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Original poster

to think its irresponsible for my OH to leave our 2 yr old downstairs on his own?

705 replies

YummyMummy1208 · 05/08/2010 09:47

Argh!

I'm so angry with him rite now and generally since our little boy was born cos he just has no clue how to watch him properly but if i ever have a go at him its 'oh shes off again...' and switches off.

Is this just a general 'men' thing??

Thismorning is a prime example, hes been taking over morning duties of late due to me being 7 month pregnant so thismorning he takes DS1 downstairs and then i can hear him saying 'So r u gonna stay downstairs and be a good boy while Daddy has a shower?' now forgive me if im being unreasonable but surely im not the only one here thinking you dont leave a 2.5 yr old downstairs - on his own - while u go upstairs to have a shower??

Whats everyones opinion on this one - Am i being unreasonable to have a go at OH??

OP posts:
SuePurblybiltbyElves · 28/12/2011 17:43

I'd forgotten this, I read till the end before I remembered I AM A CANADIAN.
Excellent.

MmeLindor. · 28/12/2011 18:29

Yes, that is the great thing about this thread. The 'punchline' is so unexpected.

knittedbreast · 28/12/2011 18:32

i leave my 2 yr old alone downstairs, i dont consider it dangerous unless ive left a saw in the room

msbaublestwinkle · 28/12/2011 18:33

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SuePurblybilt · 28/12/2011 18:34

And that is the beauty of bumping classics

You get to shout RTFT lots and lots.

golemmings · 28/12/2011 20:07

I got to the second flounce and had to stop neglecting my children. Did anything interesting happen on pages 14-27?

MmeLindor. · 28/12/2011 20:08

golemmings
YES, keep reading.

WinterWonderlandIsComing · 28/12/2011 20:12

Oh I was hoping this was "that" thread.

I asked about Classics a couple of times and was told that HQ had considered it but no Sad

Happy Birthday SGM!

A1980 · 28/12/2011 22:49

As others have said it depends on the child and how well child proofed the house is. Leaving a 2 year old downstairs with 2 adults upstairs in the same house doens't seem that bad considering the that McCann's left 2 year old twins and a 3 year old alone every night in an unlocked holiday flat that backed onto a busy road.

Runs away......

SuePurblybilt · 28/12/2011 22:51

'As others have said'. So you read some of it A1980 Grin

To2012AndBeyondTheLimits · 28/12/2011 22:55
Grin My DH just read the entire thread to me, was wondering right through why it had become a zombie thread! Happy birthday SGM!! Wine
MmeLindor. · 28/12/2011 23:00

A1980
Run back and read the rest...

Pandemoniaa · 28/12/2011 23:21

ds1 is working in Canada next year.

So (puffs out chest proudly and waves maple leaf flag) I too can hold my head high amongst the Canadians and shout "I MIGHT NOT QUITE BE CANADIAN BUT I DAMNED WELL NEARLY AM!"

golemmings · 28/12/2011 23:52

Thank you MmeL. Tyatvmade for a very surreal evening but I think I enjoyed it!

Did anybody hear anything again From the OP?

Thumbinnapuddingwitch · 29/12/2011 00:08

I wondered why this thread had been bumped again - well done, MmeL!!

I am not Canadian but I have to repost this link from SGM because it's fucking funny:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=BRI-A3vakVg

I wonder if the OP ever did get to Canada? Or her lazy-but-hardworking-DH? Xmas Grin

Happy Birthday SGM! Xmas Smile

diabolo · 12/11/2012 19:27

That was a fabulous way to spend an hour - thanks for resurrecting it.

I wish I was Canadian!

OTS · 13/11/2012 00:32

The only thing I have to say on this (and I haven't read the whole thread) is that I'm 24, and don't use text speak when I'm typing. You say thats the way we grew up typing... Yes we did, and that was fine when we were 15. It's not fine at 24, and not all 24 year olds type that way!

By the way, YABU!

OTS · 13/11/2012 00:33

Hmm teach me not to read the whole thread... Or read the date that it was started! Blush

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 13/11/2012 00:39

Is it nearly SGM's birthday already?

Can we get a maple leaf on the logo in her honour? If Tech have time to grow moustaches, that shouldn't be too much trouble.

MrsTerryPratchett · 13/11/2012 00:46

I would just like to say that as soon as I get my bloody application in for citizenship I WILL BE A CANADIAN. Doesn't flow, does it?

MrRected · 13/11/2012 00:48

How big is your house OP?

If your DH pisses off to the East Wing and leaves little johnny in the drawing room with an open fire and access to the lake, then perhaps YANBU.

If, you are like most of us, living in a 2/3 bed semi and little johnny is less than 20 linear metres away from the shower/bathroom, then I think you are being neurotic and I feel sad for your partner.

Walkacrossthesand · 13/11/2012 07:56

Marking my place to come back later when I have more time...

pingu2209 · 13/11/2012 08:05

Surely your house is now todler proof, you have had 2.5 years to make it so.

On the basis you have a 'safe house', of course it is okay to leave your 2.5 year old downstairs whilst you or dh take a shower.

You can't be stood next to your child at all moments of their life. What do you do when you need the loo?

pingu2209 · 13/11/2012 08:07

By the way, as a warning, my friend was just like this to the partner of her twins and he ended up leaving as not coming back as my friend's neurotic behaviour pushed him away. Just saying!

exoticfruits · 13/11/2012 08:13

I had forgotten this thread! The main point is that the father is an equal parent and OP isn't the senior parent who has to be referred to see what she thinks. I used to leave my 2.5yr old to have a shower- I was a single parent.