then in at 6 on the next day so he doesn't get much 'off' time.
I can get up, get the girls breakfast ready and stick the telly on, then get another hour or so dozing on the sofa before he is even conscious.

We never argue about this. I get both lie-ins - works for us

Lovechoc, re-read my OP please - I have mentioned twice about people working on the weekend etc so I wouldn't get some numpty saying "not everyone works Monday to Friday you know"

I'm awarding my DH Saint status after this.

The medication I take pretty much knocks me out at night, at best I'm drowzy, so he gets up to our DD in the night, usually once to put her in with us, and to our DS if he wakes. Then in the morning he gets up for work half hour earlier than he really needs to so he can have the two of them with him whilst he gets ready so i can have the last half hour. His dsy off is Sunday, I lie in.
This really is only because the meds i take make me so drowzy that it really is hard to function if i havent had enough sleep.

But i do think he's amazing for puting up with/supporting me He never moans either bless him,

We don't and never had. Just never felt the need. DD doesn't get up particularly early and never has - it is never before 7, and usually after 8. If anything DH is mostlikely to get up first.

What a brilliant idea OP, surprised no one else has thought of that one.

YANBU, our DD is only 8 wks and DH is working. One weekend eve he will have her on his side of the bed and just hand her to me for feeding and then he'll settle her. That morning, when she wakes at 7am ish (on a good day!) I will take her downstairs so he can have a few hours lie in. And then the next night, she is back on my side of the bed, but I get the lie in after her first feed. Mine is normally cut a little short when she decides she wants the next one however! But it is the thought that counts, he does try to drag it out.

My two are 4 and 6
they go down stairs and turn the tv on and we both lie in at the weekends

Am not bothered about lie-ins, tbh. I function quite well in the mornings.

At one point I was getting up first every weekday (am sahm), getting up early for work on Saturday, dh was working til the early hours on Saturdays so I also had to get up early for the dc swimming lessons on Sunday. 7 days a week up by 7.00am, and no lie-ins. I did that for about a year. Am hard, me.

We used to do this, however Ive decided i feel much better if I dont have a lie-in and now DP could get two. He usually just has the one still though and we go out earlier on a Saturday.

My children won't let me have a lie in - whenever they come in to our room in the morning it's all mammy mammy mammy - and even when DH tells them to come to him the refuse!!! (mind you DH doesn't always try that hard LOL

If they do go down stairs with DH the chances are one of the will sneak back up and snuggle in with me, I'm not overly a morning person but I would like more chances to read a book!!!

Would love this but I go to gym on Saturday morning and DH goes out on bike on Sunday morning. We spent pre-children yrs lying in bed until 1ish so guess we've had the good times.

we alternate,i slept in spare bed and woke at 11.50am this mornoing. bliss!