To hate when women talk like their husband is a pervert for wanting sex?

[HeathcliffMoorland]

I love my husband. I like having sex with him. It really doesn't feel at all like a chore.

I understand that people aren't always in the mood.

I understand that two minutes after giving birth, most women won't feel like it.

But it really, really gets my goat when women talk like their husband is some kind of weirdo for wanting to have sex with them.

Anyone else?

Generally, I consider men weirdos if the DONT want to have sex with me...

I've never heard anyone say that, sorry.

Er ... do you maybe know someone who's a bit depressed/had some kind of bad experience? Might not be the best idea to rush in judging them unless you're sure you know the backstory.

No, I really can't get worked up about it. Does it really bother you that much?

You'll probably get a few 'rape happens within marriage!' posts in response to this. That aside, I think if people have mismatched libidos (and it happens a lot) they should try to sort it out privately rather than bad-mouthing each other to all and sundry.

No, I mean friends who say things like 'he's obsessed' and 'he always wants sex' and 'he should be castrated'.

Not people with bad experiences.

Why do people always assume the worst of people on AIBU?

What business is it of yours

Fwiw It really gets my goat when people get all over concerned about other peoples sex lives

I mean they're not fucking you, so why should you care

No need to be uppity, chibi.

Sorry, Heathcliff, I didn't mean to assume the worst. I have simply never heard anyone say something like that, let alone 'he should be castrated'. Whatever you say about this not being someone who's had a bad experience, to me that sounds fairly messed up.

Are you sure they've just not mentioned the bad experience to you?

Nope no need

Chippiness I threw in gratis

YANBU. I´d be seriously concerned if I was with someone who didn´t want to try it on with me.

Rape is a different kettle of fish, obviously.

It´s normal and healthy to want a sexual relationship with your husband-wife. That is one of the purposes of marriage, surely? I personally have never heard anyone say they think their partner is weird for wanting sex though.

It depends on the question on AIBU. In this case, where your goat has been got by someone elses sex life, then you might not get everyone else agreeing that it's just about the worst thing to have ever happened.

" friends who say things like 'he's obsessed' and 'he always wants sex' "

Oh... that's just code for 'my man is a STUD!!' and 'I'm IRRESISTIBLE!!'

Nah, I don't think it's the worst thing that ever happened. I just find it mildly irritating.

Definitely no bad ecperiences in the cases I've mentioned. As in 99.99% sure, as I haven't actually been in the bedroom with them, but you get my drift.

'He should be castrated'- seriously? That's not a normal mismatch of moods.

if this is a friend of yours, you should talk to her a bit about it, perhaps?

PMSL @ Empress.

Who are these oversharing sex people

I don't know how often my mates/cousin/the postman get laid nor do I care

I think you'll find that a lot of Women make off hand comments (as indeed, do Men).

You'll find it filed under "jocular" banter, "slightly more grown-up toilet humour" or "tongue in cheek" in the humour section of your local library.

Perhaps pay it a visit.

I've also heard an 'I wish DH would put that thing away' from a woman who has reproduced 5 times...

Some of it is 'jocular banter'.

But I have heard it said with genuine crossness.

Sounds like you and your friends need to find something less controversial to talk about - like politics, perhaps, or religion, or state v, private education

at Reality.

Perhaps we do, Maisie!

i was watching some sit com yesterday and the bloke forgot the woman's birthday so gave her a voucher that he'd written. she told him that the sex vouchers were really a gift for him.

thought that was a bit well speak for yourself, iykwim!