For thinking it's such a strange thing when somebody dies

[ApocalypseCheese]

And they just arent there anymore

Not unreasonable at all. It's so strange, and having to grasp that, actually they aren't coming back

My lovely Mum died 14yrs ago today, and not one fecker remembered except me. Very

Hope you're ok ApocalypseCheese xx

Very very strange. My dad died nearly a year ago and for the first few weeks afterwards I just couldn't imagine a world that he wasn't in anymore. It was like trying to imagine the world without the colour red or something - so that life still went on and the world carried on functioning, but it wasn't the same world at all.

Hope you're OK too.

yes it's very weird

Dh and I have just been talking about this - you see reminders in the strangest places or something triggers off the memory and you feel that you could almost reach out and touch the person or give your soul to have them back...

Agreed. V weird. It shocks me when I see photos of my Dad holding my son (now 10 months)as he died so quickly from the bastard cancer, and he's just not here anymore.
Sorry about everyone else's mums and dads.

Oh yes, very strange. My Dad died last year, and it was awful that life was going on an he would never know about things that were happenning.

I remember thinking but where did he go?

It's like they just eveporate. It's too big to even try and get your head around.

Sometimes I can see him so vividly, I find that comforting.

when my nana died, she'd been in a home for about a year, i didnt see her often due to distance and lack of transport. bad alzheimers so she had basically gone already iyswim. but i still notice she's gone.

was listening to the radio the other day and "somewhere over the rainbow" started playing. started crying for no reason (i thought) until i realised that was the song i picked for her funeral.

still miss her. hope you're ok.

I still hope to get a Christmas or Birthday card from my Nan even though she's been dead three years now...always makes me melancholy. She was the only family member who used to remember us.

Are you OK cheese?

yes. when you think 'oh i'll just ask..' but you can't ask them cos they aren't here anymore.

It is. Very odd indeed. my uncle died on Thursday and it is strange because, as he was in a home and ill, I hadn't seen him for ages but thought of him often and now he's not there.

For what it's worth, my father died when I had just turned two.

By all accounts he was a lovely, decent man who would have done anything for his family.

I would give the universe to have a single memory of him

I'm really sorry about your losses, and I hope the ache will ease.

It isn't always true that you cannot miss what you have never had.

Then you wish you had taken more notice of things they told you when they were alive. My Mum died suddenly and I so wish I could ask her stuff now -

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It's strange to never hear them again. And there's always that fight against losing the memory of that voice, or their face.

It's sad that even 10 years on (God, 10 years, where did it go?) I still think, perhaps once a year, "ooo, I'll tell Dad that".

Yes, it is very strange to think they were here one minute and the next they're gone - but if they're not here, where are they?

It's been 14 years since my mum died and I've come to terms with it now, but my dad passed away only months ago and I can't seem to get my head round it. I think of things I must tell him, then I remember again that he's not around to tell. How sad it is.

And you think you see them. When my brother died 5 years ago, I thought I 'saw' him everywhere. Now I don't but if I see someone that looks remotely like him, I stop and stare. And I find it strange that in some ways, I still want to be in the pain I am about him going, as that's sort of all I have left that's real.

Sorry not making much sense, been on my mind alot this week for some reason

Its so strange. I keep thinking "Oh, I'll just pop over and see... Oh wait, I can't..." - its horrible.

Hope you're okay.

It's a horrible feeling isn't it? knowing that you've got the rest of your life to live without seeing them again and it seems like such a long time.

I hope you're ok.

somehow i find it less strange thinking about losing my mum. i can't remember her voice or anything other than visiting her in hospital. but i never knew her, so as a person there isn't anything to miss. what i really find odd though is that if i died in the next couple of years or so, dd wouldn't remember my voice, even though i'm with her almost 24/7.

sorry

Oh Sassy you poor thing, losing my gran was hard, but she wanted to go, she was 88 and had led a full and very colourful life.

Losing a child, however, that must eat into your very soul.

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I am struggling with this, i like to think im an intelligent person and im very logical but my brain just connot process the thought that i spoke to my Mum and literally hours later she was dead and i am NEVER going to hug her or speak to her or see her again...... it is sooooo simple yet so not..

The silly thing is that even though im a grown woman, im 23 years old and she was always there, no matter what, where or when she was there making things right and complete and now she isnt and i never thought there would be a time when she wasnt around.
I do feel lost, like a little kid. One more hug would be magical for me.

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