to think grown women, anyone over the age of about 16 actually, expressing lustful thoughts for actors/celebrities or men in the public eye, are just ridiculous?

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How can you fancy someone you have never even met?

Surely that is the realm of tweenagers, teenagers or stalkers!

I do find it very hard to stomach when supposedly intelligent adult women go all silly over some sleb or other, whether its Jeremy Paxman or Michael Buble or Robert Pattinson or Brian Cox ... or whoever.

More people should be watching Supernatural. And yes, Cas (Misha) is quite nice too. He's absolutely mental on Twitter though.

The Daniel Jackson mention reminds me that I used to have a massive TV-crush on Ben Browder (Farscape, Stargate).

In fact most of my TV crush people have been in genre shows... weird!

YABVU!

A nice bit of fantasy now and then never did anyone any harm :)

Stalking = bad
Lusting after a fantasy figure whilst washing windows = just bloody sensible!

It's not just about looks - it's about imagination. It would be much more worrying if I were lusting after someone I'd actually met.

YABU and a bit tedious and taking yourself way too seriously. I agree that grown women fancying male celebrities can take it too far - but really what is the harm in commenting that you happen to find someone attractive? I was winding my DH up on saturday morning over a Bulgari advert with Clive Owen in it in the Guardian magazine. I challenge any red blooded women to be totally unaffected by it!!

Ach I fancy loads of folk I see on TV and I don't care. I don't actually think that Hugh Jackman would fancy me in the slightest but I demand the right to lust after him or anyone else I see fit!!! Frankly OP, I think you need to unclench.

I don't get the connection between intelligence and fancying folk. My bits didn't dry up when I got my degree.

It's fun, because it's completely unrealistic. I am very middle aged, but I can still fantasize, doesn't mean I'm too deluded to know that if I danced round Johnny Depp in my underwear he'd vomit.

I think that the intelligent thing to do is to fantasize about celebrities.

If you find that you are getting, shall we say, "slightly bored" , with the in-house offerings, then isn't the more intelligent approach to fantasize over the clearly unobtainable to liven things up mentally; as this is far safer than thinking about someone who is actually a possibility and so could lead to real complications?

Isn't that the whole point of fantasy - ie it is, and always will be, precisely that; rather than accidently turning into some actual affair?

Mammie hearts Robert Downey Junior 4eva

I used to and still do have a bit of a "thing" for Neil Buchannan on Art Attack.

I know it's not normal, but I've learnt to live with it.

I mean I don't want him to drag me up an alley way by my hair and fuck me sensless over some bins outside a nightclub....but you know, it's a childhood thing and all that!

YANBU.

Those who still have fantasies, did you not get your fill in your teenage years. Perhaps you are late maturers?

teamedward - believe it or not - there is an even tastier picture than that! I think that's another one from the same shoot though.
As my username suggests, I also love John Hamm. Yummmm.

blueshoes - No, I probably didn't get my fill in my teenage years. However back then I was mostly fantasising about spotty lads my own age (although there was also Mark Owen, Edward Furlong (before he went 'orrible), and Omri Katz (from Eerie Indiana) - none of these would be on my list now).

I genuinely think that while not everyone does it, it's perfectly normal/healthy to do the odd bit of celeb-fancying. I always enjoy threads where people list theirs and try to find the weirdest/most popular one!

I have a few crushes on slebs and think it's perfectly normal.

I draw the line at posters on my bedroom wall these days though

I can't actively "fancy" someone I've never met but Sean Bean is bloody gorgeous! Then again I'm well aware of the fact that despite having a nice face, he's just a normal bloke who probably leaves his stuff everywhere, farts after a curry, snaps when he's tired and gets on his wife's tits every now and again so .... !!

Oh and I think he's been divorced 3 times now so he can't be that great to live with

I've actually fancied Gael Garcia Bernal and Daniel Bruhl, for longer then I've been with DH, so I don't feel even slightly guilty about that.

deaddei.

We meet again.

Looks like I'll be wrestling you for Duncan Ballantyne and Jose Marinho as well as Lee Mack

< rolls up sleeves >

OP- Of course YABU. Get some sunshine in your life

well of course it's ridiculous. But who cares? it's just fun and escapist!

I can't see why anyone would have a problem withthis.
i have been with DH for 23 years, married for 21.
withthe best will in the world, whilst he is still hugely fanciable and still seems pretty taken with me, we now know each other as well as itis possible to know another human. So whilst that is great for intimacy, it is less helpful on the mystery and excitement stakes.
So fancying someone who is actually unknown to you has all the pleasure of being entirely a creature of your own making. It is IMHO a much better option than never glancing at any one except my DH or chosing to notice men oof my aquaintence.
A good harmless bit of lusting after someone you will never meet is good for the imagination and can aid a healthy sex life. Lusting after people you know falls into the category of Really Bad Decisions

Only ever looking at your DH may be frightfully virtuous but I suspect will get a bit dull after the first decade. I would be quite worried about DH if he didn't ever mention finding the mad men girls gorgeous or noticing Anjelina if she is semi clad on the screen. At that point we should just both buy our slippers and cocoa and be done with it

soo agree with you TeamEdward im just the same but it is very distracting sometimes especially if you read this thread

www.fanfiction.net/s/4819806/1/The_Red_Line

but warning it contains lots of 'Lemons' as they say!

But must say my hubby isn't complaining even though I would die of embarrisment if he found out about my little obsession.

YABVUI!

I really, really enjoy a good celeb crush. It's nothing like stalking whatsoever. It's a rare thing nowadays, however. I don't think I've seen an attractive celeb for years.

I knew someone who had a huge crush on a star from several hit US shows. When she found out he was in London promoting something she turned up his book signing or what ever and talked to him for a while etc and made it clear she found him attractive. Then she sent loads of red roses to his hotel with a card asking him out to dinner. Maybe going way to far but secretly admire her for her nerve - doubt her partner felt the same about it though. I was a bit !