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Denise Van Outen Pisses Me Off!

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MsKalo · 10/10/2010 14:23

Sorry but DVO really annoys me with her bleating and excuses for not breastfeeding - rather than just say it is not for her she bleats and bleats and makes excuses for giving up on bf and I am sick of hearing her go on and on. BF is hard and it takes perseverance and time to establish both supply and technique - she did not give it long enough and completely choose to ignore the health benefits of bf and now keeps bleating on.

I know some people will be outraged by how I feel and I do know there are ladies who have genuine problems with bf and can't carry on. but I 'do' feel that women like DVO who, lets face it, gave up on bf and didn't give it long enough, really take away from women who really persevere through all the problems that bf can bring.

And don't get me started on the fact she left poor baby and went on that trek...baby needs mummy at such a young age not for mummy to go off and leave her. I really don't think much of her anymore!

ok, this is 'MY' opinion and everyone is entitled to their own!

OP posts:

usualsuspect · 10/10/2010 15:06

I never even tried to bf my ds MsKalo and I couldn't give a toss ,what you or anyone else thinks of me ....

FranSanDisco · 10/10/2010 15:07

Fatlazymummy gives good advice. My mil pisses me off so I just never answer the phone to her to hear her tosh report. Works for me . Lifes too short to get worked up over strangers bf choices.

June2009 · 10/10/2010 15:16

I did not know DVO had a baby or that she was in "the news" for stopping breastfeeding, for what it's worth I just read that article that was linked on this thread and the same type of thing happened to me and is actually a very acurate description of how I felt.
Sometimes It was hard to talk about it and even meet with women who managed to breastfeed, other times I was furious about the lack of support and the attitude of mws towards me and just had to get it out of my chest.

2shoes · 10/10/2010 15:20

yabu

womblingfree · 10/10/2010 15:24

MsKalo - do get a life. Just because dvo hasn't shared the minute details of her breastfeeding issues with the general public doesn't mean she didn't have them. She 'gave up' and chose to do what she felt was best for her and her baby at a time that suited them.
If that is all you have in the world to get wound up about then frankly you need to get out more.

TheCrackFox · 10/10/2010 15:33

YABU
She tried her best.

Faaamily · 10/10/2010 15:36

YABU and really need to breathe and relax.

Nancy66 · 10/10/2010 15:40

I wish the BF loons would just fuck off. You have your own little section where you can be as preachy, smug and back slappy as you like.

goingatinybitmad · 10/10/2010 15:49

Hmmm.

I don't like how the BF debate is relatively unbalanced in favour of mothers who can BF. It seems as though if a mother speaks up and says "BF wasn't for me" for whatever reason, then she is fair game for lambasting, but it's perfectly fine for the BFing camp to berate mothers who can't/won't BF.

Personally, I stopped BFing after one week so in OP's eyes, I am probably the devil's handmaiden. The reason I stopped is because it hurt like hell and I dreaded every time DS would cry for a feed. I tried expressing but it was taking me two hours to get 100ml expressed. I was exhausted and in pain and feeling resentful to my DS so I chose to FF and never looked back. DS waas happier (getting the milk he needed) and so was I. I couldn't give a glittery shit what anyone else thinks. It worked for me and DS and it was my right to choose. It is down the individual to decide and I knew fully the benefits of BF and chose to stop with a heavy heart. Those of us choosing to stop don't need to be made to feel bad by those who managed to do it.

Lazylion · 10/10/2010 15:52

I agree with you MsKalo, YANBU. EITHER if she was happy with her choice she would not be bleating OR what a boring subject to use to get publicity.

FranSanDisco · 10/10/2010 15:53

I just think it's so odd to get het up over other mothers feeding choices. I bf my dcs but I was a bottle fed baby. I am fine, really healthy and quite clever for a 44 yo . What the hell is the problem and why do you care?? . Also no-one has explained about DVO's eyes - far more important surely?

Sassybeast · 10/10/2010 15:54

She got a 'letter from the NHS' ? Course she did

PaulineCampbellJones · 10/10/2010 15:55

Am not interested in whether DVO could or couldn't BF. I'm just sick of her and her curly husband courting constant baby publicity. She's almost ahead of Myleene in pointless column inches. (I know it's partly my fault for reading trash!)

LostArt · 10/10/2010 15:55

I doubt DVO rang up a journalist and starting bleating on about the way she feeds her children. She's probably sick of being asked to justify something that is, after all, a personal decision.

She can't help it if she cannot compare to super mum, Myleene Klass.

PenelopeGarcia · 10/10/2010 15:56

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

goingatinybitmad · 10/10/2010 15:58

Eugh, am appalled by that NHS trust link. How invasive and presumptious.

Eugh again.

DirtyMartini · 10/10/2010 16:01

YABU

I actually fleetingly wondered, when I read your OP, if you had some weird double-bluff agenda whereby you're posing as a completely unreasonable "BF Nazi" stereotype for reasons of shit stirring your own.

But no, that's too involved, YA just BU.

Sassybeast · 10/10/2010 16:05

Fook me she DID get a letter from the NHS and this was AFTER she'd stopped BF ? Who in heavens name thought THAT would be a good idea ?

Firawla · 10/10/2010 16:10

yabvu! reading the article i sympathise with her, dont think she has done anything wrong and the letter from nhs is out of order if that is true. of course she has to respond if people are talking about her not bf, as she is in the public eye whereas others of us who bf for 3 weeks and then moved to ff would not have had much of a public reaction, so wouldn have to keep on about it.

Elmarjerita · 10/10/2010 16:24

Yabu, her baby, her choice. She'd probably shut up about it if the angry breastfeeders would stop berating her for the way she feeds her baby.

Btw I'm bfing my 11mo as I type!

BusyMissIzzy · 10/10/2010 16:31

She probably still goes on about it because she feels guilty and defensive. I know I do that a bit too. Encouraging BFing is one thing (and a good thing, obviously), but often it crosses the line into anti-FF sentiment.

Heracles · 10/10/2010 16:33

Don't read her articles? I've not heard a peep from her using that single, simple technique.

See also: Martin Amis' views on Islam, Liz Jones' view on herself, anything a Daily Mail columnist says ever.

LittlebearH · 10/10/2010 16:41

The thing that pisses me of with her is looking so bloody good in a bikini!!! I still have a stone to go yet she gave birth 3 months after me!!!!
I would rather wear a sheet of tarpaulin than a bikini! :)

monkeyfacegrace · 10/10/2010 16:53

Oh do fuck off, Op, theres a dear.

GoldenGreen · 10/10/2010 17:02

none of anyone else's business

would be furious if I were her

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