to want a diamond?

[starkadder]

10 year wedding anniversary coming up.

DH and I have never been into giving each other expensive presents, plus I earn more than him, plus all our money is in a joint account anyway.

And I am a sensible, grown up, non materialistic person.

BUT...but but but I do want a diamond!! Just a small one.

DH is nonplussed and slightly shocked that I really want one. He is planning to give me a book as an anniversary present, I think.

He has no idea how shallow I really am...!

Should I buy it myself??

Yeap as long as you can afford it

Hey stark I know exactly what you mean. I am not a high-maintenance person in the slightest but I got increasingly upset that as a 40 something who had been married for 17 years (to the same man!) I had never had a diamond. ANd felt guilt for getting upset about it. Told DH and eventually he coughed up - it's about the size of a pinhead and in a silver pendant but hey

exactly!! thanks guys! Pinhead size would be fine...I don't want the Koh I Noor...just one little diamond....

Oh for gods sake, yadnbu. Every woman deserves a diamond. It's a rite of passage.

I could have posted this a few weeks ago. My DH shocked the hell out of me with a ring on our 10th anniversary though, the smallest but loveliest diamond.....

go and buy one yourself?

I saw one that was a tiny solitaire, about .1 carat for £130 or something - it was so adorable I really want one I would be too paranoid about losing something pricey, I have a ring my dad gave to me and I am just too scared to wear it

Yes you must have one.

I got the most stunning tanzanite and diamond ring for my 10th. Already had a beautiful diamond solitaire.

I admit to being shallow and materialistic the bigger the better.

You deserve it

YANBU. I love diamonds, and I am lucky that before we had children DH liked buying them for me!

I think it will be a while before I get anymore though, 10th anniversary would be lovely (we've been married less than 3 years).

I got a diamond for our 10th wedding anniversary. We don't normally spend that much but it was a real celebration that we were still together.

I don't understand. I mean,. I do understand that you can (and of course, should) buy yourself a diamond at any time and of course it's a perfectly acceptable thing to do. But do you mean buy yourself one as an anniversary gift from your DH? Because that would be weird.

You are absolutely not being unreasonable. Buy the biggest you can afford.

Diamonds make lovely heirlooms, so consider it an investment

Get one if you must, but please check its provenance.

The diamond trade finances some of the most hideous wars in the world.

You've set me off. It's our 10th next year. i've just been looking at diamonds.

YANBU

thanks everyone!!

reasonabledoubt - well, I guess I kind of mean, buy one for myself with the 10 year thing being the excuse..? It would be weird to buy myself a present from DH. But he feels weird about buying one due to the joint bank account thing and the earning thing.

ib - good point.

mmmmm diamonds.

Go out and choose one together. What are you getting him?

Well, there's the rub I also have no idea what to get him. He really is not shallow and he doesn't want a diamond...or a watch or a pen or a tiepin or any of that stuff. All he wants is an iPhone or a book off his Amazon wishlist. Neither seems very romantic....

IT IS NOT SHALLOW TO WANT A DIAMOND. Get him the iPhone, it's a great present, if DH & I were you guys (and had someone to look after the kids) we would go out and get both on the same day then get drunk on cocktails at 4pm go for a fab meal.

You want it and, if you can afford it, you should get it. And look at it in the sunlight and watch it shoot off lovely little rainbows. And enjoy the sheer indulgence of it. Oh, and sounds like an iPhone for DH would also be a lovely thing for him to enjoy (you can gaze at your diamond while he bangs on tells you all about his favourite apps).

dh took me to Antwerp and had diamond earrings made there and then for my 40th present. No-one else has any like mine, and I love them.

Haven't read any other comment but ABSOLUTELY NOT! Every woman (who wants one) deserves one, end of! The bigger the better. I have loads, some big (ish) some small....

For goodness sake, ladies. How come you didn't get a bit of a shiner for your engagement ring? And possible sparkly bits in your wedding ring? And a "pushing present" for each baby (another colour sparkly thing).