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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think this woman is a cheeky cow?

76 replies

Ladyanonymous · 24/07/2010 17:38

DDs birthday party here at home in a few weeks - handed out invites on last day of term. Just had a text from one of her friends mums (not a friend or anything) asking if I can pick up and drop off her DD as "its such a pain not being able to drive"!!! Cheeky fucking bitch

Not offering petrol money or anything (we are both single mums and money is tight) and besides which I am going to have enough to do being the only adult with my three and the 12 invitees!!

AIBU to feel like telling her to piss off and get a bus/taxi as it isn't my fucking problem she can't drive!!!

(I won't - I will probably do it for the sake of DD)

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bronze · 24/07/2010 18:47

I agree its an overreaction. I don't drive and have a couple of friends that I would ask similar things of(though not ones whose party it was) I do it fully in the knowledge that I will happily help them out (and do) when needed in other ways. One I regularly look after her youngest.
I don't think shes cheeky at all. One day you may be calling on her for help in something that only she can do.
I just hope they're not talking about me like this or I'll soon stop being there for them when needed

knickers0nmyhead · 24/07/2010 18:52

yes, but how do you know she doesnt use mn? Id be devestated if i were her after reading this thread.

TheBestAManCanGet · 24/07/2010 18:55

I don't think there is any need to call her a bitch.

We always to offer to pick people up and drop them off if we have a party.

LittleSilver · 24/07/2010 18:55

YABU and extremely rude.

GypsyMoth · 24/07/2010 18:56

i'm a lone parent and would happily help another out,or any mum who could do with a lift

yabu and nasty with it!!

its for your DD.....can't you just be decent and help her sort it??

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stressheaderic · 24/07/2010 19:08

YANBU - although a slightly heavy-handed reaction on here.
I think that sometimes people who don't drive take the piss out of those who do. I used to have a friend who always wanted dropping everywhere after we both finished work, rather than taking straight home. She didn't realise I was tired too, and battling the traffic was extra stress.
A bit odd of her even to ask, surely a party host would be up the wall the morning of the party.

scottishmummy · 24/07/2010 19:24

shes a chancer .you however have anger issues and are taking this out of all proprotion

EmmaKateWH · 24/07/2010 19:27

she may have only been asking - but I think its totally unreasonable to ask!

Firawla · 24/07/2010 19:50

she may have been thoughtless to ask when you are running the party but no not deserving to be called a bitch. i think if you can suggest to her someone else to ask who may live in her general direction, that would be the ideal solution. obviously its not easy for you bc you will be needing to get everything ready for the party, but you can just explain that and see if anyone else could help, no need to go off on one, she was only aksing

LisaD1 · 24/07/2010 19:53

She was being a bit cheeky/thoughtless but you're being damn right mean spirited and over reacting enormously, just say no if you're that put out.

Personally, I wouldn't want my child at the party of a child whose mother has such a bad attitude/anger issues!

ivykaty44 · 24/07/2010 19:59

TEXT**Love to give you a lift - I will pick you up two hours before party as streched for time - but you will be able to stay and help out and then help clear up after and I will be able to run you home xx

scottishmummy · 24/07/2010 20:46

text sorry for the profanities and over reaction

Original poster
Ladyanonymous · 24/07/2010 21:10

Good grief - I am deranged, have anger issues am a bitch and can't be trusted with others kids because I vented about being asked to do something I clearly am unable to do

Am I'm over reacting

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Original poster
Ladyanonymous · 24/07/2010 21:15

And I've already said I have arranged a lift for her DD with my ex and am taking her home after doing the party.

Clearly I am a nasty bitch

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scottishmummy · 24/07/2010 21:16

behave.dont act the wronged party after the tirade you typed

Original poster
Ladyanonymous · 24/07/2010 21:22

I typed it in anger after getting her text rather than venting on her.

I think she was a cheeky bitch and so does my ex its hardly a tirade and I don't think its me who needs to get a grip as I am picking up the child anyway

If you were invited to a dinner party and didn't drive would it be reasonable to ask your hosts to collect and drop you home?

No.

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anotherglass · 24/07/2010 21:28

Hey
op, if someone did same to
me I would think them a flamin inconsiderate idiot. You homail let off steam here. Big deal! Organising a party for a dozen kids is tiring..you got things sorted with the other mum so now focus on having a lovely day with the kids.

Ezma · 24/07/2010 21:32

It might be that the child's mum is too embarassed about not being able to get her child to the party all that easily and has kind of turned it into a poor joke. It might be difficult for her to admit that she needs a bit of help and doesn't want her child to miss out as a result. I would also react like you in the first instance but perhaps think of ways that you could help without it inconveniencing you. Does she know you better than the other parents? If so, perhaps just offer to ask on her behalf if she knows whether any of the other parents might be able to give lifts there and back to help out. Also perhaps suggest public transport routes that might help? That way you've done all you reasonably can.

belledechocolatefluffybunny · 24/07/2010 21:44

I don't drive, whenever ds has been invited to a party miles away I've always said I can't drive, the last time the host arranged for someone to collect ds and drop him off which I was incredibly grateful for. I hope to god she didn't have the same reaction as you.

Rockbird · 24/07/2010 22:06

It is incredibly cheeky of her. Does she think that you should drop everything and ferry her child around? Is she incapable of using buses or getting a taxi or finding out who else is going? I hope you said you were sorry but you'll be busy running a party that day.

blackberryway · 24/07/2010 22:07

She was a bit cheeky to ask but is probably used to having to push her luck a bit to get by. Adding 'bitch' into it and 'piss off' etc is overdoing it. You sound stressed - why on earth did you invite so many? Coping with 15 kids on your own is a mad idea.

StealthPolarBear · 24/07/2010 22:10

"We always to offer to pick people up and drop them off if we have a party. "

really? What if everyone takes you up on it? YOu'd end up being the taxi service all day and well into the night.
I kind of think if you invite someone to a party their end of the bargain is getting themselves there and home again - is it really too much to ask?

TheBestAManCanGet · 24/07/2010 22:10

If I invited someone for dinner knowing that they did not drive I would arrange for them to be picked up and dropped off.

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