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Calling Time on Wine - 100 Day Reset | Thread 2: One Day at a Time - Together

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therockingbird · 22/01/2026 19:49

Welcome to Thread 2 of Calling Time on Wine 100 Day Reset 🍵

If you’re here, you’re doing something genuinely brilliant. This reset isn’t about perfection, shiny lives, or pretending it’s easy. It’s about choosing ourselves one day at a time, even when life keeps lobbing chaos our way.

We’ve already proven we can sit with hard evenings, bad days, stress, boredom, celebrations, and still not reach for wine.

Thread 2 is about keeping the momentum going, supporting each other, being honest when it’s tough, celebrating the wins and remembering why we started when motivation wobbles. Clearer heads. Stronger bodies. 💪

So pull up a chair, grab your tea, water, or AF alternative, and keep going. You are not doing this alone - and you are doing so well. 💛

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SwiftyFifty · 24/01/2026 21:05

HOW TO BEAT SUGAR ADDICTION AFTER DRY JANUARY

If you swapped your evening glass of wine for a packet of biscuits, you are not alone in facing Sugar addiction after dry january.

Q: WHY AM I CRAVING SUGAR SO BADLY AFTER GIVING UP ALCOHOL?

A: This is not a failure of willpower; it is basic biology. When you drink alcohol, particularly wine, beer, or cider, you are consuming liquid sugar. More importantly, alcohol triggers a massive release of dopamine in the brain's reward centre. Over time, your brain relies on this external chemical hook to feel relaxed or happy.

When you remove the alcohol for Dry January, the dopamine tap is turned off abruptly. Your brain enters a state of panic. It starts scanning the environment for the quickest, easiest way to replicate that dopamine hit. Sugar acts on the same neural pathways as alcohol. It provides an immediate spike in blood glucose and a rush of dopamine. Essentially, you have not necessarily broken the addiction cycle; you have simply transferred it from the pub to the sweet shop. This is often called transfer addiction.

Furthermore, alcohol messes with your blood sugar regulation. When you stop drinking, your body's insulin sensitivity shifts. If you are feeling flat, irritable, or anxious, your brain interprets this as an energy crisis and demands high-calorie, quick-energy foods. That is why the cravings are for chocolate and sweets, not broccoli.

Q: DID I RUIN THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF DRY JANUARY BY EATING TOO MUCH SUGAR?

A: This is the most common fear, but the short answer is no, you did not ruin everything. You gave your liver a vital month off. You reduced the systemic inflammation caused by ethanol. You likely improved your sleep quality and hydration levels. These are massive wins that a few packets of sweets cannot erase entirely.

However, replacing alcohol addiction with Sugar addiction after dry january does blunt the potential benefits. If you replaced 500 calories of lager with 500 calories of cake, your weight might not have budged, and your insulin levels might still be high.

The danger lies in the long-term habit. Alcohol is a toxin. Sugar is a metabolic stressor. While sugar is arguably less immediately destructive to your liver than heavy drinking, chronic high sugar intake leads to fatty liver disease, type 2 diabetes, and metabolic syndrome. The goal now is to recognise that the sugar was a crutch to get you through the month. It served a purpose. It helped you stay sober. Now that the initial alcohol withdrawal is over, the crutch needs to go before it becomes a permanent limp. Do not beat yourself up. Acknowledge the swap, and prepare to tackle the sugar now.

Q: HOW DO I STOP THE CRAVINGS NOW THAT FEBRUARY IS HERE?

A: You cannot just white-knuckle your way through sugar cravings any more than you could with alcohol. You need a physiological strategy to stabilise your blood glucose. When your blood sugar is stable, the screaming demands from your brain will quiet down to a whisper.

First, prioritise protein at every single meal, especially breakfast. A traditional British breakfast of toast or cereal sets you up for a glucose spike and a mid-morning crash, which leads straight to the biscuit tin. Switch to eggs, yoghurt, or fish. Protein satiates you and slows down the absorption of glucose.

Second, increase your intake of bitter foods. Rocket, kale, chicory, and dark chocolate (85 percent cocoa or higher). Bitter tastes stimulate the liver and reduce the desire for sweet flavours. It resets the palate.

Third, look at your hydration. We often confuse thirst for hunger or cravings. When the urge to eat sugar hits, drink a large glass of water or herbal tea first. Wait twenty minutes. Usually, the urge passes.

Finally, supplement wisely. Alcohol depletes the body of magnesium and B vitamins. A deficiency in magnesium often manifests as intense chocolate cravings. Taking a high-quality magnesium glycinate supplement in the evening can help reduce these cravings and improve the sleep issues that might be driving you to seek energy from sugar during the day.

Q: WILL THESE CRAVINGS LAST FOREVER OR AM I STUCK WITH A SWEET TOOTH?

A: You are not stuck. Neuroplasticity is real. Just as your brain learned to expect alcohol at 6pm, and then learned to expect sugar at 6pm, it can learn to expect nothing but a balanced meal.

The intensity of Sugar addiction after dry january usually peaks within the first few weeks of sobriety and then tapers off, provided you do not keep feeding the beast. If you continue to satisfy the craving every time it appears, you reinforce the neural pathway. If you resist it and feed your body proper nutrients instead, that pathway weakens.

Typically, it takes about ten to fourteen days of strict low-sugar eating to break the physical addiction cycle. The psychological habit might take longer, but the physical clawing sensation in your stomach will vanish.

You must be patient. You have spent years, perhaps decades, conditioning your body to run on a fuel mix of ethanol and sugar. It will not reset overnight. Treat the sugar detox with the same seriousness you treated the alcohol detox. Plan your meals. Clear the house of temptations. The freedom you felt from quitting alcohol is available here too. You just have to push through the temporary discomfort of saying no to the sweets.

Q: IS IT BETTER TO GO COLD TURKEY ON SUGAR OR TAPER OFF?

A: For most people dealing with an addictive response, moderation is torture. If one biscuit leads to the whole packet, you are an abstainer, not a moderator.

When dealing with Sugar addiction after dry january, the cold turkey approach is often more effective because it cuts the dopamine loop. If you try to just eat a little bit less, you keep the craving alive. You spend all day thinking about that one allowed treat. It occupies too much mental space.

By cutting out added refined sugars completely for two weeks, you allow your taste buds to reset. Suddenly, an apple tastes incredibly sweet. A carrot tastes sweet. You regain sensitivity to natural flavours.

If you choose the cold turkey route, ensure you are eating enough healthy fats. Avocado, olive oil, nuts, and oily fish. Your brain is largely made of fat and needs it for repair. When you remove the quick energy of sugar, you must replace it with the slow-burn energy of fat, or you will feel exhausted and relapse.

Summary: You have done the hard part by ditching the drink. Do not let the sugar trap keep you stuck in a cycle of highs and lows. Your body is asking for stability, nutrients, and repair, not a sugar rush.

88expertprocastinator · 24/01/2026 22:40

Just popped on here to cheer you all on!

ijoined a similar thread last year and here I am - just celebrated a year af.

i drank every night - at least half a bottle of wine and more like a bottle at weekends. One day at a time has worked for me - every morning I commit to not drinking for that day.

i struggled with the idea of moderating so I read every single thread on here - it’s virtually impossible to moderate is my conclusion (assuming you were a problem drinker before).

my DH is still drinking - it drives me crazy and is definitely difficult to manage. He’s currently doing dry january (which has been great) but drank last night which wasn’t. He drinks at levels similar to the amount I was drinking but I see him struggling every week trying to cut down - looks exhausting.

i have now lost 28lbs (from 10stone to 8) but that took 7 months and I lost nothing in the first month! I am thankful EVERY day that I no longer drink!

my blood pressure has dropped and my resting heart rate dropped 10bpm after a month.

sugar addiction is real and a constant struggle (and I ate virtually nothing sweet for 30 years).

a very long way of sharing my experiences and hopefully giving you some support in your journey to 100 days sober.

SwiftyFifty · 24/01/2026 22:55

@88expertprocastinator Thanks for sharing! And I agree unfortunately I don’t think moderation is for everyone. Certainly not me. You have done fantastically- whst was the hardest thing for you? Well done in the weight loss too. I’ve been giving myself free rein whilst not drinking but I need to now cut back in the sugar a good bit but didn’t want to do it too soon. One day at a time ( sweet Jesus) is a great idea and less daunting than “ forever” or even the 109 days. I’m actually not really thinking of the end point just going along with the assumption I’m doing the 100 anyway.
Well done in your massive achievement - I hope I’m popping on next year to do the same!

ThisIsMyBurnerPhone · 25/01/2026 05:40

Thank you @SwiftyFifty Ive definitely mainlined sugar and my diet has been shit (Belgian bun for breakfast, chocolate muffin for lunch). I’m going to have eggs and fish for breakfast and set myself up well for success.

needastrongoneagain · 25/01/2026 07:46

Morning.

Thank you again for the kindness re my glass of wine on Friday night. Needless to say, I slept like a log last night - fully restorative sleep, wonderful. There’s a lesson there.

I’ve been thinking about social situations where we think we have a better time when we are all half cut, because basically that’s what we are saying about being tipsy and having a giggle. Given alcohol is a drug, it’s a bit weird isn’t it because we wouldn’t say that about any other addictive substance. But we do about booze, it’s so ingrained in our thinking/accepted as a society. I’m glad we are all trying to see past the substance itself and what it is about the situation we enjoy.

I also think it’s brilliant that we are all thinking so carefully and mindfully about why and how we drink. I’m certain that’s a healing process in of itself and our relationship with drinking, whether that’s occasional drinking, a temporary break or full abstinence.

After Friday, I’m not really sure even drinking one glass serves me all that well. It gave me nothing. Zilch. It didn’t add anything, it detracted. But that’s definitely another lesson in of itself to remind me when the next time arises, which it will, to make a different choice.

Anyway, it’s pissing down with rain here, same as last week, just because it’s long run day 🤣

2026x · 25/01/2026 08:13

I drank last night 😭🤬😭🤬. I had a shit day and I just thought fuck it, life is crap and a drink is literally the only good thing available to me. All very dramatic, obviously 🙄 also clearly not true, plenty of people have worse lots in life than me and mange not to hit the bottle. Anyway, I need to not let this be my cue to return to old ways.

SwiftyFifty · 25/01/2026 08:14

Never mind - how much? Did you enjoy it at the time? Hangover etc. did you thrash and sweat all night and wake up at three cursing yourself? Or was it not thst dramatic?

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2026x · 25/01/2026 09:44

@SwiftyFiftynot dramatic. A couple of large g&t’s, slept ok and didn’t wake up with a hangover. Slightly disappointed as this is exactly the type of drinking I need to avoid. A couple of drinks in a pub with mates occasionally is fine in my book but drinking to cope with life is really not ok.

SwiftyFifty · 25/01/2026 09:48

@2026xone blip in almost a month. As other poster said , pls don’t beat yourself up. Count your overall units for the month so far…, pretty impressive right??

freshstart2026 · 25/01/2026 10:20

Morning everyone. Day 25 here - can’t believe we’re a quarter of the way through! (I know that’s DJ type thinking but can’t quite help myself when it’s such a milestone, lol).

Don’t worry @2026x - as Swifty says, look at the bigger picture and how low your units are compared to December. Get back on the wagon today and maybe add an extra day to the end of the 100 days if that will make you feel better?

After Friday, I’m not really sure even drinking one glass serves me all that well. It gave me nothing. Zilch. It didn’t add anything, it detracted. But that’s definitely another lesson in of itself to remind me when the next time arises, which it will, to make a different choice.

@needastrongoneagain this is so interesting. Perhaps we hype it up so much in our heads, then when you actually have a glass it’s a bit…meh?!

amibeingaknob · 25/01/2026 10:28

Day 30 here.
So went on the 50th. Didn't drink at all - I started getting socially anxious when getting ready (i usually have a glass to calm the nerves), it wasn't fun. Then when I arrived that first half hour was awful, I felt so anxious. But I didn't cave, I sat with that feeling. Then what I noticed is everyone else got more relaxed (becxause the booze was flowing and kicking in) and half hour later as everyone was relaxed and being silly, I just relaxed and was silly. It was a fantastic night. I actually enjoyed it more than I have nights out in a long time. I had some great deep chats that I wouldn't have had otherwise, some quite serious ones. Drunk me would have just been having too much of a laugh to do that otherwise. I did find I got more tired earlier on and was ready to go home by 10 - we stayed til 12 so I had to push past the tiredness. Drunk me happily pushes through to the early hours and doesnt want to leave. I was worried about not being 'fun' but I found that I had the same racy humour and was as loud as I usually am - but I did have the capacity for deeper convos which was totally awesome.

What I am most annoyed about though was I woke up with a thumping head at 4am and it hasn't left. I have no idea what thats about - I have been having a lot of headaches this past month and I cant work out why. But yeh I wish I could have woken up all refreshed and feeling smug but no such luck.

But overall, a fab night, and it was only enhanced by not drinking so Im stoked. First social out the way and a great success.

GreenCherries · 25/01/2026 11:15

Day 30 is such a great milestone, @amibeingaknob! Great that you had such a positive night out too!

Glad you aren’t feeling awful today @2026x. Do you plan to crack back on AF?

EnjoythemoneyJane · 25/01/2026 11:41

Morning all!

Well done @amibeingaknob! I also had my first AF big night out last weekend and ended up feeling v tired with a banging headache, which feels grossly unfair but I guess is just a phase some of us will pass through?

Don’t beat yourself up, @2026x. @needastrongoneagain’s post is really interesting. We’re all trying to recalibrate, and part of that process is about introspection and really getting to grips with the why, how, when and where of our drinking. Confronting uncomfortable feelings and asking ourselves difficult questions. Having a couple of gins and then reflecting on it is just another way of moving the process along, and giving yourself the opportunity of analysing the motivations, pros and cons from the cold-eyed basis of a few week’s abstinence. Every day’s a school day!

Off to the gym to continue unsuccessfully tackling the Christmas podge (apparently my body still hasn’t got the bloody memo that we’re AF and Healthy now so should be whipping into shape instantaneously like a racing snake, rather than resembling a sausage skin full of sofa cushions 😭).

Happy Sunday everyone.

needastrongoneagain · 25/01/2026 12:24

Well done @amibeingaknob, that’s brilliant. You’ve actually made me remember that (because I am now designated driver all the time these days), I really do get some more meaningful conversations than I used to do when I was a glass or two or three in. Not that we socialise much these days due to life, but yes this is a real positive. Sorry about the headache though.

Hope the gym goes okay @EnjoythemoneyJane, I’m just in from a filthy 15 mile run with some faster pace sections thrown in, because my coach dislikes me (I surmise…..🤣).

Now then @2026x we can sit on the naughty step together and decide to continue drinking, or we can try to figure why we felt the need to drink, and put in some strategies for that not to happen next time. Let go for the latter 😊

It certainly felt ‘meh’ @freshstart2026, maybe because I didn’t find what I thought I was looking for (escape from a shit week).

freshstart2026 · 25/01/2026 12:58

I’m feeling good this morning. Life is busy as always but I feel more able to cope with it, even if I do still have a low-level current of anxiety in the background. Yesterday I spent the afternoon doing an activity the DC wanted and felt I was far more present, rather than just looking at my watch and counting down the minutes until I could have a drink. It was actually very enjoyable. Me and DH later watched a film together - I watched the whole thing rather than falling asleep on the sofa AND I could remember what happened the next day, which felt great.

I’m doing my second fasting day today on the 5:2 diet, so soup for lunch for me. Hoping for a good weekly weigh-in when I wake up tomorrow!

amibeingaknob · 25/01/2026 13:51

freshstart2026 I have anxiety too - alcohol definately makes it worse.
Glad you are feeling more present. I really felt that last night for sure.

Anyone getting recurrent headaches? Day 30 and they come and go but they are brutal. Im still nursing one now. Paracetamol isnt touching it.

chatgptsbestmate · 25/01/2026 14:25

amibeingaknob · 25/01/2026 13:51

freshstart2026 I have anxiety too - alcohol definately makes it worse.
Glad you are feeling more present. I really felt that last night for sure.

Anyone getting recurrent headaches? Day 30 and they come and go but they are brutal. Im still nursing one now. Paracetamol isnt touching it.

How much water do you drink? Might you be dehydrated?

2026x · 25/01/2026 16:50

@needastrongoneagain@EnjoythemoneyJane@GreenCherries@freshstart2026@SwiftyFifty

Thank you for being kind! I definitely need to / plan to get back on the wagon. I need a much bigger reset than 23 days (which is what I managed) - the way I drank yesterday (not the amount but the motivation) is clear evidence of that. Annoyingly I am far more tempted to drink tonight than I have been previously, which is to be expected, I will resist though. AF beer at the ready!

OnewaytoRio · 25/01/2026 17:26

Just checking in to the new thread. Every year previously I’ve done DJ and dreaded the end of it, as I love the lack of decision-making around whether to drink that night or not, yet every year I’ve gone back to drinking in Feb, telling myself I’d moderate from now on, and sure enough every year I’ve slipped back into my bad habits by April. Not this year! I’m actually excited having made the decision to continue with it this year.

anewyearthisyear · 25/01/2026 20:04

@2026x so glad you are still with us. You did 23 days which is fantastic. if you want try for another 23 that would be brilliant too.

BIL and SIL stayed with us last night. I made a really nice dinner and opened a bottle of wine for BIl (sil barely drinks - took a couple of sips from his glass - unfathomable to me :) ) and while I did feel how nice it would have been to have had a glass the reality is it would have been a bottle and I'd have woken up this morning feeling crap and worrying about what I said to everyone. If I concentrate on how I'll feel in the morning and try not to feel hungry or thirsty it is ok. I'm having a can of coke and a packet of hulahoops as I write this - the shame.

Notbwinetimeitsmyprimetime · 25/01/2026 20:26

@needastrongoneagain also did a long club run today in a hideous wind and freezing rain. And real treat. As an aside, what do you use to keep your phone dry on runs? Currently using a ziplock bag but it's faffy if I actually need to use it but a waterproof pouch for kayaking etc seems huge.
I did fleetingly think about rewarding myself with a glass of wine but crushed that thought much more easily than usual. Hopefully getting somewhere 🤞hope everyone has had a calm Sunday night without too much background noise from wine thoughts

therockingbird · 25/01/2026 21:47

Checking in! Apologies it’s been a busy weekend 😆 Day 26!! I can’t quite believe it. How we all doing? Scanning quickly through the thread I can see many have faced social situations AF! 👏 @2026x bump in the road, move on and learn from it - don’t make this trick you into thinking that you’ve failed. I seem to have no urge to drink despite my current challenges with no car and the ExH from hell. Let’s get another week under our belts - we’ve already done a 1/4 and that’s something to be proud of.

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19Laura88 · 25/01/2026 22:17

Hi I am new, hope its OK to post. I am in my late 30s, and have always had a few drinks when I go out on a weekend, but my main issue is drinking in the house which has steadily increased. I am up at 6 30 every day for work, I function fine but I have been getting through 4 bottles of wine a week. I have struggled to stop in the past, I feel like I have to have it every night and cant think about anything else. However a week ago I read a book about giving up which has helped, this time I want to stop my evening drinking. It has been a week and a half now, I havent had a drink in the house, and only a couple on night out. I am doing it for my health, I cant bury my head in the sand any more, I have also put on a stone over the last year, and I blame the extra 2500 calories I've been drinking. So far I am proud for staying dry, I am feeling healthier, happier, less irritable...I am really tired though! I am happy to have found a forum for support.

EnjoythemoneyJane · 25/01/2026 22:30

Welcome @19Laura88! This is a lovely supportive place. Everyone is here for similar reasons (though may have different end goals), and you can post whatever you want whenever you want - including wobbles, lapses, bad days, sad days and challenges. You’ll get lots of good advice and suggestions, and we’re all here to celebrate everyone’s wins as well, no matter how small.

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