ok logically I am - but bear with me here. Dh picking me up from airport or station ,wants to time it so he has to spend minimal time there and preferably not even get out of car

[brimfull]

aibu in feeling slightly insulted

if it was me i would arrive early and eagerly await loved one.

His attitude of wanting it to be as painless as possible smacks of being put out at having to do it in the first place and hence uncaring/can't be arsed .

We haven't had major fall out about this btw- he thinks I am mad

perhaps i am

YANBU - it's like realizing you're not in the dating stage anymore isn't it? I think it's just a man thing like everyone else has said but I love the whole 'Love Actually' feeling of someone being enthusiastic enough about you that they can't wait to see you and don't want to wait in the car.

hahaha
he went to pick dd up from airport which is why we were discussing it
her plane was 40 min late-he parked the car
oh how we roared

monkeytoo - I was going to as ggirl if she was a fan of Love Actually.
Of course he should wait in airport. YANBU.

I too am a fan waiting / being collected from the airport, the anticpication and excitment, I collect a coffee and then wait by the barrier ! tis so lovely after a long journey to see a friendly face to help you with your bags and hear all about your journey!

Love taking DC to collect people from the airport they think it is great.

I think part of this is that I grew up with family coming to visit from Canada and their arrival was always a thing of much planning and anticipation.

So YADNBU at all x

DH and I try and time airport pick-ups to avoid parking charges which are astronomical at Manchester.

So picker-upper (PUer) lurks in car down country lane near airport in manner of plane spotter (or possibly something more sinister), pick-upee (PUee) calls when at baggage reclaim, PUer drives to departures (not arrivals) where you can do drive by drop-offs/pick-ups with no charge, and continues to drive around and around until PUee arrives and leaps into car at kerbside (possibly while car is still moving). It may not be romantic but it is often dramatic.

I think it would be different if PUee was returning from a 6 month secondment to Antarctica or something, but for regular pick-ups from weekends away or business trips there's no need for any fuss.

D

yabu
That's the aim when dealing with airports, to spend as little time as possible in them.
Also agree with the poster who says getting someone to pick you up from the airport at all is unreasonable. Proportionally such a waste of time when the timing is so unreliable. Much better to get a bus to town or somewhere and get collected from there.

YANBU - making a fuss is a good thing. Fortunately for me DH is happy to make a fuss at every available opportunity so I get indulged

sorry but childish snigger at PUee and PUer

Think yourself very lucky that your DH is willing to come and fetch you! Don't impose waiting around in an airport/station on anyone!

YANBU

After my sister moved away DC and I have endured drive-by pick ups,
walking half an hour to a more convenient pick up place and one particularly disappointing drunken incident which was not actually a pick-up but a wobbly escort home on the bus
I was delighted after the last time we returned from visiting her DH met us in the station with flowers and hugs and took us for a meal on the way home, in fact I was so pleased DC3 was probably conceived that very night

i as once eagerly looking forward to seeing my dh at Gatwick airport when he came to pick up myself and my mum after we had been away for a week.we arrived at the airport and i couldnt see my dh.After waiting thirty mins i rang him this was the conversation
me " where are you?"
Dh " at home putting on my shoes"
Me "You had better be joking "
DH " No, i accidently put the alarm off and only just woke up "
Me" you had betterfucking get up here"
In about an hour and a half he had arrived ,we then had a very frosty trip home.We laugh about it now but at the time i was livid,as my mum then was in her late seventies and also i really was upset that i wasnt going to have a happy reunion at the airport.

I forgot to mention that we also live in Bournemouth.

sockmonkey I had a childish snigger when I wrote it as well .

I must be the only one who loves going to the airport to pick people up, cos I can go to the bookshop and get all the airport exclusives :)

OK, I'm a geek

Bit annoying if it means you will have to struggle out with cases and stand around out front for 40 mins just so he doesn't have to park up or get out of the car. So YANBU for me. Most airports have 15 mins' grace on free parking for pure pick up / drop offs now. Get him to drive to the nearest Starbucks / Costa outside the airport ahead of time, then say you'll text as you're going through customs. Job done.

YABU

If you've been away for a month then it's reasonable to expect a bit more of an effort, waiting lovingly with flowers etc, but if it's just been a short hop then if I were you I'd just be grateful to be picked up at all.

hi ggirl, I'm with you on this one.

When my DH went away for 2 weeks I went to meet him at the airport with DD and I even made a little sign with his name on like the chauffeurs have at airports and waved it and shouted like a mad groupie when he appeared. I didn't tell him we'd be there and he was very surprised, especially as we don't have a car so I just went there and back on the tube so he would have someone to accompany him home.

Oh God, I am such a loser. But this is what I would want if I went away from my family for a few weeks!

I did this for my dd last week when she returned from Australia!!

lol at I hate you all

I always go early to pick people up from the airport, but that's because my local ones are Gatwick and Heathrow, so I'm paranoid about traffic and being late and because I love going there on my own and having a leisurely coffee. MIL (who's the one I'm normally collecting) always insists on slipping me a tenner for parking/petrol anyhow (given up trying to get her to stop, she gets upset if I refuse it).

I wouldn't insist on anyone else doing it though. TBH I'd just be grateful for the lift!

Do you travel a lot, ggirl?

In a lot of ways, taking an airplane now is as mundane as taking a bus. I would only ever time myself to arrive on time ie at least 30 minutes after arrival.

We do the meeting at the airport thing...my Dh worked abroad for about 6 months - he was away Monday - Friday and came home every Friday evening.

Every week my (then 2) DDs would go to the airport in plenty of time, park, get out, check the arrivals board, decide if we needed to have a snack before Daddy's plane arrived back, then either have a snack or just wait at International arrivals...

And every week the girls would run towards him screaming Daddy Daddy Daddy in front of everyone when they first caught sight of him...

it was part of the ritual of welcoming him home every week

I kind of agree with you - YANBU in my opinion.

I too love it when people collect me from the airport, but hardly anyone ever does . It does make it that much nicer arriving somewhere, having someone waiting as you come through arrivals with a big smile, rather than looking like billy no mates and walking off no your own.

One of the BEST things to ever happen (not airport, but in the same vein) was when I started an evening class, and totally unexpectedly, DP turned up to pick me up, with a bunch of roses, and then took me out for dinner. I couldn't stop smiling the whole time.

However, finishing the rest of the classes in the course wasn't half as lovely.

YANBU - I love being picked up, and always try to meet people, even off trains. I think it is so much more welcoming.

And I travel a lot, and still would love it.