aibu and a lazy bitch!!

[Hai1988]

To get up at 6 every morning and get ds's breakfast put the telly on and go back to bed until 8

But he's only little! I couldn't sleep soundly knowing my DS was up and playing in the living room on his own for 2 hours

I just think it's a bit sad really

Lego is your friend. I didn't roll out of bed until 10am this morning. DS1 (6yo) had his stereo on in his room, building a giant castle type thing and had already had breakfast with his dad before he left for work.

In answer to the OP's question:

yes and yes

This is in no way neglect. And he is almost 5 so not a toddler. I do think you could consider getting him a special kids' clock so he will know when it's a less anti social time to get up though.

Why does he get up at 6? Either wear him out more during the day or keep him up later at night.

OMG foreva ! Do you have children? Have they always slept to 7am? If so, please share your secret with me - both mine frequently wake at 6 (or sometimes even silly o'clock) but I can't get them to sleep longer on normal days.

why is dropdeadfred so put out by a child spending a bit of time on their own ?
do you stay with your children every minute of the day ? do you not go for a pooh ? it is healthy for a child to play on their own , you know.
mum could be asleep, at 6am or could be cookign dinner at 6pm. what difference does it make what mum is doing. the child is still on their own. god forbid. if it is the actual child on their own that you are objecting to?

foreverastudent, lots of kids get up at 6. ds1 has done for the last 5 years, since being a few weks old. dh naturally wakes up at 6.
i would chose to get up at 11am given half a chance.

6am is not early - why does everyone think it is???

because the OP is stating hat it is 14 hours a week, and she is not nipping to the toilet or walking in and out of the room whilst cooking...this is not he child's choice to occupy himself...the OP gives him food and then goes back to bed for 2 hours...why??

And i have a child that was 5 last month and yes I am with her all the time..or at least up and awake whilst she is.

6am is early here. Yuck.

DS1 knows not to bother with me until around 7:30ish I am good for fuck all before then even though I go to bed early.

It's still not neglect.

You want to see neglect? Go to the Barnado's website.

As long as a child is fed, clothed, warm, loved, hugged, stimulated and around a responsible adult who is not drugged or drunk, then it is not neglect.

This child is watching telly whilst his mum catches up on some sleep. He's not neglected. He knows where to get her.

I could convince DS to sleep longer in the morning, but that is at the expense of bedtime that night!
Also, I'll need to get up at 5.30 / 6 for work, thought that was fairly typical

i did say it wasn't neglect - just sad and it just doesnt seem right to me - but thats just my opinion

Hai do you think you might be being 'a lazy bitch' or does someone else?

2hours watching tv alone at @5yo whilst you kip.aye that is lazy.why cant you get up with him.or doze on sofa in same room

we all get up at 6
work/nursery 8

my children are all early risers and when not at work i get up with them.too wee to be left alone watching goggle box

it isnt neglect, is slothful though

True StealthPB, my DD2 slept till 6:45 the other morning and we were all late for work/nursery!

Still, a lie in at the weekend wouldn't go amiss >>daydreams of sleep

"I don't think it is neglect as such..but do think that is isn't nice "

Not neglect , AS SUCH. Err no. I don't think its neglect at all. not by any stretch of the imagination.
If it was there would be plenty of people, both on MN and in RL, who were being negelectful.

Its not neglect as such, but 2 hrs every morning is quite lonley.
cant you get up with him some mornings?
8am is a lie IMHO, maybe you need to go to bed earlier?

oh i do like a bit of sloth, scottish.
mind you if it is every day, then maybe its mum who needs to go to bed earlier.

bubba and ob- I have 2 DCs. If a 6am start works for you, fine. It isn't ideal in the OP's situation as it means the lo has 2 hours on his tod each morning.

I'd crash the car with sleep deprivation if I had to get up at 6am so I've done what I suggested and either have a later bedtime or make sure they're well worn out and sleepy.

dropdead, when i had a diabetic hypo, i used to put ds1 infront of the tv ALL DAY. i haven't needed to do this to ds2 beacuse i haven't had such a bad hypo for the last 2 years, but ......
I LOVE SLOTH
ds1 loves it too. thinks its fab. once he even asked me if i was planning on having any hypo's soon

not sure why you need to ask this-it reads dreadfully.unlikely anyone going to rock up and say aye great idea

does he get a snack/breakfast/drink before you jump back in kip

Oblomov - you are entitled to your opinion and so am I.
It is hard to make a decision on whether this is neglectful in any way as we do not know the child nor his reaction to being left in front of the tv alone whilst his mummy goes back to bed.

We also don't know whether he thinks that waking mummy up would be an option if he just wanted to chat or was bored of being alone - it's no just in emergencies that a child needs a parent's company is it?