i need to bite my tongue, .. bil wants to ruin our family holiday

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well not exactly.
we are borrowing bil'c cottage for a week, which is nearer to where both bil's live than where we do.
but other bil wants to come and see us while we are there dh is so stressed about it all, mainly i fear cos he knows i will be cross and stressed. in fact it was me placating him about how his db will only be there for a short time, and it would save us having to drive up to him, and making the suggestion that he comes on a certain date, to join us for our holiday. ie. towards the end. sigh

So you don't get on then...

Why will it ruin your holiday?

i dont know if it will ruin it, i dont know, it just seems wrong to join us without asking, just telling. sigh, he rung to find out the dates we were going, but ds didnt know

So he's a nice person who you get on well with and the issue is that he decided to come and be with you for a bit of your holiday instead of asking you if you'd mind if he did?

come on. tell auntie Hec the truth! There's History, right?

ooh, there's always history ..

Gatcrashing holiday = rude, no matter how well you get on.

thank you trillian

tis rude

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Yes, yes, it's rude it's rude.

What's important however, is

That you tell me the juicy details!!!

ha

ufnrotuantely i need to leave pc as dd is loitering,

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

breifly,

he is a bit of an old woman

never married, in his ealry 60's. set in his ways. and you know how it takes aaages to get the whole family out, well when he is involved, we are all going out of the door, when he announces he is going to the bathroom
where he stays for half an hour!!

just a snap shot

and breathe,
and takes up drinking whiskey yoga

Agree it's rude to gatecrash other people's holidays, unless they've been specifically invited. My PIL constantly gatecrash DH's sister's family hols. Has happened last 3 years in a row (since GC were born), including Centre Parks, camping in Cornwall, Portugal and Spain!!! I'd be livid. They're great with the kids but drink A LOT.

hang on.
you are borrowing their cottage for free
BUT you dont want to see them?

ahhhh just re-read
its a different BIL

I don't get this gatecrashing people's holidays thing (unless you're specifically invited, of course).

We suffer it with DH's family. They're all nice enough - but the minute you tell them you've booked it, they check the calendar and say 'We'll come and see you and we'll bring XXX, too'. I want to shout 'NOOOOOOOO! You're not invited!' but of course I don't.

We were going to go to visit DH's sister up North - but couldn't make it in the end. Other BIL has gone, and in a few days, other SIL is going, then by the end of the week another BIL is going too.

Family are just quite annoying sometimes. You have my sympathies.

My ILs do this! We went to a fab campsite last year, recommended in fact by MNers. I knew that ILs and aunt and uncle would invite themselves too (ok can live with that, the dcs love seeing them) but because I chose it they spent the entire 10 days finding fault and complainingg to me, argh! They also have to get there first to get the 'best' pitch.

Next hols we are renting a cottage!

Do you think it's just ILs then? I might do it to them next time 'oh, where is it you're going? Oh lovely, we'll be there on the 8th for 2 days. Great.'

ha ha, managed to get back to see this!
can't believe other il's do the same.

will have to ahve secret destination holidays in future.
i am definitely less annoyed with it all now, just as long as he is not there the whole time.