Some people call their MILs "Mum"?

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Do you? Is this the norm?!

I don't, no.
Know a couple who call their pil's mum and dad. They're very close, it's lovely.

no and no!

My sister calls her MIL 'mum'. I think my mum called her MIL 'mum' as well. TBH I find it a bit odd. I'm on good terms with my MIL but I wouldn't feel comfortable calling her mum. I use her name.

Blimey no. I think she would like it though, but no.

She's not my mum.

Don't see any problem really. If that's what they're ok with then good for them. My MIL called her mum Dora all through adult life and no-one gave a monkeys.

No, on my wedding day, MIL said to me "You don't have to call me Mum, you can call be Ann"

So I said "Thanks, you can call me Lynette"

I was thinking WTF?

I call my best friend's mum, mum. I forgot her name when I was about 14 and it stuck!

We're very close though. I call my MIL by her name when I'm being polite

My dad used to call his MIL (my gran) 'Mum'. He lost his own mum when he was 14 and my gran always said he was more of a son to her than her own 3 sons.... I thought it was lovely. My mum and dad would LOVE my DH to call them mum and dad but no chance! (And no, I'd never call my MIL mum either.)

My SIL calls our MIL 'mother' and calls her own mum 'mum', I can't bring myself to do either, I just call her by her name, I don't think she would expect me to do otherwise!

I would feel that it was a bit disrespectful to my own mum and dad, but obviously everyone feels differently.
I wouldn't call my mil 'mum' in a million years anyway as I can't stand the woman.

I call my Grandma-I-L "Grandma" and same for DH with mine, as it seems daft to call them Mr&Mrs, and disrespectful to call them by their first name.

I just read on another post that someone calls their MIL "Mum" and I wondered if everyone did this but me. It would be easier, eg when speaking to SIL, it feels odd saying "your M&D" or using their first names when speaking to their daughter...

Interested to canvass opinion!

I don't call my MIL mum (technically not MIL since not married but same difference) but do use the foreign equivalent, it's much easier for me to pronounce than her foreign name

I think it's sweet, I would call MIL that if we were closer.

Goodness know! (Still) find it weird that MIL refers to her ILs (now deceased) as mum and dad.

No, I wouldn't want to call her that. My mum used to call her mil who lived with us when we were small 'mrs surname' as she disliked her so much .

I do call mine 'Mama', but then because she speaks Russian, she knows it isn't the same word as 'mum', and also I don't find it easy to say her nickname as it has sounds in it that I mispronounce.

I feel quite flattered because she made a speech at my wedding saying she'd always wanted a daughter and now she was lucky enough to be getting one, but all the same I suspect if we had more ways of communicating (if we spoke each other's languages better) I wouldn't do this.

I don't but could see why people do if they are close.
I live a lot closer to my mil than my mum and see her often when dh is working. We are quite close so think it's nice if some people feel close enigh to their ils to call them mum and dad.
I do call dh grandma grandma

Mind you, my ex's mum wanted me to call her 'Auntie so-and-so', and I thought that was more strange! I'd never known her as a child either.

Think it might be a generation thing. My own mother used to call her MIL mum as she was invited to do so. I on the other hand call my MIL by her first name.

I think it was more common in the past.

I don't and neither does DH. This si despite being close to both sets of parents and knowing one another's parents from us being 16yo.

MY DDIL calls me Mum, DS and she, were married in SA, where she comes from, as we saw them off at the airport to go, she turned round and said, 'I can call you MUM when we get back@ and has ever since.

She is rather fab tho

Now this might sound a bit weird, but I've been married for nearly 20 years and I don't actually call my MIL anything. When I speak to her I don't use a name, and when I refer to her in conversation with others I call her DH's mum.

Fran, how did that go down then?