Paying for Sex?

[Dione]

I have been celebate for more than 2.5years. Every now and then I want sex (sorry to be blunt), but I want really good sex. That rules out one night stands. I do not want a relationship, I don't even want to share the taxi home.

AIBU to (when I have the money) pay for guaranteed satisfaction and think that the money I paid means I am not responsible for anyone else's feelings?

A ONS will prob leave you feeling like shite.

whereas paying someone to fuck you wouldn't?

i've had loads of ons and not one has left me feeling shit, they've cheered me up and been good fun!

Swingers Club. Cheap for ladies. Bouncers and security. Condoms are compulsory.
Not grotty or dirty. I go alone and have a lovely time. You have a chat with everyone before hand. Have something to drink and then go do what you want with who you want

You need a fuck buddy.

I don't think you'll get guaranteed saisfaction unless you're very confident of your own sexuality...ie know exactly what you want and aren't shy about telling the guy what to do.

Agree with Anenome.

Sex is as good as the effort you put in :)

Nothing wrong with either imo but ONSs are less preferable to me than a paid professional. I really can't put my finger on why but I think that it's partly about both knowing where we stand without having to communicate that with someone else. They also won't try to call you or text you afterwards; they know it's just about the sex etc. Interested in swingers clubs too but never been to one.

Unless you are hideous you shouldn´t have a problem finding a willing partner.

Just go on a dating site, meet a few blokes for no strings attatched, until you find one who suits your needs. You can meet on a regular basis and share the hotel costs, et voila!

"Unless you are hideous"

TBH I have only ever had rubbish sex from one night stands. But they have the added benefit that it puts you off men for a good while afterwards :o

Ooh yes Grinandtonic's suggestion is good, try a swinging club, forgot about that, single women are usually very welcome.

I did get the idea after watching the Diary of a Callgirl episode. So anyway, after starting this thread I did a wee search on the internet and found a site. With only 4 blokes (one of which doesn't do extras) which leaves three. And the cost? £100 per hour.

For that price I could have a really good meal with wine. It would last longer and probably be more satisfying.

I guess that my unwillingness to go out and look, kiss a couple of frogs and actually have to chat to a man with the intention of possibly doing the deed means that I'm just not ready yet.

"And the cost? £100 per hour."

If you can find one that's capable of going for an hour, £100 seems a fair return...

Any male escort charging that amount is an amateur who's kidding himself (and you). He's probably some scrawy wee piece o' shite, tbh.

I don't know how a heterosexual woman finds almost guaranteed sexual satisfaction. :(

How about a vibrator and a wild imagination, IndoorGardener?

Can a vibrator hold you? Can you fall asleep on it's shoulder?

:(

Link to website please so we can vet the other 3 for you

Do vibrators snore?

Has anyone here tried a male escort before? I have a vibrator and am a, ahem, regular, ahem on an erotic literature site. That has held my interest for the past while.

BTW, I have one DC aged 3.

I think I would rather pay for a service than be a slut and have one night stands lol..;) One night stands are fully selfish on the man's part and humiliating not to mention lots of blokes try their luck with barebacking! At least the prossie would be clean, sti free, do safe sex and know what pleases a woman and where to find the clit! x

Too right, Dragonfly, some people are just ignorant! x

Male escorts nearly always sleep with men as well - ie they're rent boys.

There isn't a big enough female market for them to make money so they have to service men too.

Which may, or may not, put you off.

Why not use one of those casual sex/hook up sites like Craigslist?

Dione - Can I ask, does it not bother you that the male escort you use might not find you in the least bit attratcive? Does that thought not repulse you?

I'd feel sick to my stomach if I made a man sleep with me who didn'y fancy me...

I read an article a few weeks back abut yoni massage. It sounded fab, a bit like going for a spa day but more, er, intimate.

Would that do the trick? Or is it the full bouncy bouncy you're after?

Srsly, though, whatever floats your boat. I think GrinAndTonic's point about swingers' clubs is probably your best bet though. Those places are usually starved for women, and you can have a whole posse of men catering to your every whim. And you'd get to spend your £100 on drinks and some pretty underwear, too.