to be a bit sad that my Mum wants her grandchildren to call her by her first name?

[twinsister]

My Mum doesn't want to be called Granny or Nana or any other grandmotherly name. I know that rationally it doesn't make any difference what she is called, she is still my daughter's granny and always will be. And ultimately it's her call. Anyone else in the same situation and should I just drop this as an issue do you think?

I don't think you're being at all unreasonable to feel a bit sad about it, but as you say yourself it's her choice and you probably have to honor it.

When your first child starts to talk though, s/he might just come up with some cute mispronunciation of your mum's name, or like TBS, pick a word that s/he associates with her grandmother. Hopefully if that happens you'll be happy that they have a special name that signifies their special relationship, and she'll be happy that that name isn't "Grandma"!

My brother's kids call all their aunties and uncles on their mom's side of the family by their first names. When the eldest was born and I realized that this was what my db and dsil were going to encourage, I was really sad at not getting to be "Auntie". I think those family titles are really special and sweet.

But when my first nephew started talking he gave me a whole new name that all the kids in my family call me now, and I love it, and would rather have my special name than be Auntie Cloudydays.

My mother didn't want to be called Granny (as her mother, my Granny, was so ultimately tied to that name) or Grandma or Nanna. And my father refuses to have a bar of any 'titles' as such. Neither of which bothered me too greatly. So, what to do...

We have ended up going with G Vivi (as a short for granny vivienne) and Big Will (as that's what pretty much everyone calls my father, to distinguish from Little Will, my brother).

I think it's more important that the children are surrounded by people who love them, and who they love. Names, not so important.

Actually I disagree with most of the people on this site right now in that I think it isn't her choice. She is their grandmother and you should just ignore her till she gets used to it. Age shouldn't be a factor really cause as far as I can see because if anything nannys have probably been geting older as time goes by! Back in the day 16,17,18,19 was not an uncommon age to have a first child... so obviously nana would have been really very young.

You have to explain who she is, this is your grandmother.. and explain to your mum you don't want to confuse her.

I would say wait and see what happens when your dd starts talking. She may, as someone suggested, melt when she hears her adored dgd calling her nana. Or she may end up with a totally made up name from a mispronunciation like my mum did (Baggy) I should add that it was meant to be Granny :)

It's a bit of a shame but it's up to your mum really. My FIL has stopped giving DS a kiss since he turned 4 and now insists he shakes his hand (as he's a boy ), though he'll give DD a kiss. I'd much rather he was a loving grandparent to both my children and your mum sounds like she is.

I love being Grandma (a very trendy grandma )

My DGC call all my friends by their first names (which some people frown on) and all their aunties,uncles, great aunties etc, are all called aunty or uncle.

I would hate to be lumped in with all my friends and called by my first name. I need to be special and Grandma differentiates me from everyone else.

Last week I was taking DGC for a walk and stopped at a park.

Another couple at the park who were obviously older parents asked me if they were all mine.

Admittedly it was dusk and the light was fading. It's just that I come from the generation where we married young and had children young and still continued on with our careers.

Then DD carried on the trend and married young and had children young.

There's noting better than hearing the car door slam and a chorus of little people yelling out "We're here Grandma"

Yes I agree Coralanne, as I posted earlier, anyone can call you by your first name, but only special people can call you Mum, Gran, etc.

I think it´s sad that OPs Mum doesn´t want to acknowledge the uniqueness of being a GM.