to not want to let my four year old DD have the Barbie she was given for her birthday?

[Nevertooearlyforcake]

We thought hidden it too quickly for it to have resonated on her consciousness but not so - many months after her birthday and suddenly she is making repeated demands for it. Think she's way too young - she doesn't, I do. AIBU?

oo, about action man - if there is a ds or a neighbour with one (or get one yourself) it's dead cool because barbie gets to go on the death slide from the upstairs bedroom window down to the apple tree in the garden . and we used to have fashion shows with the neighbour's barbies, having designed and made the clothes ourselves...

(they don't make a death slide for barbie that i'm aware of, but she does fit into the action man harness.)

and she can go and hunt for tigers and stuff with that tent. the action man stuff is better to get into a rucksack though.

I'm another one who would like to know what the exact objection is. YA(probably)BU whatever the reason though. It's just a doll.

NickOfTime, I used to make my Barbies some clothes out of toilet paper lol.

How old is DD, OP?

YABU. Restricting it will only make her want it more

DD1 had three Barbies at the age of three (all decently attired, not the slutty ones) but she never showed any interest in them. Same with DD2. Maybe yours won't like it either? Now if it were Bratz I'd bin them straightaway.

sorry just re-read the thread title.

toilet paper?

hope you didn't let her out in the rain...

OK, just did a quick search on OP's user name and this a first post.

Think the air of mystique has already sucked her in - normally she ignores dolls and is obsessed with her train set.

You're right, IABU. Think will try use it to counter the "Girls aren't doctors, mummy, they're nurses" chat that came out of her mouth yesterday though if I was her I'd only want to accessorise with Barbie with handbag and pink tutu.

could be a feminist board hardliner who wants to see what the general consensus is about gendered play... ('resonated on her consciousness' )

this tricksy boytoy stuff can be hard for a 4yo to resist when it's such a mainstream part of society.

that's a joke btw. i do post on the feminism board and i do roll my eyes in despair at some of the pinkery pushed towards girls.

YABU its a fucking doll ..

oo, hello! x-post.

mine all had carriages with their names on. they only actually made them for the boys so we had to name our own carriages for the girls.

It's just a doll. DD had been given about 6 by her 5th birthday. She likes to swap their clothes around (and tries to squeeze teddies into their clothes too) and asks me to plait their hair. I wasn't keen on barbies either but DD treats them the same as other dolls so I no longer worry.

that's similar to ds1 telling me he didn't want to get married and have babies because of all the cooking. i was so proud. but then dd1 spoilt it by saying 'don't be silly, ds, cooking is the woman's job.'

we had a little chat, dd1 and i. for a start, the only time i ever cook is when dh isn't here.

I am too lazy tonight to articulate my opinion so I'll let others do it -

From somewhere in cyber space, a quote that sums it up really -

"Many still don?t think she?s a good role model for their little girls. The reason is she?s unrealistic, well DUH. I mean she?s a doll, she?s not supposed to be. The Barbie tag line is ?I can be what I wanna be?? Which in my mind means she can be what ever a little girl can imagine. It?s also a great thing to tell girls that they can be what ever they want to be. "

www.barbiemedia.com/admin/uploads/BarbieCareers_FS_Feb2010.pdf

www.associatedcontent.com/article/1557349/role_model_barbie_turns_50.html?cat=9

38862652.nhd.weebly.com/introduction.html

answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070926165808AA54DrD

barbie's hair kept me quiet on many a long journey with the caravan on the back of the car. really, let her have it.

Can I please draw your attention to this barbiejuicy.mashkulture.net/english/2009/12/04/louboutins-jewel-thief-barbie/

Obviously a very bad role model.

Will buy DD this one instead
www.chickchatradio.com/index.php/blog/barbie-for-president/

barbie who has everything and yet she still needs to steal louboutins? that girl has issues

Lol NickOfTime, she never went out in the rain! It's just that the toilet paper (being white) was an ideal colour for her wedding dress. I never bothered dressing Ken, he got married naked.

I had shedloads of Barbie and similar dolls when I was a kid (70s child, there were shitloadsof different teen/adult dress-up doll ranges, many of which were actually pretty cool, like Action Girl and Havoc). They did parachute jumps, battled monsters, were in a rock band and duffed up my brothers' Action Men on a regular basis. Dolls are just dolls, kids invent their own storylines for them.

Ah let her have it. My DD (12) had loads and the hideous Bratz dolls too. She loved playing with them and had lovely times playing hairdresser too!

Now she is interested in sports and wants to be a marine biologist. Key is not to make a fuss; just dollies after all. DS had action man and both children used to get the dolls into many exciting adventures.

I loved Sindy as a child. I still remember with much affection the mini vacuum cleaner that came with one.

To the OP - where has your DD got hold of the idea that girls are nurses, not doctors?

Maybe you need to find a female GP! We have one, my DD has never met a male doctor, she doesn't have that idea.

I'd let her have it, I had Barbie's by that age (I did have a sister who was 3 years older) and loved playing with them.

Don't think it did me any harm, went on to study physics at uni and am certaninly not a girly girl type.

I loved my Sindy.

Unfortunately, while working undercover for the French resistance, she was captured by evil-nazi-Action Man. He melted her fingers in a candle flame (I hated you, brother), but did she reveal their secrets? Did she buggery!

She went on to have many fulfilling careers such as vet, helicopter pilot, tank commander and doctor, as well as having 6 Pippa children with her cuddly panda husband.