bear with me i have two of the farking monsters so there is two stories.
FIRST,
my closest friends, the dcs god parents and legal gardians should anything happen to me and dp, are getting married this september, my ds age 36mnths and dd 20mnths are page boy and bridesmaid.
After asking me to pay for a £300 dress for dd and pay for ds suit hire, i said NO, we are in financial strife as it is, i dont really care if they are in the wedding party dont include them if you cant afford it, dd was brought a lovely debanhams dress which no matter what we cant get on her, she screams and crys and gets exceptionally distressed, DS reacted the same at being measured in the tailors.
Bride expects me to drop my two toddlers at her house on the day and leave them with complete strangers except her to be dressed and got ready for 4hours, shes already expressed ''she will fucking wear it if i have to glue it too her'' about dds awful huge flower headband, and ds is so painfully shy i doubt well get him through the door,
BUT heres the best bit.
She wants our children to go in the wedding car on someones lap, again a stranger to us and the children, for a 35minute drive on a motorway then country lanes.
she is trying to convince us its not against the law in a wedding car.
either way it aint happening, i have carseats for a reason.
SECOND.
SIL is getting married next year, we live 2hrs drive (on a good day) away from my ils, and the cermony is no children, despite having her own, BUT they want the kids there for the reception and photos, they are insisting, we have no one who can have the kids in the area of the wedding so shes said there is a two hour gap between that we can go and get them, a 4hr drive, then at the end 2hrs home, hotels are out of the question and family cant put us up. So 8hrs driving in one day, and god knows how much fuel, i asked dp to go on his own but thats how most occasions end up and hes pissed off.
I am just so aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh that they are so farking unreasonable, or am i?