to think that it shouldn't have taken DH GETTING PILES to realise how sore tearing in birth is?

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DH has piles. He is hopping around, running soothing baths. He has taken the night off work. ANd I think of me 12 weeks ago scrubbing the bath clean for myself, having to sit sort of on my side etc. and all I got was "other women give birth". One tear was internal aswell. I feel like swapping the prep.H for deep heat :(

Slap him. On the bum.

He clearly has no imagination and no empathy.

Congrats on your baby! How's your tear healing? Tears are horrible, aren't they? But I'd rather have a (mild) tear than a cut. Hope yours wasn't severe and that you're doing alright.

Just re-read your post. Oh. Sounds like you had 3rd or 4th degree.

Poor you. Poor, poor you.

YANBU. I would be considering deep heat as well:)

sorry but I have had(and still have ) both.I feel for your dh, because imo piles are the worse

Tears still twinging - I had episiotomy and a few tears with DS1, 5 tears with DS2 and I think 3-4 with DS3 (prob. because of all the scarring). WHy don't men get it? He said it's hard to judge because he thinks I am melodramatic.

He had the sniffles the other day too and felt really cold - I said times that by about 10 and that was how it felt when I had mastitis. He was like "oh, I didn't really realise".

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