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Original poster

To be shocked at how many immoral people there are in this area.

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insertwittynicknameHERE · 14/09/2010 12:39

Or am I just naive? and is every area the same.

I had a bit of an accident on the way home from the market after doing my shopping.

I let go of my phil & teds (to look at something in a shop window) with both the DD's in it and all my shopping. It rolled backwards and banged into a parked car. Both DD's were fine. I checked the car over and saw that there was a small dint where the buggy's second seat had hit the car.

So I went into the shop I was looking in to ask if they knew who's car it was. The guy worked in the shop. So I told him what had happened, apologized, obviously offered to pay for the damage gave him my details. Went round the corner to the to the garage which he said he usually uses and the mechanic came and had a look and said it would be £40.00.

I told him that I don't have the money today but will on Saturday at the latest. I will pop by and drop the money in. Also asked him to contact me if it ends up being more than £40.00 so I can bring him what it costs.
I have also took his details just in case.

FWIW if I didn't find the owner I was going to leave my details on the car anyway so still wouldn't have just walked or ran away.

Rang DH when I got home, he laughed at me and said only you could be so ditsy. It is true I am a bit ditsy, next time I will remember to put the bloody break on.

Just put it on my fb status to be told I should have run away, not told anyone and even been called stupid for owing up to my mistake. people have said it happens all the time in this area and I should have just walked away. I am not that kind of person and if this was my car (not that I have a car or even drive anyway) and the person who damaged it walked away, irrespective of how minor the damage was, I would be quite angry to be honest.

Was I wrong, should I have legged it!! Are most people immoral in this way?

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giveitago · 14/09/2010 12:45

I think you did the right thing.

BeerTricksPotter · 14/09/2010 12:45

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SnowieBear · 14/09/2010 12:45

No, you were not wrong. Yes, quite a few people are immoral, but I wouldn't say most.

Now, off you go to polish your halo.

Original poster
insertwittynicknameHERE · 14/09/2010 12:46

Haha.
Just been thinking baout it, and it could have been so much worse, what if it was a moving car? DD's were in the buggy, doesn't bear thinking about!!!!

What is £40.00 to both my DD's lives.

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BitOfFun · 14/09/2010 12:47

Why on earth would you put it on your facebook status? Confused

Original poster
insertwittynicknameHERE · 14/09/2010 12:47

snowiebear, I don't have a halo. I am not some sort of angel. Just like to do the right thing.

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DanceInTheDark · 14/09/2010 12:47

Not wrong but do think about using the brake occasionally! That could have been a main road that it went into. Does the P&T not have one of those wrist strap things?

Original poster
insertwittynicknameHERE · 14/09/2010 12:49

BOF, cos I wanted to Grin

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Original poster
insertwittynicknameHERE · 14/09/2010 12:49

Yes I will be using the break from now on lol.

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SnowieBear · 14/09/2010 13:01

OP - so do I, so do I... not always get it right, though!

earthworm · 14/09/2010 13:12

Well you have just restored my faith in people!

I was parked at our local hospital this morning and saw a little old lady reverse into a parked car, causing quite a lot of damage to both cars - she then sped off at high speed looking furtive!

To me it was worse because it was a hospital car park - owner of parked car is presumably ill or worried about an ill relative.

Flighttattendant · 14/09/2010 13:16

I made a teeny little scratch in the top layer of paint the other day on someone's car at Tesco's. It was a really, really scruffy car with its fair share of issues already, so I ummed and arred about it for five minutes and decided to wait and see. There was no one there when we returned about half an hour later - car was still next to ours.
I thought about owning up but then thought, if it were mine and already in that state, I would be unlikely to care very much.

So I left it. I still feel worried though. It was about a 1cm long mark.

If it had been a posher car I'd have left a note or waited. I went on what I would want the person to do, if it were the other way round iyswim.

ChippingIn · 14/09/2010 13:16

You should 'do the right thing' because 'it's the right thing' not so you can boast about it - when you do that, you are no better than the people who don't 'do the right thing'.

Nancy66 · 14/09/2010 13:28

Nah - I don't agree that most people are like this. i think the majority of people are decent and the minority aren't.

Hullygully · 14/09/2010 13:31

I am shocked and saddened.

tortoiseonthehalfshell · 14/09/2010 13:34

I was really hoping for a more salacious interpretation of "immoral".

spikeycow · 14/09/2010 13:47

It's OK going on about morality when you have the money to pay for it. Are you living below the poverty line? Can you guarantee you never will? A few years back I wouldn't have paid it because it would have meant no food for the week, or no bill payments for the week. It sounds like you want major congratulations. That's why it went up on facebook.
Yours sincerely. the immoral one.

curlymama · 14/09/2010 13:54

Simelar thing happened to me once, I reversed into someones car in a car park and left a little dent. So I left a note on the window with my phone number, went home and told my now ex about it. He did the same thing as yours, told me I should have left it (I don't think anyone saw), and generally made me feel stupid for doing the honest thing. Anyway, a couple of hours later the man that owned the car phoned, and told me that he was so touched by my honesty that he wouldn't dream of charging me for the repair! He was really lovely, and I expect could afford to get his car fixed without any problems. It was so nice - good karma all round. And I got to feel very smug in front of the ex.

BTino · 14/09/2010 14:00

So what? I don't think this figures highly on a scale of immorality. By your thread title I was expecting prostitution at the very least!

Yeah yeah, you're so brilliant and such a saint, pat on the back for you. Just make sure that your nose isn't so high in the air you step in the dogshit that some immoral peasant has left.

Nancy66 · 14/09/2010 14:00

spikey - what if the person whose property you damaged was even worse off than you?

spikeycow · 14/09/2010 14:03

They wouldn't be if they could run a car

Nancy66 · 14/09/2010 14:05

what if it wasn't a car - what if your kid broke their window?

spikeycow · 14/09/2010 14:09

Then they either accept my offer of 2 quid a week or suck it up. Nobody on Mumsnet would pay the £40 if it meant not eating,not washing their clothes in the laundrette that week etc. No one.

BTino · 14/09/2010 14:09

Oh ffs, there is a huge difference between a kid breaking a window and a pram leaving a small dent in a car.

Broken windows cost more and leave a mess that can be dangerous to passers-by, plus it's an invite to thieves to nick their gear.

A small dent in a car. She owned up and now wants us all to polish her halo whilst looking down at everyone else who are obviously immoral if they don't work on the same principles.

I think it's immoral to let go of a pram whilst coveting goods in a shop window. So there.

mrsruffallo · 14/09/2010 14:13

I would probably have left it to be honest
It was a small dent in a car
This does not effect the cars function
You did what you thought was right, good for you, but I wouldn't be shocked if half the people I know would have walked waw