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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to want one whole day with no children?

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misdee · 05/10/2010 08:44

dh had a lovely afternoon and evening out with his friends on sunday. was actually out inc travel for the whole day, 13hours.

i think i want one whole day to myself. tbh i would probably book into the travel lodge and sleep, but to have one day of not hearing 'muuuuuum', not wiping bottoms, noses. no preparing meals, no laundry would be utter bliss.

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FloraFinching · 05/10/2010 08:46

YANBU
Sneak out one morning at 5am and leave him to it.

DomesticG0ddess · 05/10/2010 08:48

YANBU - book one for next weekend!

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misdee · 05/10/2010 08:50

hmmmmmmmm its very tempting.

i would have to switch the obile off as well, as alwys get messages about 'where is the [very not-important item which is always where it always is]' or 'how do i...'

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toddlerama · 05/10/2010 08:51

YANBU - explain this to your DH. It's worth it to have you come home all refreshed and happy to see everyone!

DH and BIL booked me and my sister into a spa together for the day for our birthdays (same month) and we were both sooooo much nicer to be around after a little break and a rest. If you can manage it, it's worth it.

MollysChambers · 05/10/2010 08:52

YANBU - Would be bliss...

DetectivePotato · 05/10/2010 08:52

Do it!!! You deserve it as much as your DH. Tell him its his turn this weekend and you are having some time out. Then, like you said, turn your phone off.

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misdee · 05/10/2010 08:53

he is working this weekend :(

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upahill · 05/10/2010 08:54

Ha I know what you mean!!

But I'm waiting for the poster to come along and say 'Don't you like your children then?'like she alwasy does.

Or here's another one that comes along in threads like this 'Why have children if you don't want to be with them!'

I love it when I'm working late. We have a frantic hour and half getting everyone up and out and as soon as Dh and DS2 go through the door at 8.20am PEACE!!!

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misdee · 05/10/2010 08:56

i love my children.

but when dh and 3 of the dd's got on a train and i got left on the platform by mistake with a sleeping dd4, i went and had a cup of teas in peace, and drank it whilst it was hot. it was lovely.

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ScroobiousPip · 05/10/2010 08:56

Next weekend, then? Why stop at a day - could you make it an overnight stay? Sometimes a short break is necessary for your sanity, definitely nothing to feel guilty about (after all, your DH didn't ).

Tee2072 · 05/10/2010 08:56

I'm doing that this weekend, boarding a train to Dublin (I live in Belfast) on Friday afternoon and returning to husband and child on Sunday afternoon.

I have been counting the minutes. I am mostly going to sit in a coffee shop and watch the world go by. Oh and SLEEP!!!!

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misdee · 05/10/2010 08:57

before children, a day off would've involved seeing friends getting drunk maybe, having fun. now all i think of is sleep

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misdee · 05/10/2010 08:58

scroobius are you on my FB lol.

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YunoYurbubson · 05/10/2010 09:00

I once found myself having a very pleasant daydream about an elderly relative dying so that I would have to travel to the funeral by myself leaving the kids with dh.

winnybella · 05/10/2010 09:01

YANBU. Last year I sent DP and DD to visit MIL for 4 days. 4 days alone in the house...Bliss. I think there's another visit coming up soon .

But seriously, I would definitely leave DH with the kids for a day or two if I were you.

TrinityRhino · 05/10/2010 09:01

that would be amazing

never had it since I had dd1

just doesn't happen

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misdee · 05/10/2010 09:02

yuno, when my uncle died, i went with dd4 to the funeral who was only a few months old. it was very peaceful. and we had to stay overnight as it was a fair distance away.

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mummynoseynora · 05/10/2010 09:04

that would be absolute BLISS!

I would book a cheapish hotel and sleep, eat room service and maybe allow myself the luxury of going for a swim ALONE!

my 30th is coming up soon... hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

strawberrycake · 05/10/2010 09:19

I had the most wonderful week last week. I miscalculated the date I'd return to work and booked ds in childcare a week early. Honest accident but I had TWO days to myself!

I adore him to bits, to the point where I sneak him into my bed in the night for extra cuddles, but it was nice.

jennymac · 05/10/2010 09:42

I would love a day to myself not to go anywhere - just to stay around the house, watch old dvds and read books. I know this will never happen (unless I am really sick) as my in-laws look after the kids when we are at work so my conscience would never let me leave the kids with them just to lie around the house, and hubby couldn't really take them out of the house the whole day (and probably wouldn't!) I think I want it so much cos I know it won't happen. In reality it probably wouldn't even be all that great!

RunningOutOfIdeas · 05/10/2010 09:56

For my birthday last year DH gave me a voucher from here. I had a lovely day at a local hotel spa - morning swimming, jacuzzi etc. then lunch followed by a facial, manicure and pedicure.

It is expensive but so worth dropping large unsubtle hints.

nikki1978 · 05/10/2010 10:13

Why can you not have a day by yourself? I understand you have 4 children btu if you can look after them by yourself so can your DH. Just ask him if you can bugger off and have some you time. If he doesn't say yes then kill him. Simples.

Not to sound like I am showing off but I have days and nights away from my kids on a regular basis. We all need a break sometimes (from our husbands too!) and my DH is very happy for me to go away for a weekend with friends every now and then or go out for the day with a friend which happens more regularly. When they were a bit younger DH would often get his Mum round to help at bedtimes or whatever (sad I know!).

Are you still BFing? If not I see nothing that should be holding you back. It is your life too - don't be a martyr, ask him!

ChippingIn · 05/10/2010 10:57

YABU - they are your children, you should want to be with them as much as possible - how can you even think about it??? Why did you have them if you don't want to be with them???

Mwahhhhhhhh - couldn't wait for regular posters A & B to show up

YANBU - to want it
YANBU - to have it

YABU - not to arrange it!!

Onetoomanycornettos · 05/10/2010 11:02

Take it in turns to have a day off every few weeks or months. I have friends who have a 'weekend' to themselves every few months, the other one takes the children to their grandparents and the parent left behind can do anything they like (sometimes they go away, sometimes they stay home). It means letting your partner get on with being home alone with the children, once you've done that once, you'll never look back. I also have the odd day/night off, in fact, my husband suggests I do that if I'm looking like I'm going to burn out a bit!

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misdee · 05/10/2010 11:52

lol.

because dh works shifts its very rare he has weekends off (the joys of working in retail)

However, I am booking 'one day off' as soon as i can, and going to have a girly day of browsing bookshops without 'mum can i get this one...' going to the cinema alone/with friends, and then a meal out with friends in the evening.

dh and i do go out together a fair bit still, depending on babysitters and if he has an early or late shift the following day, but just want one whole day to myself, not a couple of hours in the evening.

I do out with friends, but as above, mainly evenings for a couple of hours max.

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