DD is 4.8 and starts school this Sept. She has always been painfully shy but over the last few months has started to be a bit more confident with others. She still finds it hard to speak to adults, especially people she doesn't know well.
She saw a poster for a drama workshop,|= which runs Tues-Fri this week and begged me to let her go. This is very unusual for her and I explained that I couldn't stay, I would be at home with 2 year old DS. She was fine with this.
So this morning I took her in, she was a bit nervous but within a couple of minutes she was running around the hall and waved goodbye happily. I spoke to the teacher, explained that dd was unlikely to speak out as very shy so to please make sure she went to the toilet/had a drink etc in the breaks. She said all the younger ones are taken to toilet at break, not asked to put hands up.
I arrived to pick her up and noticed she was wearing different trousers. Teacher took me aside and explained that she's wet herself and been really embarrased & upset in front of the other children. Then I spoke to main teacher who said dd had not asked to go (which I had told her would happen). Because of needing a wee so badly, dd didn't touch her drink. Also dd's lunchbox was still almost full. She said she hadn't been able to open the tubs to get her food out. Sandwiches were in clingfilm so she's eaten them. I spoke to the main teacher again and she said dd didn't ask for help and teachers hadn't offered. There were about 15 kids there (aged 4-10) and 4 teachers. AIBU to think dd could have been given a bit of help, especially since I had told them she was unlikely to ask? I will wrap all her food in clingfilm tomorrow anyway so she can at least eat her lunch.