Paying for Sex?

[Dione]

I have been celebate for more than 2.5years. Every now and then I want sex (sorry to be blunt), but I want really good sex. That rules out one night stands. I do not want a relationship, I don't even want to share the taxi home.

AIBU to (when I have the money) pay for guaranteed satisfaction and think that the money I paid means I am not responsible for anyone else's feelings?

Have you thought about online stuff? Illicitencounters-that sort of thing, I think it's straight up sex and you don't have to pay

Salatrix right there isn't much of a market for straight male escorts. Many of those advertising as male escorts are just chancers with no skills. That is why I'm suggesting you'd be better off having a wank.

How's this for variation (a personal favourite of mine). Book into a very expensive hotel (alone). Order pizza, and booze and consume in the bath. Plug yourself into literotica.com and hit search until you find something suitable. Have a wank whilst simultaneously scoffing pizza and drinking.

Or if you're feeling really flush book a flight to Amsterdam where you are more likely to find a decent male professional. Repeat as above only add a spliff and get him to pass you the pizza.

This is a guaranteed recipe for success.

Never done this.

But In Theory whyever not?
But it might be expensive and what if the one who turns up does not float your boat?

I say go for it. If you want it, and can afford it, and you know you won't be left feeling emotionally buggered then why not. We all have needs. A ONS will prob leave you feeling like shite.

I think you also need to consider whether he is really exercising choice by selling his body. He might be vulnerable or addicted to some sort of substance or too thick to understand the reality of his reality.

How would you feel about playing a part in the global sex trade. Do you think as if you have a RIGHT to have sex with him?

You are clearly seeing men as commodities.
I've changed my mind regarding this whole issue you're sick.

Oh Blackbess, I would if I could afford it. TSC, I'm not looking for a boost to self esteem. I don't want him to think (rightfully that I am great and gorgeous), I just sometimes want a man to pleasure me. But I don't want to give anything in return. Not anything. Not my address (no way I'd have him to my home), not even my mobile number.

I know a few guys who would. But they are my friends and what I want, essentially is to use someone and assuage my own guilt by paying for the experience.

why guilt?
You can get strings free sex without paying.
Don't feel guilty

Weeell I would feel bad about having sex that everyone involved wasn't actualy enjoying, and knowing that he was walking off with some crisp twenties wouldn't really make me feel better about that. In fact, it seems worse.

I would def suggest online contact sites - this looks pretty busy but sure there are loads. You would get more choice, the chance to make it a regular thing if you want to, more fun (e.g. talking about it beforehand and getting excited if you like that idea), and it's not only F R E E (the sex, don't know about the site) but he would probably chip in for half of the hotel room as well :o:o:o

Also you can try a few different people without having to save up for two months at a time FGS.

BTW if you need a laugh, I searched for "NSA" (No Strings Attached) and came up with this.

But I hear they're baaaad in bed.

do you know, dolena, that's not really the kind of talk that I appreciate on MN? If I wanted to go on rudemisogynisticbollocks.com I would be there. I saw your thread and you're obviously a troll desperate, so kindly go and knock one out and then come back and post about hydrangeas or something.

I'm suspecting this is a fishing thread but what the hell.

Sure, where's the problem (and quit any talk of "guilt" unless one of the parties is being forced into doing something they don't want to)? I assume you pay for food when you want it; what's the difference?

Not sure if you are fishing or legit... but anyway...

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Supply & demand. You both know what you are getting out of it.

However, I know I wouldn't enjoy it because the whole time I would be thinking 'He's only fucking me for money, not because he finds me attractive' - so, I'd go with the one night stands or fuck buddy - it might take kissing a few frogs to find a good one, but that could be fun too :)

Dione

God love you son but that must have been the longest pregnancy in history.

No sex for two and a half years and the baby isn't quite one??

Suspect this person isn't quite legit folks - threads below (because I can't do fancy links)

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1046780-should-i-visted-a-call-girl

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1047319-irish-beef

whispers to botty-go back to bed- the other threads were from Dolena, not Dione

awh sorry too little sleep

There's no guarantee that even if you pay for this that it will be any better than a one night stand, and you'll be ££££ down and disappointed, how about a fuck buddy?

After watching the episode of Secret Diary of a Call Girl, when Belle visits a male escort for "research purposes", I have to admit I've harboured a secret fantasy of doing just that - no strings sex with a professional who really knows what he's doing!

However, I suspect the reality would be quite different! The very fact that I was paying for it would most likely make the whole experience much more clinical and therefore much less likely to do it for me. He wouldn't be half as good looking or talented. Then I'd be disappointed AND out of pocket!

Some fantasies are better off staying in your head!

Have to admit I've thought about this one too

...until I realised that a) I'm too stingy, b) it's somewhat easier for us females to find someone that wants to have sex with us without money changing hands!

so how much money would we be talking about here? hotel costs excluded....how much does the er,man,cost? and how long do you get him for.....cos i would hate to be clockwatching if he was any good!

Ewww I'd never pay for sex. Disgusting and humiliating. Thankfully I know I am capable of achieving fulfilling one night stands and would do so if the need arose. Why are you so averse to them? Sometimes ONSs can develop into casual sex relationships that can be a lot of fun, satisfying and commitment free.

I say go for it! Or use illicit encounters/NSA....you just need to be upfront and say you want a one off encounter. You can tell them beforehand the kind of thing you like and then at least they are half prepared before you get there.

It's your life, you do what you want.

You'll find a lot of people on here saying you are immoral etc...if you're happy with it,just do it! You only live once!

i cant believe people favour one night stands over a paid professional!

at least with the professional,it will be safe sex guaranteed,its booked so people know where you are and its with someone who has no interest in pursuing you/stalking etc.....one night stands,well they could be anyone!!