aibu and a lazy bitch!!

[Hai1988]

To get up at 6 every morning and get ds's breakfast put the telly on and go back to bed until 8

[Librashavinganotherbiscuit]

I honestly don't see the difference between kipping in bed or dozing on the sofa or mning. Ignoring a child is ignoring a child however much you try to justify it as being in the same room.

[Dropdeadfred]

And obvioulsy if this was for health reasons ha you the OP could not keep heir child company then I would view it differently.
Oblomov you obviously were unable to l,ook after your ds1 whilst you had your hypo...did noone ever come to help you though??

[dorie]

Put a black out blind on his bedroom window. Worked for us!

[PortiaNovmerriment]

I would get black-out blinds and put him to bed a bit later probably, after some tiring activity. I have never had a very early-to-wake child though, it must be hard. Dare I ask if his dad ever gets up with him? I would be pretty pissed off if it was him implying that I was a lazy b***. Urgh, horrible word.

[Oblomov]

laugh at maryz. yes tell the ungrateful little toerag to get back into bed and stop demanding so much of mummy's time.
ha ha. love it.

[KnottyLocks]

OP, are you being treated for depression? Or have you considered it? I have just read your other thread. There are many people on there that really want to help you. I think in your circumstances, AIBU is not the best place to post. Was the 'lazy bitch' comment made my your H?

[thehairybabysmum]

in answer to your question, yes v. bloody lazy IMO, 6 is not that early.

[ivykiller]

Watching TV is not really a big deal especially if he is playing aswell but leaving him alone while he is eating is IMO not great. What if he chokes? What is he swallows a small object? What if he he gets something round his neck? No room is childproof I'm afraid. Could you not either go to bed earlier and get up with him at 6am? Better to do this than live with the guilt if something happened to him.

[Hai1988]

Hiya i would fist like to say that thank you to all the posters who did not agree with the neglect comment that was posted before.

Also i would just like to point out that my DS has always been a child who likes to play quietly on his own if i was in the room he would be doing exactly the same.

Also may i point out that it is not always till 8 that i stay in the bedroom as i get sever headaches if i wake up and get up at the same time i have to lie for a bit before getting up.

I didnt want to bring this into the convosation cus i thought i was irrallavant as to what my medical situation was but i am seeing my dp soon about depression.

Lastly aboout my DH he is at work at this time (leaves at 5.30am) and no he didnt make the lazy bitch comment i did.

[FourArms]

I do this with DS1 who is now 6. I get up whenever DS2 does, which might be 7, or if I'm lucky 9! DS1 comes down and watches TV/reads/plays/goes on X-box or Wii. Not ideal, but it doesn't matter what time he goes to bed, or what level of activity he's had the day before, so this is the way it is. DH is at sea, so it's me at home 24/7 dealing with them, and I do so much better with a bit more sleep!

YANBU or lazy! I don't get up to make DS1's breakfast either. Of a weekend I might be more organised and do this the night before, but on weekdays he eats when I get up.

[Dropdeadfred]

what time does your ds1 get up Fourarms?

[Hai1988]

fourarms this is exactly whats going on with me. Thank you for understanding

[runnybottom]

6am is very early in my house. Its all relative isn't it? 2 older Ds's aren't allowed out of their bedroom until 7.30 at the earliest, but they'd often sleep past that. Then they might put the tv in for a bit downstairs while I drag my arse out of bed and sort the baby out.

Neglect? Meh. Not likely.

[scottishmummy]

hai,you have been your worst enemy.contentious op.evocative of sloth.only then do you reveal oh well actually...its like this and that- dont judge me

you must have guessed youd get response with that op. so getting annoyed and having to clarify your position and deny neglect.why do you do it to yourself

drip drip facts never great way to go on aibu

hope your depression resolves

[Hai1988]

i was just pointing out the facts and no i didnt expect this tbh

[scottishmummy]

your post has killer combination
aibu
wean watching tv for hours
lazy bitch quip
.....doesnt paint a glowing picture

do look after yourself,and perhaps less self effacing posts if you feel low

[proudnsad]

YABU. I do this on the weekends, since oldest has been 7, but not every day. But course it's not neglect fgs!

All other issues aside, I don't let them watch telly on weekdays as they watch so blooming much over the weekend.

[pippylongstockings]

I also do this on the weekends if I am not working - We normally all have to be up at 6.30am to make it out the house by 7.45am to get to the childminders before work so my kids are pretty much trained to be earlyish risers.

But at the weekend my DS1 will get up put on cbeebies, get himself and his brother a ricecake/frube/fruit for a snack and we can doze for another hour or so. He is 5 and his brother is 3.

[Noellefielding]

I think there's some good research that says you shouldn't.
I put my kids to bed relatively late so that they wake up at a civilised hour.

Nights are harder but I love my morning sleep.

What time do you put him down?

[AnyFucker]

I don't believe this is neglect

OP...are you having problems in your relationship with your partner ?

[superv1xen]

op thats exactly what i do! my ds is the same age. and most of my friends do it too so sod the people who say you are BU. i bet you are a better mum for having lots of sleep and have glowing skin to boot

[Hai1988]

He goes to bed at 7pm

Thanks superv1xen

[funnysinthegarden]

OP, you did rather open yourself up to being slated.

YANBU, I do the same, I just don't tell anyone

[superv1xen]

plus i would imagine that as your DS is 4 as well he will start full time school in sept? I say make the most of it while you can as you won't be able to stay in bed till 8 when you have got to get both of you up ready and dressed and out the door.

[Hai1988]

@ funny

Too right super!!