strictly tory what are you on about?
I am not saying that you are to blame for what happened to marjoriew 
What I am saying, is that when someone catalogues the most appalling abuse at the hands of other, the normal response that compassionate people make is "I am sorry to hear that has happened to you", or similar. To acknowledge what they have just heard, and express that they understand how terrible it is.
What you did, was completely ignore it, and then pick her up because she said something silly about the pope's name.
I was pointing out that I found that strange, and that you should choose to pick her up on a small joke, with no acknoledgement whatsoever about the abuse that she had suffered.
Your response was that "you don't know the whole story". What on earth does that mean? That maybe there is a side we're not hearing, about how marjoriew actually was very bad and deserved extreme punishment? Something like that?
Your reponses to her do not demonstrate an ounce of compassion or feeling. You simply badger away "oh why should I say I'm sorry for what happened? I didn't do it. Why should anyone have to acknowledge what she's said? Why not pick her up on making a minor joke and ignore the details of the suffering?".
Why not eh? That;s the whole problem. People aren't interested, more interested in protecting themselves.
When people meet people who have been bereaved, they say "I'm sorry for you loss". it's not an admission that they killed them. When people meet others who have had bad experiences they say "I am sorry to hear what has happened". This does not mean they are confessing their guilt. I honestly don't get this.