to be angry with my friend for letting her little boy attack mine?

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Had a friend over for lunch today with a little boy the same age as mine (nearly 1)They were enjoying cheese on toast when her little boy, out of the blue, took my baby's food and then hit him. My friend did not explain to her baby that this is not on. I ALWAYS tell my child not to hit, even though he is only young. I think she was totally out of order. AIBU?

Nearly 1, YABatrifleU

If they're not even 1 then "attack" is a little bit hysterical. They're only babies, he wasn't being malicious.

yanbu in my opinion - yes, they're young but not too young to hear the word "no"

ridiculous.

YOu are squabbling about the babyish behavior of babies. You explaining something to a child under one is a pointless waste of your time and your baby's time, your friend seemingly has enough sense to know this.

While I really do appreciate how it feels to see your wonderful little boy being hit for no reason, I honestly think YABU.

They are 1yo.... 1YO don't 'attack' other 1YOs.

I have a 25MO and a 12MO... Honestly, they tear strips off each other... DD (12mo) waits for DS (25Mo) to walk past so she can grab his hair... DS waits for DD to stand up so that he can push her over.

Should she have corrected her son? Yeah... probably, but I don't think it was an attack!!

at a year, YADBU

They are only one.

Will this be something you break a friendship over? I really doubt it was meant maliciously by such a young baby.

Having said that I would have apologised myself if your child had been hurt. And probably automatically told my child not to do it. But I wouldn't be annoyed with another mother because she didn't.

they are not even one fgs

Agre she could have told him "No" but think you're over-reacting quite a bit if they're not even 1 yet

Don't be daft.

Babies of this age fling themselves about willy nilly and don't really understand lectures on behaviour.

this is what one year old's hear when their mother's explain the error of their actions to them

"Attack' is a massive exaggeration.

YADBU, they are babies, I imagine she prevented it from happening again in some way. Get over it.

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Yes I do think YABU they're not even 1 sounds pretty normal to me. You're in for a bit of a shock when they get to 2/3 if this has upset you! Perhaps a "no we don't hit" might have helped but they're so young it would really be a bit pointless!

"My friend did not explain to her baby that this is not on. "

ha! ha! pfb I take it

very pfb .....if you think that's violence just wait til they're 2!!

YABU. 1 year olds don't attack someone else. The coordination and intent simply isn't there. And you're saying your friend "let" him attack your child?? How on earth did she "let" it happen?? You said yourself it was out of the blue, so obviously neither of you saw it coming. It's not like she's psychic and could have prevented it....

hahahahah at this thread.

OP get real. how in earth do you tell a 1 year old not to hit so that it understands.

YABU

the baby may well not understand a full on adult description about why it is unacceptable to hit others and to say sorry etc but it would know that a firm "no" meant it was not a good thing to do in that it didn't get a nice reaction

My friend's baby is just over 1 and knows the word "no" when it's said firmly. I've stopped him pinching, biting, hitting and pulling hair with a firm "no" so babies do understand tone of voice etc IME.

attack??? I was expecting A VICIOUS ATTACK and I read this, come on woman!!!!

yabu

OK, maybe I am being a bit unreasonable and over dramatic. Lewisfan puts it better than me, I always so 'no' when my baby does something acceptable and he understands. This friend and I went to school together so have lots of mutual friends, we are also in the same profession so have lots in common, it would be a shame to lose her over this, I just want reassurance that she will try and prevent it from happening again.

Thank you for your straight talking!

It is never too early to remove a child and say "No". Never too early. so you are not being unreasonable to have expected the mother to do that.

The baby was just being a baby. It saw food - wanted food - took food. That's just to be expected. And again something you correct. Every time. It's how they learn.

re the biting. Babies are just - well, animals. Tiny little human animals. they bite. You teach them not to.

You don't wait until they are old enough to discuss unacceptable behaviours with you before you start teaching them! They learn by you teaching them before they understand - iyswim You train them rather than teach them at first, in my experience.

So I don't actually think you are being unreasonable to think that the mother should have said something and done something.