to think they were wrong to have sex?

[happychick2010]

i recently went away with OH and kids and some friends of ours with their 10 year old daughter. We stayed in a travelodge which are quite big rooms. Anyway whilst we were away our friends were celebrating their wedding anniversary and had sex whilst their daughter slept in the same room.

I dont know if its me been old fashioned but i could never have sex with my children in the same room at the age they are now.

AIBU?

I just hope the DC wasn't awake and happen to mention it when she goes back to school.. is the sort of thing teachers are trained to pick up on and fill in forms about

I had the horible praents-shagging-in-my-earshot experience too.

I wouldn't assume that all children would be upset by it, but then surely the problem is parents doing it and assuming their child would shrug it off (this is presumably after having also assumed their child would stay asleep).

Can really relate to how others have described their experiences. And its not as though I didn't know about sex, or didn't know my parents did it etc.

I felt really sick and trapped (wasn't even in the same room but the other side of a very thin wall in a bedsit).

What made it so upsetting was a combination of things - and I cant even explain it very well because at 9 I probably couldn't articulate in my own mind, I just felt how I felt - it was partly the feeling that I was doing something wrong in hearing it even though I had no choice in the matter, and it was hearing this grunty, breathless, sexual noise they were making and knowing that this was not a side to them that I should know.

I know everyone's saying that a furtive shag under the duvet when child is asleep is different to noisy, careless sex but the point is you dont know if the child will wake up and if they do they're possibly(probably?) going to lie there and endure it rather than pipe up and ask you to stop.

I think it's vile personally and do not understand how you could ever be in the mood for sex with anyone in the same room let alone a 10 year-old child. At that age you're old enough to know a bit about sex and I find it highly unusual that they couldn't control themselves until they got home or like another poster said nip to the loo.
It's clearly not abuse but it's horrible, that poor child if they had woken up!

Eurostar that thread was completely different in many ways. The OP's partner sexually assaulted OP after bringing the child into the room, making reference to what he was about to do, then telling the child to look away. That is so very different from assuming the child is asleep, and and act between two consenting adults, surely?

Well I don't suppose any of us would sanguinely allow a 10 YO to watch porn, would we?

i remember waking up in my room at about 8 yrs old from a nightmare, and my dad running in to check on me with a big hard on.

i will never forget that!! they'd only recently told me how babies were made too, and i thought that was disgusting enough.

where's the op gone?

Piratecat: but that really is an example of a loving parent - he thought you were in distress so ran in to attend to you. Not really his fault his hard on wouldn't wilt immediately (they don't always, despite the negative stimulus on offer).

yeah true, this thread just brought it all back to me lol.

dad's willy. eww

heh heh WOWOY.

Would it be ok to do it in a Radisson, or a Malmaison?