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To be a little suspicious/paranoid

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Broodymomma · 03/10/2010 16:32

Ok so dh is away on a lads weekend. Last night walking home from a club with all of the lads he said he decided to take a short cut alone and walk through the woods which seen him arrive back at the place they were staying 3hrs after the others at 4am.

I am not normally paranoid but for some reason this just does not ring true that he would leave his pals whilst all walking home and he seemed too quick to tell
Me this story I suppose incase someone mentioned he did not go home with the guys.

So Aibu to he suspicious here?

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Broodymomma · 03/10/2010 21:33

I know. Feel sick if I'm honest. Going to go to sleep and see what tomorrow brings. Never going tonfind out the truth as he will stick by what he is saying. He just seem so sure of it and believable. I read all this back pretending it was someone else and I would not believe him. But what do I do?

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windowsandwalls · 03/10/2010 21:35

We were at an outdoor event last night, and although I had the largest umbrella in the world, and was walkng on pavements, my jeans were soaked up to the calf. We were out for 2 hours btw.

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Broodymomma · 03/10/2010 21:40

I am up before him for work I will check his clothes. Cant believe I am doing this. He works away loads and goes out a fair bit I have only once before had something like this where I caught him out on a lie but his explanation stood up. I hate being like this.

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BrianAndHisBalls · 03/10/2010 21:43

think you can only either believe him or ask your friends whose husbands were there. but that could be embarasing and get back to your husband too. difficult one. you need to sort it though because otherwise it'll eat you up Sad

oh and my exh swore on our dd's life over loads of untrue things, he also swore on his (recently) deceased mother's grave - all lies, sorry.

loubielou31 · 03/10/2010 21:44

No, I don't believe he's lying to you and I don't think you do either. Very Drunk and got lost does sound plausible to me. My husband has been walked to the front door only to turn round and wander back down the garden path before finally making it throught the door and falling asleep in the kitchen.

If you've never had reason to doubt him before I expect that this is a one off. Tell him you love him but that you don't like how this made you feel and put it behind you. Buy him a GPS for next time. Wink

LittleMissHissyFit · 03/10/2010 21:49

where was the weekend held? Where in the whole of our country was dry this weekend? Anyone?

His shoes looked ok, my boots were still wrecked this afternoon from pottering to the supermarket. His golf stuff not too dirty. Did he even play?
Did he even go with the others?

My dad's excuse with his OW was golf...

Mumcentreplus · 03/10/2010 21:51

Seriously...I dont think he's lying to you..per ce..but I think he's not being up front...and if he is why is he not reassuring you?..and getting stroppy?..have t#you tld him how you feel?..its not always good to sleep on an arguement..

TheLadyEvenstar · 03/10/2010 21:54

MCP you stalking me tonight?

Mumcentreplus · 03/10/2010 21:56

I did say hi earlier on another thread but you blanked me... Sad

Mumcentreplus · 03/10/2010 21:56

I'm a rubbish stalker...way too lazy..Grin

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Broodymomma · 03/10/2010 21:58

Just realised his jeans are in the room here with me he wore them home not a mark on them. I had asked why they did not get a taxi and he said there was none about but there is a taxi phone number card in his pocket.

He was up the north of Scotland. He was away with his brother and group of guys I know so I am sure he was away with them.

He is getting annoyed as he said he is not lying and I should trust him he says it's no big deal and I'm
Making a fuss over nothing. He was walking on paths and it had not been raining and it's up to me basically to choose to believe him or not.

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perfumedlife · 03/10/2010 22:02

I can believe him. I got lost in Aviemore a few years ago, trying to get back to the hotel after I lost my friends. Took a short cut and it actually took me two hours to walk half a mile Sad It's easy done, especially with drunk logic.

TheLadyEvenstar · 03/10/2010 22:02

MCP

Broody, I hope all goes well!

vbusymum1 · 03/10/2010 22:03

I hope he is telling you the truth although its does sound a bit suss - you know him best so trust your judgement.

Is there anyone who can confirm the weather in that area last night, everywhere in England seems to have nothing but rain overnight.

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Broodymomma · 03/10/2010 22:03

You freak me out that's where he was!

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LittleMissHissyFit · 03/10/2010 22:06

you need to call his brother. Was the taxi local to where he was? Sorry, but he's going to far too much effort to ram home the hansel theory. Trust your gut. This smells! Bad! Sit down in front of him, and say, Now, what really happened, cos the story so far is a crock of shite. And wait. Don't talk to him until he's filled in the gaps. Call his brother in front of him and ask him where h was that night.

perfumedlife · 03/10/2010 22:07

Oh well I shouldnt worry too much, there is not much temptation to stray, unless he really likes sheep, or farmers Smile

But seriously, it is possible. I still wonder why he wouldnt meet your eye when he got home. Have you had a cuddle yet?

PotKettleBlack · 03/10/2010 22:13

you know, it's all very well us all sitting here speculating and giving you ideas - but you know your husband, and you're the ones living together in a committed relationship.

I for one don't wnat to keep going on putting more doubts in your head. people here say it's easy to get lost in the way he did, you said he's stubborn. Unless you have some other big reason to doubt him you probably need to drop it now. Otherwise from his (hopefully!) innocent pov he went away for a weekend, got drunk and lost, and now he's come home to suspicion and a wife who refuses to believe that he is the honest loving husband he's always been. and that must feel pretty shit.

sausagelover · 03/10/2010 22:26

I am in North East Scotland and can confirm that it was dry and sunny yesterday. Today has been shitty rain though.

Sounds plausible to me, I have got lost on the housing estate that my mum lives in before!!!

MrsCrafty · 03/10/2010 22:39

Broodymamma,

I think he is lying. If he was wandering around drunk in a forest, at this time of year, he would have mud. Trust me we have gotten covered in mud sober. But if I was pissed - there would have been mud.

He has probably gone of for a walk with some girl and snogged her and is too scared to tell you.

It's not the end of the world - he was pissed and that's that. I wouldn't even give him a hard time. Just tell him that if he does it again, you will walk out and leave him with the children.

Hopefully this it what happened.

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