to think its irresponsible for my OH to leave our 2 yr old downstairs on his own?

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Argh!

I'm so angry with him rite now and generally since our little boy was born cos he just has no clue how to watch him properly but if i ever have a go at him its 'oh shes off again...' and switches off.

Is this just a general 'men' thing??

Thismorning is a prime example, hes been taking over morning duties of late due to me being 7 month pregnant so thismorning he takes DS1 downstairs and then i can hear him saying 'So r u gonna stay downstairs and be a good boy while Daddy has a shower?' now forgive me if im being unreasonable but surely im not the only one here thinking you dont leave a 2.5 yr old downstairs - on his own - while u go upstairs to have a shower??

Whats everyones opinion on this one - Am i being unreasonable to have a go at OH??

I too would be fascinated to know how a couple with no money at all to buy a safety gate can afford all the Canadian regulations on immigration. Do you have jobs to go to there? Ones that have been approved by the Canadian Government that aren't taking a job away from a Canadian??

My BIL lived there for 8 years and when the company he worked for went tits up, so did the visa - they had to come home. Despite having Canadian children!

I suspect that this is more "we hope we might be able to emigrate to Canada next year" than people who are already in the system/have everything lined up.

arse is also full of shit. Oddly enough.

omnishambles The other forum i speak of is still on MumsNet, just on a different topic so unless there is a rules board for each topic area on how they can and cant speak then no one is going to know r they?

SkiHorseWonAWean Yep, application in process, saving like mad, degree and profession under our arms and ready to get out of this country. For the thousandth time i have the stairgates i need. I havent felt the need to have them all over the house as i dont intend leaving him downstairs unless i can hear his movements right now. If tho, my partner wishes to have a longer leash on DS then he can feel free to go buy them. and regarding the unplanned pregnancies, what really does that have to do with my maths degree?? tell me how forgetting to take a pill for one day as anything to do with maths please???

Well said arses

StewieGriffinsMom we have undergone all the tests/paperwork and providing we pass medicals we r in, which just proves i cant be that much of an idiot or we wouldnt be getting in would we?
and re the text speak (again) all other areas i have posted in on MN use text speak. u have no point. its just u who has the problem.
like arses said, this is a forum - i can speak however i wish on here. i also understand when and where proper english spelling shud be used and believe it or not have a big enough brain to be able to adapt it when needs be.

Hope you used proper spelling on your immigration application.

weegiemum we have already done pretty much 70% of the paperwork. just waiting for baby to arrive to be able to complete medicals. we r pretty much guarenteed to b accepted as long as we pass medicals and seen as we r all healthy i cant c y we wouldnt.

perhaps ur brains r unable to stretch this far but the reason we have little cashflow rite now is down to paying out money to immigration and saving to get there. how hard was that to figure out??

we r going over on a permanent residency basis not a working visa. this gives us immediate canadian status once we have stayed there for a minimum of 3 years.

In all my years here I have never been on a thread on MN where txtspeak has been (widely) used without it being commented upon.

The emigration sounds good - am not sure I would be able to cope with the winters though brr.

"and regarding the unplanned pregnancies, what really does that have to do with my maths degree?? tell me how forgetting to take a pill for one day as anything to do with maths please???"

It would suggest you're unable to count to 21.

Depends where in Canada. Vancouver, for instance, is more mild than the Rockies.

SkiHorseWonAWean how does it suggest that? lol. it just suggests im crap at remembering to do things on the dot. simple as that.

wtf?!

iknow, i am dreading the winters but its such a better lifestyle out there, itl b worth a few cold months each year - especially wen summer time comes!

so there we go ladies...for all those who have forgotten to take a pill ever in their life it means aparently that u are unable to count to 21. Love it.

omnishambles, I understand the point you are making about the level of discourse on MN..

However, as intelligent and educated women, I think we should rise above base name-calling.

By all means, challenge text speak but a) be aware that there is a social aspect to the challenge that might (for some users) not sit well with other liberal viewpoints they may hold and b) do it without base name-calling.

BonnyPrinceBilly, would you care to elaborate on why I am so full of shit? Any inaccuracies you care to point out? Or were you, too, just demonstrating your immaculate understanding and use of standard English with a rather silly pun?

Sorry, that should read: we can challenge text speak but we should be aware.. etc etc

where in canada ? do you both have jobs lined up ?

I don't think I have in all my time on MN's read such a funny or strange thread.

OP you probably don't care but IMO you are coming across that only you are good enough to look after your child. You're not your OH is just as capable but may do the odd thing which you disapprove of, he will learn in time.

If you're soooooo bothered about your child's safety you would buy the safety gate, it isn't a competition.

Finally, text speak I think is just lazy.

Oh my God she's appalling!

Oblomov British Columbia, we dont have jobs lined up as its too far away - 10 months, my OH will start looking beginning of next year once we get the go ahead.

I will be on maternity leave for the summer so i can just start looking for work once we arrive. Im taking the chance to have a year or so full time with my kids before starting back at a full on job. We have spent long enough saving so am planning on enjoying a few months break out there before working again.

I already owned up to feeling like with my DS its my way or its wrong. this i know in itself is wrong. hence y i wanted some opinions as to wether its a general mum thing or if i am actually too controlling. I am totally up for changing, i want my DS to have a good rship with my OH, afterall, with a new baby coming along he will need to take the reigns of DS a lot more whilst i tend to baby. so im all up for some criticism, just not abusive name calling.

Men are genrally more laid back about things and seem to think we women are just neurotic. Or is that men are just thoughtless, selfish and lazy!
I would have left my Sons downstairs at this age to have a shower and I never toddler proofed any area of the house. I have been lucky that both of them are not daring do and both listen well to instructions, its a pitty the same can not be said of my husband.
I have asked him repeatedly over a period of 12 years not to put the washing on (long story) Last week he shrunk two new tops, mine of course. I have now attatched labels to various parts of the house. DO NOT TOUCH in large red print.
You could say I have had to husband proof the house.
I always felt the kids were safe with me, safe having some independance but in almost constant perill from their father's crazy ideas and absent minded parenting skills.

Just fyi weegiemum we are already in the system and passed thru the initial stages, we are now awaiting medical requests. once we pass these we will be granted permanent residency.

We are using a company which have offered us a 'no visa no fee' policy as they are so sure from their experience that we will be granted residency.

When interviewing us they will want to know what we think we can bring to the job that another canadian cant - they very much like british workers as we do just that - work! very hard compared to canadians. He is an electrical engineer which is on the wanted trades list.

No visa, no fee? You're either entitled to PR or you're not. No need to go throwing money away.

YANBU

I agree depends on child. I could have left DD but not DS, he is a climber and notorious for accidents!!