(Haven't disappered - just haven't posted on this thread, until.....now!)
shinyboots - you are not just saying you suggest mothers with problems about feeding not to read the breast/bottle board. You are quite entitled to advise mothers that way, though I happen to think they might find something helpful there, personally.
But what people object to is you saying things like "there are a hardcore group of people who seem to enjoy making others feel like sh#t," and "[people have said] ff mothers are sick" because you are talking about real posters, regulars on the boards, who would not dream of saying anything cruel or hurtful. You are asked to back up your accusations with examples, and you backtrack.
A little while ago, I got 'caught', when a woman asked clearly and directly, what might be the reasons for a midwife worrying about slow weight gain. She wanted information, she said, not vagueness. I told her, explaining I could not assess her baby blah blah blah, and she unleashed a great deal of distress and anger at me for scaring her. She totally misread my post, and ignored the fact she had asked for info...because she was in a difficult place emotionally and was very, very sensitive and anxious.
This happens. When people are anxious, distressed, frightened, angry, guilty, tired etc etc, they see and read things that are not only not intended but are not even there. So someone is 100 per cent certain there is a cabal of mumsnet posters who actually want to make other mothers feel bad. They are positive they regularly see posters describing formula as evil, or poison. And so on. It may be that in that sort of emotional 'place', the breast/bottle board may not be the best board to browse, because the result could be even more distress and anger, or, in Funny's case, a severe case of silly school playground baiting and smirking.
But there is no reason for distress and anger to lead to bizarre accusations and imagined conspiracies, really.