I know I am prob being unreasonable but I need a rant.
I asked one of my best mates to babysit for me for the weekend four weeks ago in exchange for £150 which we negotiated to £180. I provided snacks. I know that this is not a huge amount of money to pay her but she gladly accepted saying that I needed a break etc.
She knows that looking after a toddler is tough as she has her own. Her dd was away that weekend so she only had my dd.
I phoned her everyday whilst away and she told me that dd had been ''a dream'' and was settling really well.
I accidentally took one of her bags away with me and in it was her swimming costume. I forgot about it and forgot to tell her as my mum has just been diagnosed with cancer and went to hospital soon after I came back for the weekend. I was upset and that's why I forgot.
We had a converation about two weeks after I came back and she mentioned taht she couldn't find a costume. I remembered I had it but couldn't remembre where I'd put it. I've literally had no time to find it with dd, no help as mum's in hospital, work etc, etc, etc. I'm also quite down.
My friend texted me today and told me she was going to buy another costume and I would have to owe her. I was unreasonable and felt that she was using me as a cash machine. She then wrote back and told me that dd had actually been ''very difficult'' when I was away and that she didn't think £180 was a lot of money especially when I hadn't provided food. (I did- she just didn't see it) I do know that dd is hard work. After all- she's two but she knew that and jumped at the chance to earn money.
Am I being unreasonable to think that she should not have lied to me about finding babysitting ''a dream'' and is mabe resentful because I had a nice weekend away. She quite rightly wants me to pay for the costume but I feel that all she cares about is cash atm when I have been worried about mum.
Moral of the story; Hire a professional to look after kids because there's always too much drama with friends and fmaily. (Sadly remembers a recent thread about the decline of the extended family.)
Now I'm a single mum I feel I've got to accept that I no longer have a social life, unreliable friends and that I don't have a huge amount of support. I resent it.