to want a diamond?

[starkadder]

10 year wedding anniversary coming up.

DH and I have never been into giving each other expensive presents, plus I earn more than him, plus all our money is in a joint account anyway.

And I am a sensible, grown up, non materialistic person.

BUT...but but but I do want a diamond!! Just a small one.

DH is nonplussed and slightly shocked that I really want one. He is planning to give me a book as an anniversary present, I think.

He has no idea how shallow I really am...!

Should I buy it myself??

No way are you being unreasonable. My dh bought me amazing diamond eternity ring for 10th anniversary, fuck off diamond stud earrings for 40th which he had made specially. And other diamonds for birth of dc etc. They make me feel loved and valued. And they is very sparkly n' all.

twinkly things are fab - end of!

I don't see them as a human right, especially as they are often so cruelly produced and violate other people's.

If you want to choose a piece of jewellery to mark an anniversary, then fine, that's what you want. But I would consider looking at antique rings or ethically-produced diamonds if you don't want to come across as an unthinking bimbo.

I can't tell diamonds from glass.

I'm more of a handbags person, and even then it's more White Stuff than Mulberry.

Think I will have to try to cultivate some expensive tastes before my 40th!

"accidently" leave this page up on the computer

uk.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?fromGrid=1&sku=GRP03425&mcat=148207&cid=288153&search_p arams=s+5-p+4-c+288153-r+201425718+201323351-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t+

its has a diamond and every girl should get something from tiffanys in their life plus its not horribly expensive.

The Tiffanys thing is bullshit IMO. Unless you can afford to spend a awful lot in there then a lot of it is overpriced shite.

Much better to find a jeweller you like in Hatton Garden or the Jewellery Quarter in Birmingham (or Antwerp!) and get something made that is exactly what you want. We had my engagement ring designed, and then a couple of years later a pendant designed to match - no-one else in the world has anything quite the same.

Ah...Riven... you are just not shallow. I am also mostly missing that gene and am quite happy about it. Definitely don't get the shoes/handbag thing. But...I do want a little diamond!

I am certainly quite ashamed of this...although everyone's nice replies made me feel like maybe it was OK after all...

I think that is my question - suppress these shallow desires or give in to them?!

yes! your'e sworth it

YANBU at all

"iphone for DH"
Yes, I pounced on that as a fab idea. Then I mentioned it to him.
"What do I want one of those for?" (technophobe)

We aren't hugely rich but we are lucky, and we have some money in the bank. We should save it though to buy a house but surely one leetle diamond isn't going to be much of a consideration when it comes to spending hundreds of thousands of pounds on a house...

I think the iPhone-diamond joint giving in to shallow materialistic desires might be OK....! might it?!

YABU

www.un.org/peace/africa/Diamond.html

Go for the antique option if you must - it's both more ethical and will look far less common.

Personnally, I think the whole "every woman deserves a diamond" idea is quite childish and flys directly in the face of what a modern, intelligent, strong woman should be.

dons fire-proof suit

not every diamond is a blood/conflict diamond! jesus christ!

I'd rather not take the risk, purely for a luxury item.

Well if you want it and you (as a family) can afford it, then go for it.

But your DH ought to get something equally expensive for himself.

I don't buy the "every woman deserves a diamond" line. That's just buying into what the marketing men want you to believe.

you can check on where a diamond is from, by the certificate and using reputable dealers, it really isn't difficult.

As for "every woman deserves" well every woman deserves to have access to whatever she chooses within reason. I am intelligent, modern, strong and own a diamond. They are not mutually exclusive qualities you know.

furthermore, OP, i you are shopping for one find a company that has a statement about how they source their diamonds. It should be in compliance with the UN and be able to provide a guarantee from diamond source if you request one.

I'm a ring person. I'd wanted a real diamond for years, and since DP didn't look like he was ever going to get me one, I took the opportunity, during a work conference in Amsterdam, to buy a certified small diamond and sapphire eternity-type ring for myself.

Wearing it now

When DP proposed, he moaned that it's always the women who get the diamonds. I called his bluff. So we both got engagement rings!

Way I see it, they're an investment that should times get harder, we can use. In the meantime, fun.

I have English friends in the US who tell me it's quite scary over there. Engagement rings are hugely competitive and so women have the most humungous rocks as status symbols, never mind that they are impractical and you have to take them off to do just about anything. I was very glad when I visited that I'd just worn my wedding ring so her friends couldn't see my little one!

DH has suggested , without any hinting from me, that he gives me an eternity ring for our 15th next week.

Trouble will be getting one that "goes" with my engagement ring. When I've tried on any in years gone by (when DS was born, for instance) none looked right. We opted for a camcorder instead! Much more practical. Unless you're wearing gloves. Or washing up.

my finger shines with diamonds and gives me pleasure

on special occasions I get to wear a fabulous pendant and bracelet

they will be inherited by my sons and daughter and if we need the money we'll sell them

I love them

I think I deserved them for being generally wonderful

and the pleasure they give me as they shine is immense

so no yanby

Oh goodness I know how you feel OP. My DH couldn't afford one and thought they were completely pointless when we got engaged. I ended up taking matters into my own hands and buying one at auction. I went to Fellows and Sons online and they have jewllery auctions every month or so. I bought a small diamond ring for £60. The diamond was bright but small but I was happy.

A year or so later we had some builders in painting our windows and my ring and a couple of other items went missing/were stolen. I claimed on my insurance and they offered me £1,500 to spend entirely on diamonds! . I now have a lovely pair of diamond earrings and another, bigger diamond engagement ring and an eternity ring. (amazing what you can get when you go to auction and get friendly with the shopkeepers at the Burlington Arcade round the corner from where I worked). My diamond lust has now abated (slightly).

maud you got all that for £1500 at burlington arcade?! I went there to enquire after a bracelet I had been drooling over and was told it was £28,000. I nearly keeled over!