to think its irresponsible for my OH to leave our 2 yr old downstairs on his own?

[YummyMummy1208]

Argh!

I'm so angry with him rite now and generally since our little boy was born cos he just has no clue how to watch him properly but if i ever have a go at him its 'oh shes off again...' and switches off.

Is this just a general 'men' thing??

Thismorning is a prime example, hes been taking over morning duties of late due to me being 7 month pregnant so thismorning he takes DS1 downstairs and then i can hear him saying 'So r u gonna stay downstairs and be a good boy while Daddy has a shower?' now forgive me if im being unreasonable but surely im not the only one here thinking you dont leave a 2.5 yr old downstairs - on his own - while u go upstairs to have a shower??

Whats everyones opinion on this one - Am i being unreasonable to have a go at OH??

So you have savings - but wont spend £50 to make your house safe for your son??

Mate if you have a stair-gate on your son's door could he not play in there while people shower?

Or do you have a collection of Fabergé eggs and fine imperial porcelain in his room?

This thread is so weird.

I haven't read all the thread I don't have the time so don't know if this has already been asked but how the hell do you think single parents get washed and dressed in the morning? They certainly don't do it with an audience every day. Fit the safety features you need and leave them to it. My dc (1 and 4) get left downstairs while I sort myself out in the mornings I lock the front and back door put the keys out of reach, have a stair gate into the kitchen which I close and one on the bottom of the stairs this leaves nothing that they can harm themselves on. I then shower in peace all be it with the door open incase they shout me for what I have taught them is only essential things (ie someone bleeding not running out of drink!) Get a grip we can't watch our kids 24/7

I thought this thread couldn't get any better but...

YM1208 Have you ever been to Canada
SGB I AM CANADIAN

[GRIN] [GRIN]

Damn caps lock

I keep reading "eh?" at the end of all sentences now and all the talk of Vancouver/Canada has made me read stairgates as stargates.

Wish I had a stargate at the top and bottom of my stairs, would make it easier to get the washing back up.

You want people to read the thread properly yet you obviously dont or you would of seen sgb put she is canadian you bloody numpty.

roar at this thread

OP I do think you have been given a rough ride but thats mainly down to the fact that you don't seem to be listening to what people have actually said. But then again you're heavily pregnant and have a toddler so you've every reason to feel a bit crazy hormonal.

Hee-hee. OP post is so pathetic. My goodness, you wonder how the human race made it this far.

I use to leave my 2yo DTS downstairs whilst I had a shower. They survived.

Keep bullying and nagging and undermining your OH like that and you will find yourself having to watch your 2yo on your own permanently.

Ok read first 3 pages but heres my thoughts (sorry if anys been said already)

1. why did you not get up then if it was such a problem?? (or are you having a problem pregnancy?)

2. Why have another child with a man you deem so incapable of child raring?

3. How the bloody hell do you think parents like me who have been on our own (in my case since ds was 13 months) coped with our every day lives? And I lived on a 5th floor apartment!!!

YABVU IMO with your attitude to OH.

This thread just gets better and better
sgm you're canadian, yes but have you ever been to Canada !!!

Aaaargh. Having seen a good mate utterly crushed because he'd convinced himself he was off to Canada - only to discover it was not so - my toes are curling a wee bit in potential sympathy...suspect OP may have been had

Anyway, OP, just move the bleach & the sharp knives, sort out the door handle so ds can't escape, & then next time, enjoy your lie in!

Dh is far more 'laxi-daisy' than me - he honestly believes that if he says 'This way, dd2!', then he can stride off without checking that she's following (she's 2) - but he's never actually mislaid her yet.

Equally, your problem here with safety isn't really your DP. Your ds should by now have the run of the house, which should not be a bleach & blade riddled death trap, & you should feel able to trust your DP. Atm, the house simply isn't safe - & that could just as easily be a disaster waiting to happen if you fell down the stairs, say, whilst looking after ds, as if DP's in the shower for 10 minutes.

not read all the messages but i do think you are lucky that your man is taking over morning duties for you - not many men would do that!

i do think you are perhaps being a bit unreasonable as he's obvioiusly doing what he thinks is best and you need to trust him to use good judgement.

i used to always leave ds alone while i went upstairs, tidied up, had a bath etc. I obviously made sure the house was safe and there was nowhere for ds to wander off or hurt himself on anything as im sure your dp did.

Urggggggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

OP you are quite irritating, you haven't read everyone's posts properly and yabu to not have baby proofed your house if you are worried about leaving you ds on his own downstairs. Also if your OH was in the shower and you had your bedroom door open what was to stop you getting to your son if you oh couldn't make it? I am 10 days away from due date and frankly can get up and get to my 2.5 yr old in an emergency!

I've just spent all evening reading this thread!

I AM CANADIAN hilarious!!!!

Op at 2.5 yabu

I would never leave a child that young alone while I had a shower.I would be too worried about not hearing something happening.If I had to shower I would take the child to the bathroom with me.I would go to another room to do a short task like loading the washing machine,or fetching something,but otherwise I would want the child within earshot or sight.A toddler could choke on a button or something,or maybe get out of the door etc.
I would be very angry with DH if he did this so no YANBU.(although I have knackered my already dodgy back by lugging dd2 about im my 4 storey house)

i shower upstairs dc potter about downstairs,its ok.you are being seriously clenchie

In fairness to YM....

I have a Canadian friend (born and raised to adulthood), who also was British (her dad was born and raised) and friend had Australian citizenship, in spite of neither friend nor her dad never having visited Australia, nor was the dad an Australian citizen -- but his mother was. Friend qualified thru that relationship. So I imagine SGM could have been Canadian but not actually ever visited there.

Now my mate has lived and worked in Canada, Britain, Brazil, Australia -- currently working in California.

She especially praised the Australian work ethic. Said that they have work hard but they knock off at 5 o'clock sharp to go play hard too. Whereas her London co-workers stayed at their desks late into the night for the sake of appearances, but weren't actually getting anything done.