Why is it not ok for wedding guests to wear white?

[poshsinglemum]

Following on from guests wearing black thread?

Why is it considered a threat, snub or bad manners?

Is it to do with competing with the bride it being her big day?

My aunt turned up at my mum and dads wedding in a cream lace wedding dress from the same range as my mums dress, She thought it was alright as she it wasn't exactly the same and she had a different hat. When she married a few years later she sent out a note with her invite that no one had to wear the colour she was wearing so she would stand out as the bride

It's really bad manners. When I bought the white dress I was wearing to my evening reception the shop assistant got confused and almost refused to sell it to me until I'd reassured her that the wedding I'd be wearing it to was actually mine.

I don't really see the problem with little girls wearing bridesmaid dresses if they're not bridesmaids though - they'll want to wear their prettiest dress, which is probably the one they wore as a bridesmaid.

I recently went to the Wedding (evening reception) of DP's cousin... I wore this cream Topshop lace insert smock dress (I'm petite so it was quite long on me!). It's cream and I wore it with black opaque tights and black shoes - I accessorised with gold jewellery. I did not even think about it being bad manners until I read this! Nobody said anything to me, infact I had lots of lovely compliments when there! There was a couple of other ladies wearing cream/black combo's too. Both mothers wore floral patterned skirt suits too... not sure if it's either a sign of the times, that cream/white can be worn now or whether it was just a bunch of laid back, untraditional guests! I definitely shall not be wearing cream/white again though, just incase!

I agree about the little girls...my own DD wore a longish cream dress to my sisters wedding and nobody batted an eyelid...the actual bridesmaids had silky white frocks...and flowers in their hair...you can spot the difference between a bridesmaid and a little girl in a posh frock!

Oh and just remembered a guest at mine brought her child in a trainbearers dress complete with accessories, even though I had no children in the wedding party. My wee cousin was really upset as she though I'd chosen that wee girl over her. I never found this out until years later when my wee cousin (now grown up)mentioned it and I hadn't a clue what she was talking about.

AT my wedding my two adult cousins turned up in long satin bridesmaids style evening dresses in the same colour as my bridesmaids. They knew the colour scheme because their Dad made my cake.

Anenome wrote :

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She sounds unstable! Lol! Reliving the most perfect day of her life...at every wedding she's ever asked to!

Can just see her "Ooh lovely...cousin Nora's getting hitched...must dig out my bridal boquet and my veil!"

You are not far wrong!!! she did actually say on the day to other guests how she was loving reliving her wedding!!!!

How utterly bizarre! She must think she's normal!

My MIL bought a cream suit and then asked me if it was okay to wear it. I was a bit but said it was fine. Now I feel a bit miffed but in the great scheme of things I married the best man in the world and have had the nicest wedding dress in all the family weddings .

Lol pinkbasket - I thought you said you married the best man!!

LOL. Turns out he is gay so wouldn't have been so great for me.