to think that I am howling at the moon here?

[colditz]

"my husband humiliates my children and behaves inappropriately to everyone else's children. help me to completely change everything about him and make him not a nob."

Well you can't. That doesn't work.

"I can, I know I can. Apart from him picking on the weakest people in the room and belittling everyone smaller than him, he's lovely. well, he's never actually hit me. Not hard anyway."

I hear you.

I think it's all right if it's loving chastisement. Try to be abit more understanding of sex differences.

Not read the thread but I bet he's a 'great dad' too.

LOL They're always 'lovely', aren't they? You can imagine Eva Braun being interviewed in Hello Magazine... 'he may have been responsible for horrendous war-crimes and brought suffering to millions but he was always lovely to me and the Doberman'

Tells his wife what to wear and makes children cry on purpose.

Not a dick though.

Please may I have a link? I'm a nosey person

That is a dreadful thread.

here

Be gentle though. If the OP isn't on some kind of wind up then she's probably going to be a bit blinded by all the lightbulbs that are (hopefully) going off right now.

I feel bad for ridiculing it slightly here but it's so frustrating when the ugly reality is all there in black and white and women still try to defend and justify shocking behaviour.

I am not sure if I believe it, tbh. Can someone really be so blind to that kind of behaviour?

yes of course - I was blind to it myself. There is a thread knocking around here where I defend my ex and his abusive behavior to the hilt.

sometimes you cant see the wood for the trees.

It makes so sad reading. I guess she has become so accustomed to his behaviour that she does not see it anymore.

This OP really rings a bell, I think she may have posted before.

As an aside, there have been several horrendous threads just recently, one that was deleted yesterday morning was particularly upsetting.

The one about the guy who had sex with his partner while she was asleep? that one was especially horrific too. Pretty sad reading on here sometimes.

That's the one madonna, i got about halfway through then it disappeared. Was hoping it was a troll thread .

Also Colditz, I'm loving your work on the 'gyno' thread.

Was it deleted because she asked for it to be or was she a troll?

Sigh.

Feel like giving up on MN.

aww, guys, don't do this

or at least generalise it very, very quickly

HERE

How will this help those women?

Bloody hell colditz, that must be really weird to read back on!

'Men marry woman thinking they won't change, women marry men thinking they can change them' kinda sums it up ....

colditz, I dunno if you have posted on the "tipping point" thread, but what was the final nail in the coffin of your relationship with that man?

This is unfair - some women are in the grip of abuse and can't see the wood for the trees.

Colditz, did you show 'your' thread to the OP you're talking about?