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Original poster

to think "hmm... shant go out for lunch with you again"

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OnlyWantsOne · 20/09/2010 17:35

Some friends of ours and DP and I went out for Sunday lunch yesterday to a pub.

We have a child. They do not.

We all (4 adults) had a main dinner
Child had childs portion of adult dinner, at 1/2 price
We they then shared a desert between them whilst we had 2 deserts between us.

Plus 1 round of drinks...

bill came to over 75

they put £20 on the table and then in the confusion of leaving etc, took DD out to run round in garden, I paid the bloody balance

so... they paid effective 10 each... and I paid 20 each for the adults and a £5 for DD's roast... am I being a grumpy tight arse?

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claig · 20/09/2010 17:39

YANBU, they pulled a fast one

BuntyPenfold · 20/09/2010 17:40

It doesn't seem to add up....but YANBU.

Some friends.

"Friends' did this to us in a Chinese a while ago, and they would not pay their share. Ex-friends I am sorry to say.

Dione · 20/09/2010 17:41

Oh nasty. YADNBU and you should never ever lunch with these people again.

piratecat · 20/09/2010 17:41

tight arses. how much were the mains?

so they didn't pay for thier desert or any drinks?

cat64 · 20/09/2010 17:42

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Hedgeblunder · 20/09/2010 17:43

Yaddddddnbu, barstards

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OnlyWantsOne · 20/09/2010 17:44

They are good friends of ours, but are very money aware, they know the prices of everything the own / ever bought (Im not like that, and I am crap with money) but I did kinda leave the pub with a hump!

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Pheebe · 20/09/2010 17:45

Hang on, you had 2 adult dinners, a childs dinner, 2 desserts and your drinks while they only had 2 adult dinners and 1 dessert plus drinks. Seems like it was probably a close thing and you should just have piped up if the difference meant that much to you.

YABU and should have asked for the money if money is more important than friendship to you

Itsjustafleshwound · 20/09/2010 17:45

Perhaps their tightfistedness has something to do with the reason why they are childless ... can't stand cheapskates MIL Grin

oldraver · 20/09/2010 17:49

So just how much was the adult dinner ? surely if they are 'money aware' they knew theirs were more than £10 each ?

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taintedpaint · 20/09/2010 17:53

cat64, I read it that OP and her DP had a dessert each, the child didn't have one, and the other couple shared one between them. Which would equal an extra dessert and a child's meal and drink more than the other couple. Still doesn't add up and sounds like OP was royally shafted tbh!

Tippychoocks · 20/09/2010 17:55

Are you sure they didn't think there were two twenties? You know how new ones are sticky-togethery and sort of slippery?

sapphireblue · 20/09/2010 18:02

Did they actually see the bill to know what the total was? Wondering if they didn't look at it and just grossly underestimated!

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OnlyWantsOne · 20/09/2010 18:02

They paid with two 10 notes.

we had 2 adult mains (same as them)
and two deserts (one more than them)
and a childs dinner, which was £5...

No drink for DD as she had her beaker, and all others were drinking wine etc, whilst I drank sparkling water (driving)

When I look at the bill, I dont think that mine and DPs bill should come to over 55!!

When we've eaten there before, a sunday lunch for the 3 of us, comes to about 35

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Cammelia · 20/09/2010 18:03

They should have paid at least £30 and who paid the tip??

AnxiousLand · 20/09/2010 18:03

Some people just have no shame

I would say you found the receipt and ask if they could payb you what they owe.

Ask them for their share of the bill.

Then dump them whatever the outcome

good luck

piratecat · 20/09/2010 18:03

op paid £55 for two main meals (say £20 tops for the two)

and she had to pay £35 for lets say child's meal at £5, so that takes it to £30.

2x desserts say £8, that takes it to £22.

so op paid £22 for 3 drinks, effectively!!!

Original poster
OnlyWantsOne · 20/09/2010 18:03

I paid the tip too, I left 5 for the waitress (although she was a grumpy teenager lol)

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Tippychoocks · 20/09/2010 18:03

Sod them then - was trying to be fair Grin

Yes, that is mean. YANBU.

piratecat · 20/09/2010 18:05

bloody hell thats £22 for 2 drinks then!

Cammelia · 20/09/2010 18:06

My childless SIL and her paramour always count child meals as full price adults when they divide up bills. I speak up.

Morloth · 20/09/2010 18:06

So why didn't you say something?

Cammelia · 20/09/2010 18:07

So basically the op paid for the bottle of wine - even though she didn't drink any

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OnlyWantsOne · 20/09/2010 18:11

they didnt have a bottle, DP had a pint, other two had a glass of red each.

I didnt speak up because whilst I was collecting DD's mess things they said they'd take her outside to run round, DP said he'd go too which was fine, as I expected to pay for our share, not bloody sub theirs, so I scooped up bill etc and the notes they had put in (in one of those little folder things) and went to bar to pay my share... only to be shocked to discover 20 and a remainder to pay of 55!!!

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