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Original poster

to think this woman is a cheeky cow?

76 replies

Ladyanonymous · 24/07/2010 17:38

DDs birthday party here at home in a few weeks - handed out invites on last day of term. Just had a text from one of her friends mums (not a friend or anything) asking if I can pick up and drop off her DD as "its such a pain not being able to drive"!!! Cheeky fucking bitch

Not offering petrol money or anything (we are both single mums and money is tight) and besides which I am going to have enough to do being the only adult with my three and the 12 invitees!!

AIBU to feel like telling her to piss off and get a bus/taxi as it isn't my fucking problem she can't drive!!!

(I won't - I will probably do it for the sake of DD)

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CarGirl · 24/07/2010 17:40

Why don't you tell her who else is coming and suggest she asks one of them?

echt · 24/07/2010 17:41

Just text her back saying sorry, but you're running the party.

backtotalkaboutthis · 24/07/2010 17:44

Of course you can't pick up her child. How silly.

BAFE · 24/07/2010 17:44

for god's sake, she only asked!

Say you can't, no need to be rude or aggresive, sheesh.

nattiecake · 24/07/2010 17:44

Exactly, no time for being taxi when you're doing the party!! Thats a perfectly good reason!!

usualsuspect · 24/07/2010 17:48

She was only asking ..bloody hell,chill..Can't you tell her who else is coming so she can maybe get a lift from someone else

HecateQueenOfWitches · 24/07/2010 17:49

Say sorry but you won't be able to because you're so busy on the day, and you hope she'll be able to get a lift / bus / taxi?

Lulumaam · 24/07/2010 17:49

that's quite an overreaction !!

silly of hr to ask the party girl's mum to pick up her daughter, but quite why she deserves such vitriol is beyond me

Numberfour · 24/07/2010 17:51

cheeky to ask seeing that you are running the party!

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Ladyanonymous · 24/07/2010 17:53

I just wouldn't dreamt of asking!!

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YunoYurbubson · 24/07/2010 17:55

I think you calling her a "cheeky fucking bitch" is 100 times worse than her asking you if you would be able to taxi her dd to the party.

She is unable to take her dd herself and is exploring alternatives. You obviously can't taxi her, so your answer is "no, sorry, I can't", not "piss off" because it isn't your "fucking problem".

ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave · 24/07/2010 17:58

She was only asking, but she was "only asking" the host of a party (who needs to be at home preparing the party and welcoming other guests) to drive out and pick up her DD instead. And that's pretty stupid and self-centred.

There are lots of other children going and asking one of their parents for a lift would be whole orders of magnitude more sensible.

ZZZenAgain · 24/07/2010 17:59

I agree with echt. Would never have crossed my mind tbh to ask the mother organising the party to pick my dd up and drop her back.

Can sort of understand asking one of the other mums but very inconvenient for you. You could tell her which other dc are invited I suppose so she could see if there is someone going who could help her out?

dilemma456 · 24/07/2010 18:03

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GettinTrimmer · 24/07/2010 18:04

Is there anybody else who can give her a lift?

You're saying you probably will do it putting your dd first (even though you're fed up about it) but you will have enough to do. Possibly the other mum hasn't thought it through.

Wanderingsheep · 24/07/2010 18:07

I wouldn't dream of asking either and I don't drive. DD has had a party today and DP dropped us off but she has a party next Saturday too and DP might be working, therefore I will catch the bus or walk unless my friend, who lives nearby, whose DS is invited offers us a lift.

So YANBU she was cheeky, although "fucking bitch" is a bit strong.

Lulumaam · 24/07/2010 18:10

does she know anyone esle going? does she know them well enough to ask for a lift? maybe the public transport is difficutl if it's a weekend, maybe she cant afford a taxi

you sound like you don't really like her, if it had been a good friend or someone you liked/respected, you'd not be posting on here and calling her a cheeky fucking bithc

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 24/07/2010 18:14

You sound really charming!

ZZZenAgain · 24/07/2010 18:21

she's stressed with the party and having to run it all alone and then people who drive do feel annoyed or taken advantage of when other people don't drive but ask to be driven about. Happens

So where does this family live? Can she conveniently enough get to your house on public transport or not?

If there is no bus etc, is there another family that live near her who could be asked to bring this dd along too since it wouldn't be out of their way?

Could be the travelling back and forth on public transport makes it tricky. Could the mum drop her dd off and stay on at your place and you'd run them both home when the party is finsihed if no one else was heading that way and could take them home? Then she'd only have to make the trip once (not 4 times)

knickers0nmyhead · 24/07/2010 18:32

bloody hell, what an over reaction!

knickers0nmyhead · 24/07/2010 18:32

bloody hell, what an over reaction!

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Ladyanonymous · 24/07/2010 18:37

I didn't call her a cheeky fucking bitch to her face!! Only on here where is isn't going to hurt anyone!!

I think maybe I am pissed off because our DDs our friends she expects me to do all the ferrying because she doesn't drive.

I do run a car - at a great expense to myself which I budget for.

It pisses me off sometimes when people don't drive but kind of expect you to ferry them around our of your own pocket.

If you don't drive then you have to get around somehow rather than relying on the kindness of others surely?

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Ladyanonymous · 24/07/2010 18:39

After I texted her back saying my ex OH would do one way and I the other she asked where I lived and who else was going so she didn't really think through the other options before she asked me.!!

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knickers0nmyhead · 24/07/2010 18:41

actually, i used to have a friend who use to 'ferry me around' and i was bloody damn grateful! Especially when things were tough, she was a lifeline then!

You dont get nowhere if you dont ask. She asked, so just say no instead of being so bitchy!

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Ladyanonymous · 24/07/2010 18:44

I think you would be justified in calling me bitchy if I had phoned round all the other mums and slagged her off.

I haven't I have just vented here - where n one knows her or me.

I have ferryed lots of friends who don't drive around without hesitation - but this lady isn't even a friend and I think IMO its a rather big ask!!

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