to be a bit sad that my Mum wants her grandchildren to call her by her first name?

[twinsister]

My Mum doesn't want to be called Granny or Nana or any other grandmotherly name. I know that rationally it doesn't make any difference what she is called, she is still my daughter's granny and always will be. And ultimately it's her call. Anyone else in the same situation and should I just drop this as an issue do you think?

oh let her

she will be the cool Nana

My Stepdad does not want to be called Grandad - his loss. She has 2 other Grandads who love the title.

YABU.

I'm a Nanny - I think it's the least worst!

I'm also a very young nanny (37 when dgd was born), having had my ds at 18 and he was 20 when he became a dad.

I love being a nanny, but the title is synonymous with little old ladies and I'm not!! I'm 39 now, have a 4yr old dd and am ttc......

So I can understand how your mum feels. Has the baby been born yet?? Maybe she'll feel differently then. Is her first grandchild?? I was overwhelmed by how much I love my dgd.

I'm 58 and my friends of a similar age who have become grandmothers loathe being called Granny. I know I will too when DD eventually gets round to having children. YABU

it's her first and she's nine months old. I thought she might change her mind but if anything she's more determined now. I agree with Jodie's mummy that it's her loss and had resolved not to give it another thought. But DH's Mum isn't very well and I started thinking that maybe my daughter would have no-one to call Granny.

or Nana, or Nan, or Nanny, or Grandma or whatever

My grandmother never liked being called "gramma" by me as she felt she was too young about 39. She insisted I called her nana (pretty unusal in the states). I took no heed at all

She was always graaaaama to me. Your kids will call her what they want as they get older and see that she is a grandmother and realizes what everyone calls theirs

how about eg Grandma Jane?That's what my dc used.I am Grandma to my blood dgc and Granmouse to sdgc

just refer to her all the time as 'nana (first name)'. best of both worlds.

I´d also be sad.

I love that my children call me Mum-they are the only two people in the world who can give me that special title-anyone at all can call me diddl.

Can´t imagine not wanting to be Nanny/Gran or whatever if I´m ever lucky enough for it to happen.

Why - does she not want to feel 'old'? Everyone called my grandma 'Mam'. I even think grandpa called her that!

Start training little one to say 'Grandmama'.

Sue52 when you have grandchildren how would you want your children to describe you to their children? "There's your grandmother"/"we're going to Nana's" but be addressed by your name? Or not be described as their grandmother/Nana at all? it's a minefield...!

What about Glamour like Honor Blackman..

I can understand if the Grandma is really young, ie, young enough to be the child's mother, under 44.

But anybody over 50 who makes a fuss about being called Grandma.....

that's funny wahwahwah because Grandmama is the only one Mum slightly took to...briefly. Which seems the most grandmother of all to me! Yes I think it's the age thing. But she is 63 this year so it's not like she's a particularly early grandparent

YABU - it is totally up to her.

The most important thing is that she is a loving presence in your children's lives. I had 3 grandparents who I called Granddad/Granny etc. and they were all pretty absent. It's only a name!

I should add that she absolutely adores her granddaughter it's just the name thing she is funny about

inveterate..I know. Logically you are absolutely 100% right and I agree with you. But I am still illogically sad about it!

Can't you be a mum over 44 then .
Rare I know but there are a few of us around.

Think I'm quite rare to in that I would actually be quite happy if none of my children made me a nan, gran, nanny at all.

My Mum refused to be a granny/grandma etc. she was 49 when it happened. She kept saying "I'm not granny" whenever she was called granny so now she's 'notty'.

Oh how sad! Is it becuase she doesn't want to sound old?

I would be a bit upset and go with the Nanny Betty/Jane/Hilda or whatever.

My lovely Mum was Nanny Jayne she loved her title but didnt like Granny, sadly she died in April but will always be 'Nanny Jayne' to her 7 grandchildren.

My Nan would kill me if i called her Granny she is Nan and when i was younger Nanny Apple becuase she used to peel Aplles from her garden for me.

OP-just to clarifý-does she just want to be called by her first name, or does she want to be "Nanny XXXX" for example?

LOL at Notty!

I think it is a bit naughty to go down the Granny Betty route. If she doesn't want to be called Granny then you should respect that. It's about HER relationship with her DGCs, and she should be able to set that on her own terms. Sorry.

at the end of the day, your children will call her what they want to. my godmother had a name i could say very easily when i was wee. i called her something completely random. cant bring myself to call her by her real name now 21 years later! still call her by her made up name :)

dh calls his parents by their first names and i think its horrible

she wants to be called by her first name, no 'Granny X' or 'Nanny Y'. But my father wants to be called Poppa. So it's 'First name' and Poppa. ah parents, you've got to love 'em for their quirks