T think DP is being utterly pathetic about school trousers?

[MrsTWay]

DP and I have only been living together for just under a year. He has an 11 year old DD who lives with us and I have a 9 year old DS. I have a Next catalogue and DP expressed a wish to buy his DD some school trousers from it. Normally I would never allow anyone to get credit in my name but for £12 each it would hardly get me in debt so I agreed. I always bought DS's school trousers from asda for about £5 each and said to DP that I wouldn't buy his from Next as they were too expensive, at 9 he would grow out of them and wreck them too fast. He agreed. However when his DD's trousers arrived I thought they were lovely, great quality and well worth the money so I decided to buy DS some from Next too rather than asda. His were only £9 each so not that much more than what I'd pay in asda.
I never thought to mention it to DP because a) its my catalogue. b) its my own money and c) its hardly a massive issue is it??
Anyway DP has kicked off saying it is totally unfair that DS also has trousers from Next as his DD has had to wait until she's at secondary school to get "expensive" trousers and so should DS!!! Isn't that totally pathetic??? I have only recently moved in so its hardly my fault that she has never had decent school trousers and why shouldn't I buy DS some from my own catalogue if I want to?? why should he have to wait until he's in secondary school just because DP never bought his DD some when she was younger???
And does it really matter where we buy the school trousers from???

Or am I being unreasonable?

MrsTWay please seriously consider whether you should stay with this man.

Reading your posts has been very uncomfortable and I am can only say a heartfelt "get out while you still can". He sounds exactly the same as my xh and he has given me a life of hell and after being split up for 3 years, he is still utter hell.

He is a poison in my life and he started out just like your dp.

Please please listen to everyone on here saying the same thing. A lot of us have had first hand experience of this stuff and the red flags are rife.

At least talk to him and make your position very clear to him. If he can't take it on board at all then you should think very carefully about staying.

I wish you well and take good care of yourself.

Ditto Bunlove
I can't get rid of my exh; he still stalks me.

He has our home (only rented but a lovely house at v low rent in this expensive area) and everything in it that I collected over a lifetime/my parents bought etc as he moved in with me and would not leave. I thought that leaving everything would get him off my back but it didn't - he is bent on revenge as I dared to leave him.

I won't leave the area as my children, granddaughter and job are here.
What do you do? Do you find the police helpful? I find them very variable, some help and some don't.

Hi colliecross. Have to be very careful what I say as xh does stalk me on here too.

I found the police unhelpful as xh always knows what to do to stay just inside the law. Have checked out with other agencies what I can do about his viciousness but they all say they can't do much because he doesn't threaten me directly.

Big black cloud hanging over my life constantly and no-one will believe me when I say he will never leave me alone. Very depressing.

Like you, my xh is bent on revenge for me getting away from him and everything that happens to him is still my fault.

Shit isn't it. Sorry to hear you have the same problems. I deeply sympathise.

Ditto exactly. Mine is very clever too.
I can only hope he dies first.

Crap isn't it. So sorry but we need to hang on in there don't we.

OP, should you ever leave dp, feel at any time that you need help and the usual routes don't work this might just be worth bearing in mind. I can vouch for her honesty and efficency.

(feel free to ignore if too flakey.)

Sending love and protective energy to all on this thread xxx

Awwww, thanks spiritmum.

I feel for you, Collie. It's the least that I can do.