to not be over the moon when the in-laws joined our first overseas family holiday in 8 years...?

[LongStory]

Well we made it a whole 10 miles in from Calais, leaving the toddler twins with my mum (also caring for a poorly husband) to have a long awaited break with 3 DCs, arrived at the campsite and 'SURPRISE', my in-laws had found the details and decide to book accomodation on the site as well.

I smiled and was delighted as a DIL should be, but two months later I am still fuming - as I doubt that we'll ever get a proper relaxing break away with only three children again.

er, someone else's family holiday? surely the point is that they consider themselves "family". Family is not just for Christmas! Sorry for the family who was resentful over a £100 split for twins Get over it, be generous with your crumbs...bet the IL just want to be closer to the GCs

OMG my grandmother used to do this to us

and as undutiful grandkids we were not greatful
because our semi-relaxed on holiday mother would snap back into panicked stress mode

and they didnt want to bumble along to the beach and generally interact: they wanted to be entertained by us

and we were not performing monkeys

respect to your politely enthusiastic kids

I'm a bit that you just didn't go on honeymoon rather than tell them they couldn't come along too. They need telling.

FakePlasticTrees
Took having kids to give me some back bone - took DH a liitle longer but its been hard work teaching them no -they had got there though.

MIL doesn't want more grandchildren - been very vocal on subject think she'd turn up to prevent - (we find it amusing).

mama2moo
wish we could change plans - hemmed in with DH work and treatment and school.

Dropdeadfred
They live quiet a distance away - and I have family nearer so nice idea but can't see it working.

AmazingBouncingFerret
Good idea .

LongStory
mutter mutter mutter, still I didn't tell you about the £100 cheque we got from the in-laws for each of the children, and then only £50 each for the twins...!

That's awful. MIL did say somethings when I was pregant with second DC that made me worry about this - she was TOLD differnt treatment- wasn't acceptable and to be fair she did try. She has come round to both yonger ones herself anyway- helps they are natural charmers.

Chatalaine
...bet the IL just want to be closer to the GCs

Yes I can see that - if it was agreeded with us then find and I'd be happy with any other holiday but our first ever after a horrible time for us and DC. I don't need added stress and family tension what I need is a break.

As we are paying with our hard earned cash - saved over long period of time and waited for for so long why do we now have to potentially accomodate other family members (with history of not always being nice to us and causing unnessary stress and tension) rather than just enjoying ourselves for once?

sorry lost ablity to type corrctly - must go sleep.

Well I think if the ILs used to go away with their ILs/parents, then they might see it as a family holiday.

If not, not quite sure why they would tbh.

I'd bloody hate that. We went on a recent family holiday, so they were supposed to be there, but any time we tried to take a bit of time to ourselves, just at the park for an hour (also to give them some time) they'd turn up with the flipping camcorder. My grimaces well are well documented that week.

On a similar note we're moving a bit further out (only another half hour or so's journey) they've been looking up house prices in our new area 'out of interest'

Does anyone know how much 3 beds semis are going for in Outer Mongolia......out of interest????

Forgot to say definitely YANBU. How....I don't even know what the correct word is but....clueless/thoughtless of them to just turn up there.

If you do ever get a chance to do something similar with the DC's, which I hope you do, and notice them probing you for holiday details, throw them off the scent and tell them somewhere completely different - that'll teach em!

Incredibly presumptious.

If they liked the idea of joining you they could have said something like "Oh we'd love to go somewhere like that" and then if you didn't say - "then why don't you come along!" - that means you didn't bloody want them along.

I love my inlaws and would love to have them on holiday with us, but they would never in a million years just invite themselves along.

I'm amazed at such behaviour.