to think that ADHD/ADD is a load of nonsense?

[Breton1900]

Are we really producing ever more kids with these conditions or do parents simply need to take back control and realise that, at times, all kids can be obnoxious, loud, defiant, restless and fidgety and that strictly enforced rules for behaviour, lots of TLC, and the occasional smack on the bum may be the way forward?

Mine can cope with trains, but he has a card that he writes the ticket info on to show. So he doesn't have to speak to anyone or remember in a stressful situation. He writes the card.
Yes there are ticket machines, but also a line of irritated and bolshy users that rattle him.
So he's on the train, iPod plugged into his ears and reading. Isolation.

hey Fagin-im glad youve stayed:)
yes-the bloody benifits-this makes it really worthwhile dont it.
reaping all this money in every week-great.
we re living the life of riley.
its like winning the lottery innit.
yep-im one of them bad parents-not only single parent-but not educated and wont smack my child-and bloody hell-i live in a very poor area-
oh gawd-ive even got a cockney accent-
[probably the ol bints worse nightmare]
but the reality is-im a good parent-
and i lay in bed every night being scared-
cos of thoughts like-im frightened for my childs future-im scared that a nonse is going to get her-im scared that others are going to take advantage of her-im scared that others are going to harm her-im scared that i wont be able to protect her no more-im scared of a lot of things-im just so bloody scared.
and before some crank posts back and says well its the same for every parent-no its fuckin not-and i dont want to hear it.
i would give every penny back for things to be diffrent.

FGS trouble I have already said I am not a world expert on this!!!

I don't think anyone minds the questions venus, it's the fact that you were drawing some inaccurate conclusions based on a restricted understanding. And being judgy with them.

maryz-this is the sort of thing that I worry about woth these children driving. DDs friend wrote off his Mums car within days of passing his test.i

Many of the car accidents round here are teens, with various combinations of drink, drugs and mates in a car travelling too fast.
My DS hates the taste of alcohol, fears the consequences of drugs and has no mates. he also watches the speed limit much more carefully than I do. I know many Aspies that are the same, and several NT teens that have injured or killed themselves on the roads.

twt, haven't you heard the saying
'Insanity is hereditary, you get it from your children'?

Venus, oh right this friend has passed his test and written off a car within days of passing his test now.

"THEN the minute he is 17 = he gets driving lessons, passes a test and then is allowed control of a car"

He turned 17, had lessons and passed his test since you wrote your post a few minutes ago?

Claw3 - not sure what you are getting at???.. He got lessons at 17, passed, then wrote off his Mums car

Venus you original post read

"can anyone explain to me WHY one of dds friendes parents have claimed every bloody benefit under the sun because he is ASD or whatever including having free passes for someone to accompany him to the cinema THEN the minute he is 17 = he gets driving lessons, passes a test and then is allowed control of a car barely weeks after he is deemed not able to go to a cinema unaccompanied"

you then tell us he has now had lessons, passed his test, had control of a car and written it off and said that is why you worry about 'these' people driving.

You didnt mention this in your original post. If he has passed his test, he has been deemed road worthy, whether he crashes in his car is irrelevant, it could happen to anyone.

Your original post also wasnt you worry about his driving skills, but the money etc that his parents received.

'He got lessons at 17, passed, then wrote off his Mum's car'

Trust me, much more likely to be linked to his gender and age than any sn he has.
there are numerous statistics and studies to beck me up, mostly done by insurance companies.

sorry I didnt give you the whole life story in original post.

Im confused what are you worried about his driving skills or the money etc he receives?

or perhaps both? seems 'these' people, cant do anything right.

maryz wrote: "I dread him turning 17 because I won't be able to stop him driving."

Why not? Just refuse to pay for the lessons.

That would slow the process, unless he's got a job or savings he could access and pay for his own lessons. Or he could just get a mate to teach him and not worry about the legalities of insurance.

Riven (and others). I would like to apologise if I have offended anyone with my ignorance of this condition. I now realise that the affects can vary greatly between sufferers. I am going to read up on this to try to improve my understanding. Sorry to you all.