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to think they were wrong to have sex?

109 replies

happychick2010 · 29/08/2010 19:55

i recently went away with OH and kids and some friends of ours with their 10 year old daughter. We stayed in a travelodge which are quite big rooms. Anyway whilst we were away our friends were celebrating their wedding anniversary and had sex whilst their daughter slept in the same room.

I dont know if its me been old fashioned but i could never have sex with my children in the same room at the age they are now.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Alouiseg · 29/08/2010 22:02

I don't care who's in the room..........I just couldn't have sex in a, a, a, Travel Lodge [dismay]

MadAboutQuavers · 29/08/2010 22:09

This happened to me when I was 11, I woke up to find my parents having sex in the same room. They were reasonably quiet, but it woke me anyway.

They were absolutely convinced I was fast asleep, as I found out when I brought it up about 20 years later.

They were horrified. But nowhere near as frightened, horrified and revolted as I was at the time. It affected me quite badly, so all I would say to anyone who is considering doing this with a child in the room who will know EXACTLY what is going on, don't be so dismissive of the possibility that your child may be awake and aware that he/she is witnessing intercourse between two adults at close quarters for the first time in his/her life.

FallingWithStyle · 29/08/2010 22:13

They weren't in a primitive tribe, they were in a Travelodge.

DuelingFanjo · 29/08/2010 22:15

YABU.

though why they chose to tell you is beyond me.

LackingInspiration · 29/08/2010 22:18

YABVU

As others have said, how the hell do you think people who have a whole family to one or two rooms manage, FGS? Or how we survived up until a hundred years or so ago...or later?

Flippin' heck!

Alouiseg · 29/08/2010 22:19

Primitive tribes didn't have Travel Lodges to congregate in?!!!!

sloanypony · 29/08/2010 22:22

Alouiseg I'm with you...if it hasn't got 5 stars and a roll top bath I'm not lifting my nightie for no-one.

End of.

FallingWithStyle · 29/08/2010 22:23

Having to shag in the vicinity of family members as there is no viable alternative - fair enough.
Having a shag in the vicinity of family members cos you cant contrlol yourself - grim.

Alouiseg · 29/08/2010 22:24

Ritz Carlton all the way Sloany :o

whomovedmychocolate · 29/08/2010 22:25

Thank god it wasn't a Premier Inn, Lenny Henry would have been there too! Grin

Alouiseg · 29/08/2010 22:27

Goodness!!! I don't see how LH would fit!

Portofino · 29/08/2010 22:27

"They weren't in a primitive tribe, they were in a Travelodge." Quote of the week vote from me!

ciforjif · 29/08/2010 22:28

I can remember my parents 'at it' in the bed next to me when I was about 10, we were on holiday at the tiime. It was horrific and I was quite tramatised by it. My mum was making terrible noises including fanny farts (!) and I just could not understand what was going on. Mind you I found them at it on the sofa one afternoon when I came back earlier than I was expected. My mum trying to shoo me out of the room and my dad carrying on. Dear God. I would never do it within hearing distance of my children and to be honest we both feel the only time we can is when they are out of the house.

paisleyleaf · 29/08/2010 22:32

"They weren't in a primitive tribe, they were in a Travelodge." Love it! Grin

I think Strawberry's right though..."There's a difference between a silent fumble under the duvet and swinging from the light fittings"

TheFallenMadonna · 29/08/2010 22:33

Out of the house?

Portofino · 29/08/2010 22:33

That is awful! When did sex become such a nasty thing that it has to be hidden away? |Fair enough you don't invite the family round to watch, but surely it shouldn't be relegated to some nasty sordid thing...?

ciforjif · 29/08/2010 22:36

I meant at school or at friends etc. is that OK fallen?

MadAboutQuavers · 29/08/2010 22:40

I'm glad someone other than me understands how potentially damaging this can be ciforjif, having experienced it too

TheFallenMadonna · 29/08/2010 22:44

Sorry. Were DH and I only to have sex when our children were out of the house (and we were in it) we would only have sex a handful of times a year. Your circumstances are different, and of course your own affair.

TheFallenMadonna · 29/08/2010 22:46

I didn;t find it distressing when I inadvertently came upon my parents. Gross of course, but not causing lasting distress. I had sort of assumed it was some king of rite of passage....

TheFallenMadonna · 29/08/2010 22:46

kind of...

chippy47 · 29/08/2010 22:47

No posts from op. Ermmmmmm

MadAboutQuavers · 29/08/2010 22:48
Hmm

Sex, the actual physical act, should be hidden away from children actually *portofino

We're not talking about your parents or siblings being in the same room, we're talking about your children witnessing it. Being on the receiving end and understanding what you're witnessing feels like child abuse - it's horrific.

TheFallenMadonna · 29/08/2010 22:49

See, that wasn't my experience of it at all. I'm actually a bit Hmm at child abuse.

ciforjif · 29/08/2010 22:57

Quavers you are so right. Even now it is hard to come to terms with. Luckily I don't have any strange hang ups and we have a perfectly healthy sex life and no complaints on either side. But I do not in anyway want my chilren to see or witness anything like that from their parents. Sorry but in my eyes it is just wrong and from someone who has been on the receiving end it is disturbing. Perhaps in other cultures where it is part of life it is acceptable because children are witness to it from an early age but being 10 or 11 and witnessing it for the first time is just wrong.

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