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to tell off someone else's kids in a restaurant?

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CheeseChomper · 25/09/2010 14:48

When out for a meal with DP last night (only Pizza Express, nothing too fancy!), and we were sat right next to a table for two where two young girls (10ish) were sat at. Their mums were sat on another table within sight in the restaurant, and i'm guessing the girls were allowed a table together as a treat, which is fine.

However, the girls were, in my opinion, behaving totally inapropriately for a restaurant, chucking a napkin around (so it landed on a lady behind them, who had a word), and then getting up and running around, before standing having a tickle fight so they nearly piled into DP and my table.

As a result, I let rip slightly, and told them "can you SIT DOWN PLEASE, THIS IS A RESTAURANT NOT A PLAYGROUND" rather loudly Blush. I stand by what I said, but felt like a bit of a grouchy old tit (i'm only 26 Grin) and DP was mortified by my outburst. Their parents didn't seem to give two shits though.

Possibly pg hormomes (i'm expecting my first), but am I unreasonable to expect parents to make sure their kids behave when out and about? Nothing against children being out in the evening though, as there were loads of well-behaved ones around. What also got me is these kids didn't seem to care that they were being told off and just shrugged and giggled- when I was that age i'd have been mortified to have been told off by another adult!

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PinkieMinx · 26/09/2010 23:48

He sounds like a twunt as he poured coffee over her head. Had he told her off or 'dropped' it on her handbag i wouldn't say twunt. She was irresponsible then childish but I don't think that warrants his actions. FWIW the mother sounds like a twunt too Smile

newwave · 26/09/2010 23:55

He is a nice guy, ready to help others, I think his anger at her attitude got the better of him. IMHO she got what she deserved.

One thing I forgot, her shriek of "HOW DARE YOU" was a hoot.

Probably get slated but they were the typical yummy mummy types in a nice part of North London, probably had kids named Rupert and Charlotte in private school and a DH who is "someone" in the city plus an overblown sense of entitelement.

diddl · 27/09/2010 08:38

My goodness, what an unpleasant bully.

I´d be ashamed to ever have to be in his company again tbh.

pocketmonster · 27/09/2010 11:12

newwave I'm Shock - I could understand your colleague pulling her about her childs behaviour, but to actually pour a cup of coffee over her head - well that's unacceptable and OTT.

ShirleyKnot · 27/09/2010 11:34

I am [shocked] as well!

What an arsehole.

SoupDragon · 27/09/2010 11:41

The woman sounds Iike an arse hole too and the child a brat.

witlesssarah · 27/09/2010 11:43

OP, I can see why you were upset, and I have certainly been known to shout at other children before, but as you are pregnant with your first it may be useful for you to think about why you go to shouting with children (I'm pretty sure you wouldn't with adults) My 'shouty reflex' is one of the biggest obstacles to effective parenting I have. It doesn't change behaviour and just makes both me and DS feel bad. The sooner you get to work on it the easier time you'll have of it as a parent. (just to be clear, telling children off, even if not your own, is not a problem, but it works better without shouting)

OrmRenewed · 27/09/2010 11:44

No. YANBU. 10 yrs is old enough to know how to behave in a public place.

veritythebrave · 27/09/2010 12:26

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