to be a bit sad that my Mum wants her grandchildren to call her by her first name?

[twinsister]

My Mum doesn't want to be called Granny or Nana or any other grandmotherly name. I know that rationally it doesn't make any difference what she is called, she is still my daughter's granny and always will be. And ultimately it's her call. Anyone else in the same situation and should I just drop this as an issue do you think?

DD and all the grandkids on OH's side call their grandmother Mamma X, whereas her kids just call her X. I call her X. Mamma X is quite nice I think and affectionate.

There are no rules though I would never want to be called Granny (shudder). My Mum is Nan (and her Mum I called Nan) but DD calls her Nanny! we think it's funny.

My maternal grandmother was Bill - didn't make her any less a grandmother.

We call my Mum 'Ma' so DD calls her 'Ma ma'. My Grandma is Grandma to her GC and great GC. It's just a name. My cousin calls his Dad by his first name, they are very close and I doubt it makes any difference their relationship.

My FIL refuses to be known to DS as anything other than 'Gramps', which I hate. It sounds like a cantankerous, grumpy old sod - so, actually...

oh grandparents end up being called all sorts of strange things in the end

mine were guggle and pop so [first name] and poppa won't be all that weirdy!

as long as she wants to be a Nana and not just get called it you probably need to respect her wishes on this one I'm afraid

Guggle and Pop, that is brilliant. I'm going to have to suggest Guggle as an alternative to 'first name'!!!

PIL are Nanny (name she chose) and Gammy (DD1 couldn't say Grandad.....but is stuck and DD2 also calls him Gammy) ! They are 6 and 10 now and it's still Nanny and Gammy !

My father was the same - didn't want to be called Grandad or Granpa, just his first name. DH was extremely about it but we went with it, and had the last laugh as when DD began to talk she mispronounced his name making it sound really silly and that's what's stuck.

I think he now rather likes his unique name.

My mum didn't really mind what she was called, in the end dd settled for "Marmar" (that's how mum spells it) as she couldn't say grandma when she was little. I think the one thing Mum really didn't want to be call was "nana-surname" as that's what me and sis call my paternal grandmother.

Mum is absolutely gaga over dd and is very proud that dd calls her something a little unusual. :)

Obviously by nana-surname I mean her actual surname. What I wrote doesn't make sense on reading it back. Durr!

My DDs call my mum 'Nanna' and my dad is 'Bumpy' (although that derived from Grumpy!)

DP's dad is called 'Grandpa' and DP's mum is 'Grandma'.

DP's nan is called 'Grand Nan' by the little people!

And, as we tend to see my parents a lot, we tend to call them Nanna and Bumpy now too!

DD's StepGramdmother is simply 'firstname' - perhaps you could allude that people will think she's not really related to her gorgeous grandkids

my parents have requested the same thing - and are getting it. sounds cute from toddler who can't say thir names quite right.

except when DH calls my Mum 'Granny' as a pisstake.

YABU

I think the rason m=for my parents was that 'granpa' and 'granma' to them meant my (now deceased) granparents and they wanted to have a better, less formal relationship with my DCs than our GPs had with us...

my mum didn't want to be called grandma, granny etc.

At 61... indeed!

And tbh she certainly didn't deserve to be called nanny after my brilliant paternal gm.

So we settled on Gamma! Everyone's happy!

YANBU, I wouldn't like that either. It's a shame if your dcs don't have anyone to call Granny.

My mum's name is Ann and she wishes to be called Annie by DS. I think it's a bit childish really although the poor woman had to endure turning 50, having a daughter (me) turning 30 and DS being born all in the same year :o

YANBU. I think it's a bit pathetic for people who have grandkids not to want them to acknowledge that relationship in the name they use. Like they're in denial. Having children, then maybe one day grandchildren, is part of what life's all about. How strange not to want to acknowledge that, as though not being called Granny, Grandma or Nana will somehow make you seem less old; to the grandchildren, grandparents will always be old.

My mum uses "Granny First-name" rather than "Granny Surname", which is fine. But I would be a bit if she decided to omit the Granny bit altogether.

YABU. I always called one of my grandmas by her first name and my daughter calls my mother by her first name. It doesn't make one bit of difference to the relationship which is all that really matters. If your daughter has a nice loving grandmother who really loves her and is there for you when times get tough then I really can't see why you should give a toss about what she's called or not called. And Granny X is just as bad as Granny, surely, from your mother's point of view? It's your mum's name and/or title. Why on earth not let her do what she's happy with?

BTW, I would rather like to be called my name too if the time ever comes when I am a grandmother. DD also quite often calls me and her dad by our first names. I honestly don't think it matters at all. I was a bit surprised at first and do prefer Mummy but ultimately it really is the love that matters.

I reckon she is in denial. And I have a lot of sympathy. She'll probably get over herself in a bit though.
See how it goes.

My mum wouldn't let us call her "mum", and now she likes DD to know her as "Nana 1stname". I don't mind.

She might change her mind when your DD starts speaking, and "decides" that's what she's being called.

DPs step-dad isn't called Granddad, and I was slightly upset and put out at first, but to be honest, I'm sure they'll have the same bond regardless of what he's called.

FWIW my mum was a bit funny about it to be honest, becoming a grandmother at 45 - she's a Mops instead

My ex-husband's mother insists on all her DGC calling her by her first name. It's a bit odd in this case as that name sounds very similar to a common title for a grandmother.

I'm ill at ease with it. At 45 years of age, I come from a generation where your parents' mothers were called Nanny/Grandma etc and I feel it's rude to do otherwise, but, it's exMIL's wish so I just accept it.

DDs are teenagers and have only just recently met their DGM again, the first time since they were toddlers (owing to my marriage breakdown and ex-H and family being arses). They have no issue with calling their DGM by her unusual first name and, I think, feel that both the name and the fact that they can call her it is pretty cool.

Your DD might just learn to accidently call her "nana ist name", if she hears it lots of times say at home or somewhere!

our dcs call my dad by his first name (as does my brother).

it probably helped the kids know which grandparent was which as up until 2years ago we had grandad, (great) grandad Joe, St. Andrews grandad (RIP) and my dad!
the person it seems to bother most is my mum! she thinks its a lack of respect and people will assume that he is somehow not a blood relation (!?WTF!!)
But i think if thats what he wants thats fine by me. they respect him (as much as small children can do!) and they know exactly who he is.