Hubby forgot our anniversary :(

[Dolanette]

Hubby forgot it was our anniversary (7yr).I had to (not so gently) remind him when he began talking about a lads night out! He then booked dinner at a lovely restaurant (v posh 5)but I was so cross told him to cancel. We've agreed now to go to another restaurant (not posh!).Would prefer to keep 5 for a very special occasion and not when i'm getting over this. :-( He can't understand why I was so angry over it!! AIBU to be angry over it? I think I'm not!!

YANBU to be upset that he forgot.
But he tried to make amends by booking you a meal at a posh restuarant, YABVU to reject this and to be very cross about it.

I bet if he'd booked the not-so-posh restaurant first, she'd have had words to say about that too.

wait a second.

He was planning on going out so you told him no its our anniversary

he books a nice restaurant for the annivesary

so what he forgot the week before but not on the actual day?

YABU we can all forget that x day is such and such he made an effort clearly feeling that it was worth it enjoy that

Well with that attitude to a bloke doing his best I'm surprised that you will have any more anniversaries TB brutally H.

Save your puff for what's really important and get some counselling for lack of communication.

How ridiculous to not go (IMO).

I forgot ours last year-this year husband was away-and I was thinking of the wrong date

It´s been 15yrs so you´d think I´d know by now.

It´s not as if the date changes

I wish I could wake up one morning to find DH cleaning the oven.

In theory the "cleaning oven" sounds good and dh is very good about doing house chores ( think he does more than me) but for a special date something more romantic would've been preferrable.

I find this anniversary thing a bit bizarre. It seems like it is always the man's job to arrange something. Presumably you remembered OP? Why hadn't you booked anything?

DH and I both forgot this year. He rang me at work at about 2pm to wish me happy anniversary! We don't have the money or babysitters to go out!

Yabu to use the term hubby!

We went for dinner ... Interesting (to say the least) reading these comments! I know I posted but the judgments people make on a person based on one post are quite bizarre. Thanks for replying anyway!!

I have never been in a relationship where my partner has placed more or even equal imortance on annivesaries as I do myself no.

Hence my conclusio n that men do not place as much importance on these things as women - although I do believe some are very good at appeasing and going along with us.

I bet most men - given the opportunity to be honest only bother with their anniversary to make thier wife happy.

yabu. he forgot, you reminded him, before the day, and he booked a 5star hotel to celebrate, not sure what the problem is there.

ladyAnon I think your analysis is probably (sad but )true. Men prob do only celebrate to keep their wives happy!! And that's why I was so unhappy when he forgot!!

If its really that important a date to you then you need to ensure its in his diary / calendar / outlook.

But really, is it that important? He forgot, you reminded him, he tried to put it right and you as good as told him not to bother tbh he doesn't sound like a bad bloke if he wanted to put it right and make you happy.

what? what did i write?

you asked the OP if she had given any thought the fact that other posters considered her actions to be that of a loon? or something like that? Some others said the word 'neurotic' perhaps that is a medical condition and thus more acceptable?

Dolanette, I wouldnt be too worried if I were you. A fair percentage of men are pretty crap at remembering dates, they could have it tattooed on their arms and still forget to check!

I think it is lovely that he had planned to take you out to such a nice restaurant, so yes YABU. You really cut your nose off to spite your face. I would have gone along and had the best thing on the menu and hope that he didnt forget the next year.

Your comment of 'not when i'm getting over this' sounds like he has just told you that he has been having an affair rather than forgetting your wedding anniversary.

My dh forgot our 6th wedding anniversary in June, even though he had it as a reminder on facebook and i had been dropping hints/reminders for about 2 weeks prior. I wasnt cross at all as he felt really bad, but i have been able to keep mentioning it to him/people and pretending that i am so hard done by He did manage to arrange some flowers to be sent to me later that day which was tricky as we were in the middle of a race track!

ah yes, that rings a bell. rarely have i seen a more comprehensive yabu, i just wondered if the rout had given the OP pause for thought?

Perfectly fair to be a little upset that he forgot. But, rather silly to tell him to cancel the dinner once you had reminded him. How did you get into a row about something so trivial? And why do you need to 'get over it'?

If this is the biggest issue you have to worry about in life, be grateful.

Fyi,I'm not a loon/neurotic/bonkers. Maybe AIBU was wrong place to post ...

that would be a no, then, everyone. peace out.

I love your name creepyfunbags!
And GothAnneGeddes!! Hilarious images of little babies all gothy in their red red roses beds.

Dolanette - you want to celebrate your anniversary - you book the restaurant and tell him to keep the date free!

It infuriates me when people play these games with their partners - as though he's done something wrong by forgetting.

I was out with another man on our wedding anniversary - on a sea kayak trip.\ And dh was on a 9 hour round trip to collect our son from an adventure holiday so that I could go.

Now that means far more to me about how he values me as a person that whether he remembered the date and/or took me out for a meal!