in wishing we had family support nearby to help out/visit at the weekends?

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in a bit of a mood so feel free to ignore me

am just fed up to the back teeth of seeing all my friends visiting their families or having their families over on the weekends and as usual its just the 4 of us here. we have no family nearby. we do have friends but at the weekends they are usually out whilst the kids go to grannies/cousins etc etc. so we also miss out on a social lfe as we can't take the kids and we can't afford babysitters, it has to be for something really special not just a drink with the neighbours. all the neighbours here go out regularly and we are the only ones under 60 who never go out.

am just fed up have had for yrs and theres no end to it. everyone I know here has family for childcare and we have no one. we just have very elderly mums who need looking after now, its all changed.

I just so crave some family support, some who can pop in or you can take the kids and visit. someone you don't have to make plans with its just there for you whenever you want it. friends all have family or the kids are diiferent ages/stages to ours and its too much palaver getting them altogether when it results in bored moany kids.

its just crap having no one

the boys are both really busy with their clubs and social lives, but as with most parents with 2 kids at different ages most things are on at different times and trying to get something altogether wouldn't work (also TBH I like to get out of the house myself instead of dragging them all with me )its a good idea though, thanks, I'll bear it in mind.

I'm not in any rush to get the 9 yr old to stay in by himself, I can see, what with having a 12 yr old, that these things happen naturally as they get older and I don't think there's any point in forcing things if he's not happy with that (and I know I wouldn't be happy/relaxed, not yet anyway).

The future will only get easier, I know that. And its a million times easier than when they were small.

Its just hard listening to work clooegues/neighbours/friends talking about their families and the things they do together and wishing it was me

oops!